How did he lie? No one asks u if ur gay. I think even if a guy admitted to being gay, noone would disqualify them from marriage in india. Parents and inlaws would just expect u to suck up ur wants and fantasies and to manage ur feelings and live a virtous family life.
Girls have been married off for millenia without taking their wants into consideration. Marriage was their life occupation, there was no out to it. Now men too are bound to it, whether gay or not. Parents demand an heir esp if only son. My cousin wants to be behungum/ celibate baba but his parents wont hear of it.
Notcool2argue hit the nail on the head.
You think like a westerner in that you think in ideals.
The eastern way is one based in pragmatism.
An Anand Karaj to a western Sikh is based on ideals and means something more.
Anand Karaj to an Eastern Sikh is not necessarily based on an ideal and is more means to an end.
A woman's idea of marriage is based on practicality.
It is us men who are the idealists and romantics.
Ajeet's wife is moving more rural Punjab from an impoverished background to a middle class well to do family in a cosmopolitan city is a step up for her.
Women marry up. It's called hypergamy.
How can a foundation be built on a lie, this has nothing to do with homosexuality, if he is gay so what. The problem stems from the girl doesn't know, I don't know where it is written you can do anand karaj based on a lie. This guy went in front of Guru Granth Sahib ji and lied.
Dig out the relevant information please as I haven't read about them being punished as obviously Guru Pita ji was in war footing at the time, it sounds out of character because he didn't punish sikhs in dehli for denying their faith but expected them to take up a second commitment i.e. Second chance.