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14 minutes ago, Guruguruji said:

I just feel so stupid. I don't need professional help because I know what they'll say etc etc. I kind of just want to change my prayers and just beg for death. 

Perfect is the teacher Bhenji. You're just learning hard lessons. It's okay. 

The kind of death you want is the death of your ego, that's suffering. That's okay be jeevan with life.

You've done ardas, the peace comes from accepting Hukam.

The peace comes from Naam Simran and going about your day, cleaning, eating, walking, but always surrendering yourself to Vaheguru. There is nothing to do, but accept. 

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Which sakhia did you read?

 

is this something new as the lockdown with the current corona virus situation is putting a lot of pressure on people? Are you in the UK?

Maybe you just need to step back and have a mental break, go to your parents for the weekend?

 

Hard to advise without knowing more 

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Guest Staystrongjeets

Stay strong, your going through a difficult time. Hold onto the Gurus helm.

It really is the guys loss, as seems your so committed to it and there hasnt been any attempt on his side. Thats really sad to see.

Sometimes that which we most want isn't given to us, its painful to go through this. Its a hard lesson from our Guru. But know that he is closer to you than you can ever imagine. 

Whilst you want to get away from everything, this isn't always a solution. Being independant has its own challenges.

Maybe find a sister and family you can go stay with for a few weeks and just clear your head. Gurdwaras are opening so hopefully you can connect to the sangat.

Being around family support network is important. You dont need to make any future decisions anytime soon. Work on yourself and sikhi and take time to reflect. 

Our role is to do the right actions and do ardas sincerly and be good sikhs. The outcome of the ardas is never in our hands. Whether what we want is granted or not is really in Gods hands. Really sorry to hear ur pain.

 

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If your marriage was perfect would you be remembering God?

The pain of a broken marriage now has you remembering God day and night.

God loves us but no one remembers him in happiness. Sukh of maya makes us blind akirat ghan fools. You haven’t got a good marriage but you still got hundreds of things others don’t have.

Take a pen & paper and make a list of all the blessings you received. A beautiful body - all the limbs you have right? And they function? Being healthy, living in a peaceful country, having a roof over your head, food, clothes, parents, this sangat to guide you. Read the list back and thank God for it. Then ask that where you gave me all this God please help my marriage also.

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Dear Veerji,

I've been in your place before. There was a lot of pain, confusion, and suffering. 3 things that I did (through kirpa) was practicing the waheguru mantra, listening/reading/reciting bani, and telling myself that "everything you do is good". I did later realize that he was helping me. Furthermore, things got A LOT better. Things will get better for you as well okay! :)

Also if you feel unmotivated to do your bani, just have it playing in the background as you watch tv, play xbox, or eat. I.e. as you do your daily stuff, just bring bani with you has a friend! 

I wish you you the best :)

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55 minutes ago, Guruguruji said:

I get angry with my family and we exchange harsh words. I then feel guilty and I promise myself not to fall in the same trap...but I do, I don't know why I get involved in any arguments and ruin the day for everyone. I just feel like I dig a deeper hole for myself. A horrible memory for people to look back to after this phase in life passes.

I feel angry with guru ji, a supreme power who controls everything and can do anything but is just ignoring me. I always tell myself thats it, waheguru ji knows what my ardas is, I need to relax now but then every time I even look at a photo of guru sahib my heart bleeds n begs. 

My husband has dumped me and has forgotten about me as if I never existed, I've ruined relationships with my family by making them sad, I have no sense of me anymore, I don't want to go out and see people, I'm not allowed to move away.

 

Try to think 1 year from now you will be in a better place. Just cry it out and then pick yourself up. You have to be strong. Think to yourself I’m not wasting one more tear on this person - I’m not wasting room in my mind on this person who I am no longer going to be married to. If he wants a divorce then just give it to him now. Sometimes doors close for better ones to open. You probably had some past life issue you had to go through with him. Count yourself lucky you haven’t wasted more years with him. There’s people out there with kids who are in this situation who have to be single parents. I’m assuming you haven’t got any with this guy- you are lucky you haven’t. 
 

You are a woman you can’t say you are not allowed to move out- it’s your life. Get a job and move out or stay there and just keep listening to path or inspiration sikh talks on YouTube or something. Go for a jog. Do what you need to keep yourself busy. 

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