An interesting fact or two I learned yesterday...

[dallysingh101]

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  i just dont get why some families sent there sons/daughters off abroad. 

Girls alone is more dangerous.  

 

With boys, it's obvious a strategic, economic gamble usually. 

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10 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

It was silly of him to expect them to move with him. Come on! If he really wanted to, he could've gone without them. 

it becomes harder when you have a family and kids i guess,  it went on for a whole year it did  but his kids just didn't want to which is totally understandable lol. he even started making arrangements haha!    his kids were around 14 yrs 12 yrs old back then.    but it just didn't happen.  he goes there now on his own and spends a good couple of months there. 

[puzzled]

15 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Girls alone is more dangerous.  

 

With boys, it's obvious a strategic, economic gamble usually. 

yh my mama moved her in the early 70s while my mum moved here in 1983 and started living with my mamas family     dont think people sent daughters abroad in those days if they had no family there. 

[dallysingh101]

4 minutes ago, puzzled said:

yh my mama moved her in the early 70s while my mum moved here in 1983 and started living with my mamas family     dont think people sent daughters abroad in those days if they had no family there. 

They did marry daughters into other families though, and send them off - even if that was the first member of their family to go abroad. It was another economic strategy. That can still happen now. 

Sending girls donkey is insane. They're pretty much guaranteed to get abused if not pimped out. I hope people have gathered that over there now?

[dallysingh101]

30 minutes ago, puzzled said:

I often wonder how many people who moved here actually needed to move here in the first place lol     with my dads side of the family i can see why his family sent him over,

I guess my Baba was different, he fought to get out on his own back. I don't think he had his parents to help him. 

[puzzled]

4 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Sending girls donkey is insane. They're pretty much guaranteed to get abused if not pimped out. I hope people have gathered that over there now?

a lot dodgy stuff happens with these student girls in the UK!  was watching on bbc how some punjabi student girls start prostituting themselves to make money and send it back home.

[puzzled]

28 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

I guess my Baba was different, he fought to get out on his own back. I don't think he had his parents to help him. 

my dads family struggled, they weren't super poor but still struggled,  my baba was also old when he had sons, in those days sons were your only support in physical work, because his sons were born l8 he pretty much worked by himself till the end of his life.  he died even before i was born.  on top of that his brother died  so he was supporting his brothers wife and her daughter as well.  so i can see why my dad was sent to this country    its only when my dad moved abroad that he started sending money back home and they got things running. 

my mums family on the other hand had a very comfortable life, like i said on another thread my nani even used to give money to poor families in the pind to move abroad. my nanis father moved to australia as a little boy with his father in the early 1920s , they owned a farm there, so my nani had a comfortable life from the beginning. my nana had a very comfortable life as well from the beginning. he told us how he used to be naughty in school and the teacher hit him so his mum stopped sending him school lol    he was the only child. my nana never did any work his whole life, his father and his fathers unmarried brother did all the work, by the time they were old my nanas own sons were old enough to take over, nana chilled his whole life lol,  he used to have a horse which he liked riding   we have a photo of him with the horse from the early 50s.  my nani came from a family of very head strong men, my nanis family were mostly from haryana. one of the first things my nani did when she got married to my nana was change her father inlaws name from Ram Rakha to Ram Singh on paper lol!  the sirpench of the pind was a wealthy zamindhar and he got all stubborn and didnt agree to that and she confronted him till he agreed to change the name on paper! lol    and he did      may sound like something small in today's time but for a woman to do something like that in those days is quite something. 

my dads family never had any of these things, my baba worked till the very end of his life     life really wasn't that easy for a lot of people.   i think us lot born abroad appreciate what our elders did in this country and back home a lot more than these freshies do. 

  

[MisterrSingh]

1 hour ago, Big_Tera said:

Could you just be jealous of these immigrants I wonder? Ie getting on the property ladder and they have a wife and kids, family. Have it all on the plate and doing well in life. While you still get no replies from the lonely hearts advert you've had for the last year and still can't get a mortgage. 

While new commmers have progressed further. 

 

I have a few vices but jealousy or envy is not one.  I don't think twice about helping any of them when they need a form filled or they need someone to speak on their behalf in an official capacity in English. Someone riddled with jealousy would tell them to eff off, lol.

As for lonely hearts, how's your search for a bride going? Skin condition and dandruff cleared up, or does your pillow still resemble a flapjack in the morning? 

[MisterrSingh]

2 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Mujhburi would have made some come. 

Yes, there are some definite hard luck tales from back home that I've heard of, but of all the guys I've spoken to who've come over, they say they just wanted to see what the fuss was regarding England. Either they're fronting or they're being honest when they say they lived like kings over there. For them, it seems to be an adventure of sorts. Funny thing is the recent male Pakistani immigrants who don't like it here because of the work ethic, don't think twice about staying especially if they've got a strong household back home. They're on the plane, no questions asked. 

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21 hours ago, puzzled said:

a lot dodgy stuff happens with these student girls in the UK!  was watching on bbc how some punjabi student girls start prostituting themselves to make money and send it back home.

even worse in Canada, over there I think it's more than some that are doing this...