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2 hours ago, Redoptics said:

Not to offend anyone,  but I want pray for my wife even if in her past life she done wrong,  but it Sikhi seems so obsessed with me , not condoning what the warriors did, just us  can you help me understand 

What are you even talking about? Are you high?

How is "Sikhi", an abstract noun, concerned with poster Redoptics?

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Get some therapy or professional help to work through your feelings about your wife's unfortunate passing. This forum won't provide you with the help you need. We are neither scholars, doctors, nor holy men. You're beginning to verge on being offensive, and I'm sure that's not your intention. A public forum is not the place for whatever it is you require. If you continue to persist with making digs at Sikhi using a tragic event as a shield to prevent being criticized, I can only theorise that you're a troll. You've been given the benefit of the doubt for a considerable amount of time, but I can only speak for myself when I say your behaviour is ringing alarm bells.

Any thinking person undergoes a crisis of faith when something unforeseen occurs in their life, especially if that person seemingly "played by the rules" and fulfilled the end of their bargain in the game of life. But that unfortunately is the haphazard, cruel reality of life. Bad things happen to good people, and there's nothing to be done about it. Justify it, seek a reason for why such a thing happened, but it doesn't erase the act itself. So, eventually one can either succumb to self-pity and wallow in grief indefinitely, or a person can decide to dust themselves off and try to make a bad situation a little better. 

I speak from experience. I'm not a cold, unfeeling tyrant. I, too, have gone through tragedy after tragedy in my relatively short life, but I would never share the details on here. To stop myself from going crazy, I stopped blaming religion and stopped concerning myself with my past life shenanigans, and focused on making THIS life the best that it can be. Ultimately, that's the only solution to making your remaining time bearable.

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6 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Get some therapy or professional help to work through your feelings about your wife's unfortunate passing. This forum won't provide you with the help you need. We are neither scholars, doctors, nor holy men. You're beginning to verge on being offensive, and I'm sure that's not your intention. A public forum is not the place for whatever it is you require. If you continue to persist with making digs at Sikhi using a tragic event as a shield to prevent being criticized, I can only theorise that you're a troll. You've been given the benefit of the doubt for a considerable amount of time, but I can only speak for myself when I say your behaviour is ringing alarm bells.

Any thinking person undergoes a crisis of faith when something unforeseen occurs in their life, especially if that person seemingly "played by the rules" and fulfilled the end of their bargain in the game of life. But that unfortunately is the haphazard, cruel reality of life. Bad things happen to good people, and there's nothing to be done about it. Justify it, seek a reason for why such a thing happened, but it doesn't erase the act itself. So, eventually one can either succumb to self-pity and wallow in grief indefinitely, or a person can decide to dust themselves off and try to make a bad situation a little better. 

I speak from experience. I'm not a cold, unfeeling tyrant. I, too, have gone through tragedy after tragedy in my relatively short life, but I would never share the details on here. To stop myself from going crazy, I stopped blaming religion and stopped concerning myself with my past life shenanigans, and focused on making THIS life the best that it can be. Ultimately, that's the only solution to making your remaining time bearable.

So easy to speak about situations you never been through,  however I accept your kind words Waheguru 

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5 hours ago, Redoptics said:

So easy to speak about situations you never been through,  however I accept your kind words Waheguru 

Been through worse than you could possibly imagine. But I'm not taking the bait. This isn't about me. You've been told. You can continue to embarrass yourself and consider me the enemy or you can heed my words as those of someone with your best interests at heart but not necessarily what you want to hear. The empty platitudes and enabling haven't done you any good so far, have they?

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12 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Been through worse than you could possibly imagine. But I'm not taking the bait. This isn't about me. You've been told. You can continue to embarrass yourself and consider me the enemy or you can heed my words as those of someone with your best interests at heart but not necessarily what you want to hear. The empty platitudes and enabling haven't done you any good so far, have they?

You've been told ? Behave yourself,  I said thank you and subliminally trying to threaten me, it's ok take care pal.

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4 hours ago, Redoptics said:

You've been told ? Behave yourself,  I said thank you and subliminally trying to threaten me, it's ok take care pal.

Dont want to sound patronising  but I think you need some help! 

You sound off your head most the time you post on here! 

Do you have family around? Parents, siblings? 

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On 1/25/2020 at 2:48 AM, Redoptics said:

Not to offend anyone,  but I want pray for my wife even if in her past life she done wrong,  but it Sikhi seems so obsessed with me , not condoning what the warriors did, just us  can you help me understand 

You are in bereavement. You are going through all sorts of emotions. 

Like all the posters have mentioned, you need some counselling /therapy. 

I am not sure where you live but I am sure there are a list of counsellor /therapists in your area.

If you are working, a lot of workplaces have Employee Assistance Programs where they provide the first 5 sessions free for counselling. 

You are grieving process, but eventually you will need to move forward in your life.

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On 1/25/2020 at 2:48 AM, Redoptics said:

Not to offend anyone,  but I want pray for my wife even if in her past life she done wrong,  but it Sikhi seems so obsessed with me , not condoning what the warriors did, just us  can you help me understand 

Sikhi isn't selfish. But some Sikhs maybe.

Your mind is in confusion cos of your personal circumstances. You need to accept reality of the world be it good or bad even if you dont want to. Come to Guru Ji you will be at peace then.

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