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Would you marry someone whose not virgin?


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23 hours ago, puzzled said:

Talking of kaami stuff today it has been 2 weeks and 3 days of NoFap for me. Couple months back I made it to 2 weeks and 3 days as well so this the longest i been without doing it haha!

I really wanna stop doing it, it's a wrong habit, gonna see if I can completely stop lol 

2 weeks and 4 days!! Beat my previously held "record "    haha! 

I think I can permanently stop now if I continue my focus 

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2 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

A woman made a widow through an unfortunate quirk of fate is the same as a party animal trying to paper over the bad decisions of her past by ensnaring a gullible young Singh; usually without a hint of contrition? Nah, I'm not buying it. That's a false equivalence.

I wasn't saying a characterless tramp is the same , however the blanket statements against non-virgins from some peeps here was fairly nasty and didn't take those cases into account, I mean would you look over the grooming threads for examples of writing off many girls who have been geniunely groomed and habituated into stockholm syndrome mentality as the same as those who are frankly walking trashcans/conveniences for any tom <banned word filter activated> or harry. Since when are guys who openly boasted about being approached by grown women such paragons to throw out such blanket judgements about girls and women?

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3 hours ago, puzzled said:

marrying a widow or rape victim is such a good thing to do,  nothing better than giving someone life back again and making them smile again.  Men who do that are good men. 

I've only known ONE sikh who has ever done that. He's a member on here but fellow members like to have a go at him for his username.  It's @JUSTAJATT  .  

He has mentioned this on the forum somewhere but basically Justajatt knew of a girl that was raped by grooming sullay gang. He sorted some of the muslay out and beat one so bad that he was in coma. However, he ended up in trouble for his actions and was subsequently locked up. After doing his time, he and his wife(the girl that was raped), took amrit and are both very spiritually dedicated.    

This guy took a lot of stick before he was sent away because the girl that was raped was pregnant and he felt obliged to shield and honor her properly.  Against families wishes, they married and the child was born.  Family was against it because of situation ie. marrying a woman that will soon be give birth as a result of rape AND this girl was a different caste. It's ironic he calls himself "justajatt"  and gets accused for being casteist, but his wife is from the chamaar caste.  He's giving everyone the middle finger and they don't even know it!

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10 hours ago, puzzled said:

marrying a widow or rape victim is such a good thing to do,  nothing better than giving someone life back again and making them smile again.  Men who do that are good men. 

I was thinking about this. is it seva? someone told me it was good seva to marry a freshy from india, and give them a good life here in the uk, and teach them English and stuff. idk tho

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18 hours ago, Guest friend said:

 

I've only known ONE sikh who has ever done that. He's a member on here but fellow members like to have a go at him for his username.  It's @JUSTAJATT  .  

He has mentioned this on the forum somewhere but basically Justajatt knew of a girl that was raped by grooming sullay gang. He sorted some of the muslay out and beat one so bad that he was in coma. However, he ended up in trouble for his actions and was subsequently locked up. After doing his time, he and his wife(the girl that was raped), took amrit and are both very spiritually dedicated.    

This guy took a lot of stick before he was sent away because the girl that was raped was pregnant and he felt obliged to shield and honor her properly.  Against families wishes, they married and the child was born.  Family was against it because of situation ie. marrying a woman that will soon be give birth as a result of rape AND this girl was a different caste. It's ironic he calls himself "justajatt"  and gets accused for being casteist, but his wife is from the chamaar caste.  He's giving everyone the middle finger and they don't even know it!

respect to him for doing such an amazing thing and giving the child a name.

Not many men can do what he did ... 

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11 hours ago, mahandulai said:

I was thinking about this. is it seva? someone told me it was good seva to marry a freshy from india, and give them a good life here in the uk, and teach them English and stuff. idk tho

Don't know about marrying someone from India but in indian culture there is a social stigma against divorced women and raped women, many Punjabi men will not marry these women and their parents deffinetley won't be happy. So marrying these women (if they want to) and giving them their life back again, giving them support and making them smile again is a great thing to do which not many men from our community would do. 

 

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42 minutes ago, puzzled said:

Don't know about marrying someone from India but in indian culture there is a social stigma against divorced women and raped women, many Punjabi men will not marry these women and their parents deffinetley won't be happy. So marrying these women (if they want to) and giving them their life back again, giving them support and making them smile again is a great thing to do which not many men from our community would do. 

 

The reality is that women are seen as depreciating asset once their virginity is gone.

They will be seen as damaged goods. 

This isn't necessarily a cultural thing, this is something rooted in biology. 

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55 minutes ago, puzzled said:

Don't know about marrying someone from India but in indian culture there is a social stigma against divorced women and raped women, many Punjabi men will not marry these women and their parents deffinetley won't be happy. So marrying these women (if they want to) and giving them their life back again, giving them support and making them smile again is a great thing to do which not many men from our community would do. 

And yet Punjabi men rarely object to a divorced white woman, lol. That's some double standard.

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