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I am a 20 yr old girl in US with a amritdhaari family who is very religious and respected. I fell in love with a guy who is mona, eat meat and drinks. I was never as religious as my parents but do value being a vegetarian and sikhi values. We were together for a year and half and Bc I thought I was going to spend my whole life with him we were intimate. I got pregnant and we went to many doctors appointments Bc we were going to have twins. I misscarried one baby and the other we had an abortion Bc my parents hated him and I never wanted to be a disgrace for my family. My parents explained to me so much to leave him but I can’t. I didn’t tell them anything about the pregnancy Bc I’m unsure of their reaction and how they will lose the little respect they have for me. I’m lying to them again that I’m not talking to him when I am. I don’t want to chose between my family and my boyfriend, who I was going to have babies with. I feel so guilty and depressed everyday I hate myself and think I should’ve kept the baby no matter what. I have no guidance or advice Bc I’m ashamed of my actions and can’t tell anyone. 

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and I will just bang my head against the wall again. What a [MOD DELETED] mess these youngsters are....can't the [ ] parents teach them the real values of right and wrong?

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Guest Khalsa Raj

By the sounds of it you've chosen your bf over your family already. Your bad karams mean you have not learned from your amritdhari parvaar and have gone against everything Sikhi teaches. What help are you after now this far into a car crash of a life. Why are you ashamed you made conscious decisions, he didn't force anything upon you. Either the parents didn't try hard enough to instil Sikhi values without shoving them down your throat or you're simply a rebellious spoilt brat who has no concern of the parents wellbeing, won't be the first certainly not the last.

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On 1/24/2019 at 2:30 PM, Guest Kaur said:

 I’m ashamed of my actions and can’t tell anyone. 

......apart from the 7.53 billion that you've just told now by broadcasting it to the entire world. But, it's an easy mistake to make. I mean 2 people on one hand and 7.53 billion in the other. The numbers are so similar it's easy to confuse the two.

 

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I am wondering your parents are so nice who are still talking to you. Being in US doesn’t mean modern and western like the way you are.

Hark Kaur. Jasmine Sandlas, the bombshell bandit to name but three. It's a real phenonema. If you look at the Punjabi diaspora around the world you will notice that the 3rd and 4th generation western born are relatively traditional but the new 1st and 2nd generation lot are not very good at balancing east and west primarily because they don't understand the blood, sweat and tears that it took to establish the diaspora. 

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19 hours ago, Guest Khalsa Raj said:

By the sounds of it you've chosen your bf over your family already. Your bad karams mean you have not learned from your amritdhari parvaar and have gone against everything Sikhi teaches. What help are you after now this far into a car crash of a life. Why are you ashamed you made conscious decisions, he didn't force anything upon you. Either the parents didn't try hard enough to instil Sikhi values without shoving them down your throat or you're simply a rebellious spoilt brat who has no concern of the parents wellbeing, won't be the first certainly not the last.

is your BF okay with your religious values ?

 

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You were lucky enough to be raised by a family, that too amritdhari gursikh.

yet you chose to do what you did.

people like you are the problem. Simple as. 

Looks like Bollywood lifestyle didn’t work out for you.

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