How can I find this type of wife

[puzzled]

16 hours ago, kidsama said:

it's so easy to get ahead in today's world (materially). People always talking about how there's high competition all that, it's super easy to get ahead. Porn, Masturbation, alcohol, weed, casual sex, video games, junk foods, and just people not using their brains fully (they know what they should do but still make dumb choices etc). As a man if you avoid all this, retain your seed, and use this brain that's been given to us, this life is super easy. Sit back plan out and move forward. Watch all these fools drown. Don't bother helping them, they won't listen. Only when you become the light, those who want help will come to you, and those people you help and guide. 

true, discipline is what makes you strong. it gives you this strong positive energy.    if you can fight temptation whatever it may be then you are strong.   discipline makes you strong in many ways.  it helps you in your spiritual growth, in fact i think discipline is what you need to grow spiritually.  its a good feeling too   

if you fall for every temptation then you are lazy and weak.   

[puzzled]

16 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

We're considered odd for noticing such things. I'm fine with being odd.

sad, weird, dinosaurs    all sorts of names for us      

[MisterrSingh]

2 hours ago, puzzled said:

true, discipline is what makes you strong. it gives you this strong positive energy.    if you can fight temptation whatever it may be then you are strong.   discipline makes you strong in many ways.  it helps you in your spiritual growth, in fact i think discipline is what you need to grow spiritually.  its a good feeling too   

if you fall for every temptation then you are lazy and weak.   

One thing I've learned over the years when trying to create consistent routines of discipline and control is not to retreat into arrogance or become judgemental which is one of the easiest traps to fall into when things begin clicking spiritually. Yes, I'm allowed to have opinions and thoughts on things I see and encounter which I find to be objectionable based on my buddhi at that specific period of my life. I'm not quite at the stage of "Hum nahi changeh, burra nahi koe" because I don't feel this particular janam of mine was ever destined to be one of peace and serenity. When I'm content and "happy" I feel exposed and almost weak. I'm at my best when I'm "fighting" and alert. I feel alive when struggling. Vegetating in comfort is something I detest. That's not to say I'm not striving for those qualities, but I've come to the realisation that this lifetime, for me, is one of trials. You've got to be honest with yourself, brutally at times, to really begin to know and learn things. 

[Ranjeet01]

7 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

One thing I've learned over the years when trying to create consistent routines of discipline and control is not to retreat into arrogance or become judgemental which is one of the easiest traps to fall into when things begin clicking spiritually. Yes, I'm allowed to have opinions and thoughts on things I see and encounter which I find to be objectionable based on my buddhi at that specific period of my life. I'm not quite at the stage of "Hum nahi changeh, burra nahi koe" because I don't feel this particular janam of mine was ever destined to be one of peace and serenity. When I'm content and "happy" I feel exposed and almost weak. I'm at my best when I'm "fighting" and alert. I feel alive when struggling. Vegetating in comfort is something I detest. That's not to say I'm not striving for those qualities, but I've come to the realisation that this lifetime, for me, is one of trials. You've got to be honest with yourself, brutally at times, to really begin to know and learn things. 

You must be the Sikh David Goggins or should I say Davinder Gagan 

 

[puzzled]

18 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

One thing I've learned over the years when trying to create consistent routines of discipline and control is not to retreat into arrogance or become judgemental which is one of the easiest traps to fall into when things begin clicking spiritually. Yes, I'm allowed to have opinions and thoughts on things I see and encounter which I find to be objectionable based on my buddhi at that specific period of my life. I'm not quite at the stage of "Hum nahi changeh, burra nahi koe" because I don't feel this particular janam of mine was ever destined to be one of peace and serenity. When I'm content and "happy" I feel exposed and almost weak. I'm at my best when I'm "fighting" and alert. I feel alive when struggling. Vegetating in comfort is something I detest. That's not to say I'm not striving for those qualities, but I've come to the realisation that this lifetime, for me, is one of trials. You've got to be honest with yourself, brutally at times, to really begin to know and learn things. 

sometimes when you look back  you realize its the times that you hated the most that strengthen your faith. 

[puzzled]

i see it as, us being a product of our past lives and karma. your battling the bad karma which you gathered in your previous life. I dont see it as life throwing things at me but me simply facing what i sowed in the past.    tackle it with your faith and the remembrance of Waheguru.   

i see patterns in myself, everywhere i go and whoever i meet  i see the same recurring pattern,  its the same theme, same emotion     its a continuation from the past.    

[MisterrSingh]

1 hour ago, puzzled said:

i see it as, us being a product of our past lives and karma. your battling the bad karma which you gathered in your previous life. I dont see it as life throwing things at me but me simply facing what i sowed on the past.    tackle it with your faith and the remembrance of Waheguru.   

i see patterns in myself, everywhere i go and whoever i meet  i see the same recurring pattern,  its the same theme, same emotion     its a continuation from the past.    

Seeing questions being answered and situations unfolding in your day-to-day life in response to something that was only ever known to you, is faith affirming. It gives me confidence that I'm not totally barking up the wrong tree, lol.

Yes, patterns! Spotting reoccurring patterns is key. Got to be awake to it. 

[Guest Woman]

On 2/3/2020 at 6:39 PM, Harditsingh said:

I am 23 and i want to get married but the problem is that I can't find the type women I am looking for here. I want a girl who dresses modestly isn't into partying one who enjoys books helping her mother etc the girls in my area are not like this and are all into parties and functions and being all show offy. 

Does anybody here have similar problwms?

 

Question: What about a woman who's into fashion, even if it's not modest but who has a good and pure heart?

[Harditsingh]

The reason I want to get married now is because I don't want to chase girls and get empty situations . I also feel like I seen what the single life has to offer and am ready to settle down and take the next step in life. I don't want to wait untill I'm 34 and marry a 32 year old I'd much rather marry a 19 to 21 year old . The only problem i have I don't go to uni but I work full time in sales. 

I just want a girl who isn't matrealistic and is real I am not going to be the type of husband that makes her clean up everything and cook I will help her but I also won't be a push over I will not tolerate partying drinking or dressing skimpy  I have heard so many horror stories of guys married who are older then me that get treated like a door mat by their wives I don't want that. I don't even know if the type of women I want exists anymore

[TinnkerBell]

On 2/3/2020 at 7:39 AM, Harditsingh said:

I am 23 and i want to get married but the problem is that I can't find the type women I am looking for here. I want a girl who dresses modestly isn't into partying one who enjoys books helping her mother etc the girls in my area are not like this and are all into parties and functions and being all show offy. 

Does anybody here have similar problwms?