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So basically I wasn't expecting a scene in our home today noon but it did happen.

My mom wasn't feeling well today , and the little kid keeps my wife busy other times , but he was sleeping.So my wife made some food. 

When I asked if the food was done, she said "yes, but don't criticize it please . I have been in kitchen for 'n' hours now doing cookking" 

I honestly started losing my temparament . I mean can she not even do this much ! Do I have no right to criticize the food she made. what if its tasteless. I mean my dad has criticized and got dishes made from mom for long.

As I started eating and saying as to why I cannot criticize the food she made. Thats the only thing she handles right now , if at all. My dad said I should not criticize too much and that made me fuming because here's the man who always got things made from mom. So I started shouting on him as well. Mom immediately came to my rescue and started shouting at dad. Then mom's outburst came at my wife saying why she can't handle criticism of food . Then past issues suddenly came into arguments. My wife has a habit of arguing. 

I told her its her duty to make wholesome, tasty food for her husband (me). Thats the least a husband expects from wife. I also said if she can't do that I will start eating in restaurants. All this discussions happened in front of entire family. I was crying a little. 

Honestly though, I deserve good food with a wife. What's wrong in this ? I know toxic feminists will say your housewife isn't a domestic thing, I would like to tell them then I ain't an ATM either. I never b*tched about having to earn for her.

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7 minutes ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

So basically I wasn't expecting a scene in our home today noon but it did happen.

My mom wasn't feeling well today , and the little kid keeps my wife busy other times , but he was sleeping.So my wife made some food. 

When I asked if the food was done, she said "yes, but don't criticize it please . I have been in kitchen for 'n' hours now doing cookking" 

I honestly started losing my temparament . I mean can she not even do this much ! Do I have no right to criticize the food she made. what if its tasteless. I mean my dad has criticized and got dishes made from mom for long.

As I started eating and saying as to why I cannot criticize the food she made. Thats the only thing she handles right now , if at all. My dad said I should not criticize too much and that made me fuming because here's the man who always got things made from mom. So I started shouting on him as well. Mom immediately came to my rescue and started shouting at dad. Then mom's outburst came at my wife saying why she can't handle criticism of food . Then past issues suddenly came into arguments. My wife has a habit of arguing. 

I told her its her duty to make wholesome, tasty food for her husband (me). Thats the least a husband expects from wife. I also said if she can't do that I will start eating in restaurants. All this discussions happened in front of entire family. I was crying a little. 

Honestly though, I deserve good food with a wife. What's wrong in this ? I know toxic feminists will say your housewife isn't a domestic thing, I would like to tell them then I ain't an ATM either. I never b*tched about having to earn for her.

Bro... it's a miracle she even joined you in Anand Karaj. Time to man up bro. Stay chardikala and if that's your problem..you don't actually have problems. 

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2 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

Bro... it's a miracle she even joined you in Anand Karaj. Time to man up bro. Stay chardikala and if that's your problem..you don't actually have problems. 

what do u mean ? why should a wife (who married less than 2 yrs back) ever say "I stood in the kitchen for n hours to make ur food and don't criticize it now" . I thought husband deserved the right to have tasty food. 

 

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if that's your problem..you don't actually have problems. 

are u suggesting , women pull it worse than in my case ? 

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26 minutes ago, AjeetSingh2019 said:

So basically I wasn't expecting a scene in our home today noon but it did happen.

My mom wasn't feeling well today , and the little kid keeps my wife busy other times , but he was sleeping.So my wife made some food. 

When I asked if the food was done, she said "yes, but don't criticize it please . I have been in kitchen for 'n' hours now doing cookking" 

I honestly started losing my temparament . I mean can she not even do this much ! Do I have no right to criticize the food she made. what if its tasteless. I mean my dad has criticized and got dishes made from mom for long.

As I started eating and saying as to why I cannot criticize the food she made. Thats the only thing she handles right now , if at all. My dad said I should not criticize too much and that made me fuming because here's the man who always got things made from mom. So I started shouting on him as well. Mom immediately came to my rescue and started shouting at dad. Then mom's outburst came at my wife saying why she can't handle criticism of food . Then past issues suddenly came into arguments. My wife has a habit of arguing. 

I told her its her duty to make wholesome, tasty food for her husband (me). Thats the least a husband expects from wife. I also said if she can't do that I will start eating in restaurants. All this discussions happened in front of entire family. I was crying a little. 

Honestly though, I deserve good food with a wife. What's wrong in this ? I know toxic feminists will say your housewife isn't a domestic thing, I would like to tell them then I ain't an ATM either. I never b*tched about having to earn for her.

This topic should be in gupt section for starters.

You are handling it wrong.

You don't criticise, you say it was tasty but maybe she could have added more salt or less mirch or however you like it.

Learn a bit of tact. 

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Just now, AjeetSingh2019 said:

true. I will never do it again. It shows her I am weak and therefore suspectible . 

Be man   tell her your the one that earns money and the least she can do is stop whining and put some decent food on the table. Tell her 

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1 minute ago, puzzled said:

Be man   tell her your the one that earns money and the least she can do is stop whining and put some decent food on the table. Tell her 

I did say that 

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Just now, puzzled said:

Be man   tell her your the one that earns money and the least she can do is stop whining and put some decent food on the table. Tell her 

She just sounded worried it didn't turn out after much effort...she cooked and did her best dudes. 

Doesn't justify getting all krodhi and actin like a damas. Nothing does. 

This is definitely not a Bir Ras situation. 

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