Well done brother for asking about this, it takes confidence to talk about this.
Kaam is required for god’s creation to flourish. Attraction between male & female = off-spring
Guru Nanak Ji gave a really simple & powerful teaching how to control the mind;
Look on others (women) good. View elders as mothers, equal age as sisters, youngers as daughters
Getting attached with kaam is indeed bad; he kaamang, narak bisraamang
~ oh kaam, you drag people (who get attached with you) to hell
It’s energy from base chakar called mhuladhara, it’s too powerful to fight. If energy builds up it needs to ‘be released’ - fine do it.
Exercise & sports will release built up energy too and good stress relief. Ultimately Naam Simran takes you beyond kaam pleasures.
Basically don’t get addicted to it, keep on praying, keep good sangat