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6 hours ago, Guest Hukam said:

Why would you even want to marry and make someone’s life a living hell in the first place? Life is NOT ONLY about marrying and producing dozens of coarse, ill-mannered buffoons.  Let’s face it, kids these days are totally immersed in maya and light years away from sikhi.  Stay single,  don’t even bother looking for anyone, and dedicate your life to Sikhi. Live your life according toi vaheguru’s bhana and see light in everyone.

There is light in everyone, don’t deny it.

These are your own thoughts bai ji, I respect your thoughts 

but I disagree ji.

thanks

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On 12/17/2018 at 11:15 AM, Guest ChangingMindset said:

 

Whether its peoples immaturity in terms of; they are still transitioning from child to adult but most guys refer to women as girls. 

Don't be a gora. It's common for Punjabis to refer to male matches as "boys" and female matches as "girls". 

Your prefrontal cortex is not even fully developed until age 25.

Traditional cultures intuitively know that. Westerners don't know it until they have a 100 scientific studies.

The fact is that both boys and girls need the guidance of their parents or in-laws in the time after marriage.

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On 12/18/2018 at 5:46 PM, GuestSingh said:
On 12/17/2018 at 11:15 AM, Guest ChangingMindset said:

Your marrying a woman, who is going to become centre of your life

woah..these are dangerous words bro - theres a reason why genuine amritdhari couples revolve themselves around guruji, not each other, four times during anand karaj..

a lot of apne, amritdhari or not, still think like this and end up being controlled and manipulated for the rest of their married lives - might as well see themselves as a little dog on a leash.. imo a so called 'singh' can be tamed by their so called 'kaur'..in good times and bad..but they should never be controlled by them.

There's a funny story in the Sau Sakhi where Guru Gobind Singh ji asks some Sikh where his Sikhni is, and then he asks the woman where her Sikh is. Thereby demonstrating that the man is a Sikh (follower) of the woman. And vice versa.

So, point taken.

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On 12/19/2018 at 12:18 PM, Guest Hukam said:

Why would you even want to marry and make someone’s life a living hell in the first place?

Where did you get that he wants to make someone's life a living hell? He specifically wants a compatible, Amritdhari girl in order not to make her life a hell.

He could just marry some random non-Amritdhari girl, he could marry a girl from Canada, but, no, he's trying to get a compatible girl.

What's wrong with that?

On 12/19/2018 at 12:18 PM, Guest Hukam said:

Life is NOT ONLY about marrying and producing dozens of coarse, ill-mannered buffoons.

Wow, what's wrong with you?

Leave out the "dozens" and insulting phrasing rephrase as:

"Life is not only about producing children"

Wrong.

That's ALL life is about. That's the reason you're here today.

The reason the West's population is decreasing is because they've forgotten that. 

So horrible that Sikhs are aping Westerners in this regard.

I do agree that you should dedicate your life to Sikhism, but our religion explicitly is a religion for householders and does not encourage celibacy.

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As an Amritdhari woman, I found it difficult to take the first step into Sikhi by keeping my kesh and changing my rehat just because I wanted people to accept me. I feel like times are changing and there are fewer and fewer women that are wanting to take Amrit due to the fact that society has changed the standards of how a woman should live. Music videos, social media and schools are teaching kids to be a certain way and it's becoming difficult. 

I hope you find your life partner. Stick to Sikhi and rehat, and let Guru Ji handle the rest.

Good luck!

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I think when your into sikhi then everyone faces this kinda dilemma.  everyone is now banging on about me getting married  parents, relatives, random punjabis from the area lol    every day  I get asked when I'm gonna get married.  Got Sukhmani sahib paat at cousins house in Wolverhampton nxt week and I can already hear everyone asking me

Thing is when your kesdhari sikh but not amritdhari then who are you supposed to marry! ?    

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SSA ji I am from Jalandhar Punjab I am also facing same problem for my girl since last 2 years she is amritdhari and tieing keski so it's very difficult for us to find suitable match for her. Sometimes our relatives suggest her  not to tie the keski but she always refuses and said j waheguru g ne sanyog likhe ta hoju par main keski nai vadani. 

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On 10/11/2019 at 3:36 PM, puzzled said:

I think when your into sikhi then everyone faces this kinda dilemma.  everyone is now banging on about me getting married  parents, relatives, random punjabis from the area lol    every day  I get asked when I'm gonna get married.  Got Sukhmani sahib paat at cousins house in Wolverhampton nxt week and I can already hear everyone asking me

Thing is when your kesdhari sikh but not amritdhari then who are you supposed to marry! ?    

Panjabis. Or girls from sikh families where the grandparents are amritdhari but their kids and grandkids are not. 

You can also marry amridhari girls. If you promise to take amrit soon. 

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On 12/9/2018 at 2:19 PM, TinnkerBell said:

I am 29 and my family is finding an amritdhari girl for me.As all my family members and relatives are non Amritdharis so we hardly know anyone in gursikhi line. we tried giving ads in newspapers almost 10-15 times. We got almost 60+ responses each time I put matrimonial ad, out of which 98 percent phone calls are those who are not amritdharis. Since I always expected an amritdhari and nitnemi girl as my life partner so I only consider those who are blessed with amrit and the remaining 2-3 percent matches are those who don’t have good education or lacking in height. As a result, after 5 months of continue search- I didn’t find any good rishta. Now my parents are suggesting me to marry a girl who is willing to take amrit, or marry a girl who is vegetarian and slowly she will take amrit and become gursikh      (it doesn’t seems fair to me- I don’t want to force anyone to take amrit and I don’t want Amrit as an agreement for my marriage, I don’t want to marry a nonAmritdhari and than influence her to come to gursikhi, its not right, right?).

On the contrary, some amritdhari matches weren’t interested in me because they want  my all family to be Amritdhari ( None of my family members are gursikh except mom)

Apart from newspaper, I tried shaadi.com, akj.org, bharatmatrimonial.com, jeevansathi.com, and some other matrimonial websites as well. I went to Canada about 7 yrs ago and settled there, Since I spent my childhood and adulthood in Punjab, therefore my mentality,nature, reasoning, thinking and behaviour is developed in a complete different way than CanadianBorns girls. So I don’t want to marry Canadian/US/UK borns girls either.

I am a little disappointed with not finding any suitable match for me and equally  worried for our next generations. Its 2018-it will be hard to find gursikh rishte in next 15-20 years.

☹️

how pakka are you in your rehit, how regularly do you practise shastar?

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On 11/16/2019 at 9:40 AM, Guest SSA ji said:

SSA ji I am from Jalandhar Punjab I am also facing same problem for my girl since last 2 years she is amritdhari and tieing keski so it's very difficult for us to find suitable match for her. Sometimes our relatives suggest her  not to tie the keski but she always refuses and said j waheguru g ne sanyog likhe ta hoju par main keski nai vadani. 

seriously?  i have seen women with keski from panjab who are married.  try AKJ matrimonial like Ajit suggested above.

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On 10/11/2019 at 11:36 PM, puzzled said:

I think when your into sikhi then everyone faces this kinda dilemma.  everyone is now banging on about me getting married  parents, relatives, random punjabis from the area lol    every day  I get asked when I'm gonna get married.  Got Sukhmani sahib paat at cousins house in Wolverhampton nxt week and I can already hear everyone asking me

Thing is when your kesdhari sikh but not amritdhari then who are you supposed to marry! ?    

you can marry regular sikh girls (non amritdhari).

alot of girls comes from families where the men are all keshdharis but not amritdharis, and marry the same.  i have seem it (where both were UK born).  if you look at Gurdwara matrimonial listings, they males list if they are turban wearing or not, so the women  can chose as their preference.

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Well, I agree it's getting difficult for me as a girl to find a Amritdhari, professional guy too....

I think we need to bring together Gursikhs for matrimonial purpose through a good site well connected to wide network. Shaadi.com definitely can't do justice to that.....

These days even clean shaved guys call themselves Gursikhs on shaadi.com disgusting.....alas we don't have a suitable platform. 

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