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Would you be ok with your sister or daughter marrying a black or white Sikh?


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Maybe I have a different take on this stuff because my mom is white, but I personally don't have an issue with it. 
I don't have any children, as I'm a bit too young for that now, but if I were to I wouldn't care so much if they married someone who wasn't a Jat or otherwise Punjabi. I would be more concerned with their hypothetical spouses faith/morals. I say faith/morals, because well... the faith aspect is obvious. I would GREATLY prefer they marry a Sikh, even if they were non-practicing. That said, if it is a person of another faith, I would hope they would be of some high moral standing (ie: don't drink, don't do drugs, pray/meditate every day, kind, ect.). 
But as far as race is concerned, I really couldn't care less. I'm sure a good handful of peeps on here will find issue with what I've said, but lets just agree to disagree. This is just my personal opinion. 

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8 hours ago, vtheawesome said:

But as far as race is concerned, I really couldn't care less. I'm sure a good handful of peeps on here will find issue with what I've said, but lets just agree to disagree.

That's not exactly what @GuestSingh was talking about, mere skin color. He's talking more about heritage and culture. That a lot of white people (not all) are just looking for "the next new thing". And when they get tired of it, they'll either make your daughter's life hell, or divorce her.

And he doesn't want that.

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14 hours ago, Sukhvirk1976 said:

Why would I date my sister? 

Exactly. Thanks for your answer, by the way.

You wouldn't date your sister (and neither should anyone else).

And we're told to treat women other than your wife as sisters. 

Therefore, you wouldn't date anyone that you're not married to.

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9 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

This seems to be directed towards men in their relationship with women.

However, it does not provide context of how women should treat other women.

What?

Granted that this very tuk doesn't provide that context (of women treating other women). 

But why do you need a separate tuk for that? Just treat them normally (not as a sexual partner, of course).

Like a friend or sister.

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1 hour ago, BhForce said:

That's not exactly what @GuestSingh was talking about, mere skin color. He's talking more about heritage and culture. That a lot of white people (not all) are just looking for "the next new thing". And when they get tired of it, they'll either make your daughter's life hell, or divorce her.

And he doesn't want that.

thts ryt bro...pioneers of the 'fad' whos gonna see sikhi as 'cool' and 'mysterious' before moving onto something 'different'...

and despite all the faults of our own (of which there are countless), u still generally no wat ur gonna get since its 'tried n tested' - same language, similar heritage, resembling cultural values, closely-related life experiences especially in the west etc.

everyones gonna have their own opinion on this but imo the more 'rooted' a plant/tree in the aforementioned, the more 'secure' and 'gurmat' in its identity i.e. sikhi - just throw away the bad stuff but keep and nourish the rest....

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11 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

This seems to be directed towards men in their relationship with women.

However, it does not provide context of how women should treat other women.

Before we go any further you know this forum can be seen by any age group.  If you want women to treat another woman in some promiscuous way.   Keep that thought in your mind and only there.  

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1 hour ago, BhForce said:

What?

Granted that this very tuk doesn't provide that context (of women treating other women). 

But why do you need a separate tuk for that? Just treat them normally (not as a sexual partner, of course).

Like a friend or sister.

Hes very confused.   I think he wanted to write that on another forum.  He got confused and couldn't tell what forum he is on.

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2 hours ago, BhForce said:

What?

Granted that this very tuk doesn't provide that context (of women treating other women). 

But why do you need a separate tuk for that? Just treat them normally (not as a sexual partner, of course).

Like a friend or sister.

This tuk does seem to be viewed as something very much geared towards men.

Women don't treat each other like friends but aa competitors.

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