Women in sikh youth

[Guest Aman k]

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Whilst going through college and university, I have noticed a huge divide in our Sikh youth. I've seen many young Sikh men either go full cultural or full Sikhi. Women on the other hand, I rarely see any that truly follow Sikhi. I know one woman, 21 now who is dating an amrit shuk man in his 20s. She got personal and told me that they've had intimate relations and that it only took 4 days of them speaking for her to give him that intimacy (intercourse.. ). 

And she really shows interest in Sikhi but didn't truly see how wrong this was. And for the man, he said he was forced to shuk amrit, so that's pretty bad in itself as he has had various gfs and other stuff whilst amritdhari. 

Now if this woman is someone who goes gurdwara every weekend and shows genuine interest in Sikhi but still does panga like this, I am losing faith in humanity. The rest of the sikh women that i have met in my life, 95% of them are fully cultural with a drinking, clubbing and sexual lifestyle. Smoking, getting many tattoo's etc. Why aren't women going towards sikhi? Many men that I've met, although there's a lot of messed ones out there, I've met quite a few that took deep steps towards guruji and sikhi. Can't say the same about women. What can be done as a Panth? A lot of women don't even care or have any respect if you point things out like them posting stuff like smoking weed but having a khanda in their bio. Etc.

[Guest Why]

On 7/22/2019 at 8:54 PM, Guest Aman k said:

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Whilst going through college and university, I have noticed a huge divide in our Sikh youth. I've seen many young Sikh men either go full cultural or full Sikhi. Women on the other hand, I rarely see any that truly follow Sikhi. I know one woman, 21 now who is dating an amrit shuk man in his 20s. She got personal and told me that they've had intimate relations and that it only took 4 days of them speaking for her to give him that intimacy (intercourse.. ). 

And she really shows interest in Sikhi but didn't truly see how wrong this was. And for the man, he said he was forced to shuk amrit, so that's pretty bad in itself as he has had various gfs and other stuff whilst amritdhari. 

Now if this woman is someone who goes gurdwara every weekend and shows genuine interest in Sikhi but still does panga like this, I am losing faith in humanity. The rest of the sikh women that i have met in my life, 95% of them are fully cultural with a drinking, clubbing and sexual lifestyle. Smoking, getting many tattoo's etc. Why aren't women going towards sikhi? Many men that I've met, although there's a lot of messed ones out there, I've met quite a few that took deep steps towards guruji and sikhi. Can't say the same about women. What can be done as a Panth? A lot of women don't even care or have any respect if you point things out like them posting stuff like smoking weed but having a khanda in their bio. Etc.

Why don't you just focus on your own spiritual path and get it right first before judging others. 

 

Just because someone is born into a family with certain beliefs, doesn't mean they have to take those beliefs up. That's what freedom of choice is. You have no control over others, only your own life. 

[Guest Aman K]

On 7/25/2019 at 7:37 AM, Guest Why said:

Why don't you just focus on your own spiritual path and get it right first before judging others. 

 

Just because someone is born into a family with certain beliefs, doesn't mean they have to take those beliefs up. That's what freedom of choice is. You have no control over others, only your own life. 

The problem is that if we stick to this kind of attitude, our panth will continue to fall as it has. No-one is willing to speak up and stop people in our own community disrespecting sikhi. A khanda doesn't belong on a page where daru, bhung and lustful imagery is present. Unfortunately it is very common , but more so with the females in our community than males as parents are not teaching their daughters about respect or about Sikhi. It's common knowledge in the islamic communities that sikh women are sl*gs, hence why grooming is so successful. If we dont educate our youth and if we're too worried about "judging" others than to call out wrong when we see it, nothing can be achieved. If we are to see truth in the world than shall we not call out falsehood?

[Guest guest]

On 7/25/2019 at 7:37 AM, Guest Why said:

Why don't you just focus on your own spiritual path and get it right first before judging others. 

the op is not judging anyone.  they are concerned about the state of their community.  imo that is a good thing.