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1 hour ago, Kaurr said:

same

I don't know if any girls here are ready to get married.

But its not that hard to get spouse vise. My cousin did that.

thank you!

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On 8/24/2020 at 2:47 AM, Guest Singh13 said:

I am gursikh guy over 30 now and finding really hard to find an Amritdhari girl in Australia. 

if I search any other country than India, then Moving from Australia becomes the  problem. 

Veer if you can find an Amritdhari girl in Australia or New Zealand then great. But you also should keep your options open with non-Amritdhari or Hindu Punjabi matches who do not drink alcohol and eat meat and are willing to progress in Sikhi with you in the future.

Young ladies from Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia and the UK could well open to moving to Australia too (but focus locally as Melbourne is the Sikh stronghold in Australia). Obviously in India there is a shortage of women to imbalanced gender leaving many Amritdhari men without spouses in Punjab. So whilst Punjab may be a good bet for you on an individual level it does in turn leave another Amritdhari Bhai less chance (if people continue to insist upon Amritdhari or Sikh spouses). The Sikh population's fertility rate is now below replacement level in Punjab due to so many Amritdhari men not giving consideration to non-Amritdhari or non-Sikh spouse. 

On 8/30/2020 at 12:29 AM, Guest SSS said:

Hi I am also having the same trouble veerji. I am from Sydney and to explain the situation to others, Australia now is like the UK in the 60s, ie many young first generation migrants on student visa are the majority of the Sikh community.

Yes true the Sikh community in Australia has a much younger demographic but there are older Sikh women in their 30's looking for spouses in UK (and India) if you are finding it difficult to find someone in Australia. Melbourne community is bigger than Sydney.

On 9/1/2020 at 11:26 PM, Koi said:

Mate, I'm in the same boat in the UK, and I'm 33. It is indeed hard, and i sympathise with you greatly. And I do share your apprehensions about India. 

I know friends who found luck searching online (Shaadi.com etc.). I guess it's just about casting a wide net.

Good luck Veer. Even though Sikhs should be getting married ideally between the ages of 21-24 or 25-29 at the very latest in order to statistically have more and healthier children with less difficulty in becoming parents, please don't think you are alone and don't limit yourself in terms of possible choice. From what I remember AkaliFauj, DallySingh101, Ranjeet01 are all older than you too so this is clearly a big problem in the Diaspora where 99% or more of folks are non-Sikhs. Meanwhile by the time our Sikh grooms and brides get married our Pakistani Punjabi counterparts are becoming grandparents!

Essentially it is better for Singhs to marry non-Amritdhari girls or non-Sikh girls than remain unmarried forever.

Hopefully you find someone local as the the phenomenon of Sikh men going to back to Punjab is in turn causing a problem for Diaspora women who are finding a corresponding shortage of Sikh men (just like Sikh men are finding in Punjab due to the gender imbalance and Sikh females marrying NRI's)

 

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On 9/13/2020 at 1:58 AM, Guest Marry in 20's best said:

Essentially it is better for Singhs to marry non-Amritdhari girls or non-Sikh girls than remain unmarried forever.

I think the Hajoor Sahib sikh families are a great example of Singhs settling in the area by marrying girls not from Singh families, actually from hindu families, and those women becoming sikhnis! And at the the same time, they are really good at preserving rehit whereas punjabi sikhs are currently poor at keeping rehit including those who call themselves as amrit-dharis or gursikhs! 

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I suppose u could move overseas? Plenty of Gursikhs in UK. 

As a brother, i'll give u one warning. Only move into UK if you're graduated. You can b a highly spirited Gursikh, on a Sant level, even! But if u have no degree you can forget about moving into the UK. 

No degree means you're unlikely to get a decent job. A decent job means prestigious in society and, above all, good amount of income in the house. So if u have SO much kirpa that it radiates, but you can only get jobs in hard labour, no Amritdhari girl here will give 2 pence. Your Nitnem doesn't matter, your Simran doesn't matter, Guru Ghar goer/ hukam wich rehna, raini baini NOTHING matters. Wha matters is a degree, as a degree leads to well paid money jobs. 

I have spoken from my side of the truth WHICH I obtained from above 7 cities, 40 Town and countless Amritdhari girls "How far is yer education?" Then after that?? NO! My dad is a witness, half the cities / homes we went to were thanks to him!

UPDATE: Today my wife is an admin as she is highly educated and am a restaurant worker... HOWEVER! This meant am no longer with my parents as she got a job in a far town. Oh! And I work below minimum wage despite am legal here, born n bred. I DID THIS FOR MY WIFE! LET THIS BE A LESSON. DON'T JUDGE A MAN BY HIS UNI DEGREE. 

I think I spoke enough... But I'd like to wish u luck n hope u find the girl. 

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6 hours ago, Singh1989 said:

I suppose u could move overseas? Plenty of Gursikhs in UK. 

As a brother, i'll give u one warning. Only move into UK if you're graduated. You can b a highly spirited Gursikh, on a Sant level, even! But if u have no degree you can forget about moving into the UK. 

No degree means you're unlikely to get a decent job. A decent job means prestigious in society and, above all, good amount of income in the house. So if u have SO much kirpa that it radiates, but you can only get jobs in hard labour, no Amritdhari girl here will give 2 pence. Your Nitnem doesn't matter, your Simran doesn't matter, Guru Ghar goer/ hukam wich rehna, raini baini NOTHING matters. Wha matters is a degree, as a degree leads to well paid money jobs. 

I have spoken from my side of the truth WHICH I obtained from above 7 cities, 40 Town and countless Amritdhari girls "How far is yer education?" Then after that?? NO! My dad is a witness, half the cities / homes we went to were thanks to him!

UPDATE: Today my wife is an admin as she is highly educated and am a restaurant worker... HOWEVER! This meant am no longer with my parents as she got a job in a far town. Oh! And I work below minimum wage despite am legal here, born n bred. I DID THIS FOR MY WIFE! LET THIS BE A LESSON. DON'T JUDGE A MAN BY HIS UNI DEGREE. 

I think I spoke enough... But I'd like to wish u luck n hope u find the girl. 

wjkk wjkf ji

thank you for sharing your views. 

I am not planning to move anywhere from Australia. I have built up my life here and I really enjoy where I live. 

I personally believe that Australia is a good place to start a family and bring up the kids.

I was just exploring my option to find an Amritdhari match and wanted to check if there is any particular website where we find a good match locally. 

thanks 

 

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15 hours ago, Singh1989 said:

I suppose u could move overseas? Plenty of Gursikhs in UK. 

As a brother, i'll give u one warning. Only move into UK if you're graduated. You can b a highly spirited Gursikh, on a Sant level, even! But if u have no degree you can forget about moving into the UK. 

No degree means you're unlikely to get a decent job. A decent job means prestigious in society and, above all, good amount of income in the house. So if u have SO much kirpa that it radiates, but you can only get jobs in hard labour, no Amritdhari girl here will give 2 pence. Your Nitnem doesn't matter, your Simran doesn't matter, Guru Ghar goer/ hukam wich rehna, raini baini NOTHING matters. Wha matters is a degree, as a degree leads to well paid money jobs. 

I have spoken from my side of the truth WHICH I obtained from above 7 cities, 40 Town and countless Amritdhari girls "How far is yer education?" Then after that?? NO! My dad is a witness, half the cities / homes we went to were thanks to him!

UPDATE: Today my wife is an admin as she is highly educated and am a restaurant worker... HOWEVER! This meant am no longer with my parents as she got a job in a far town. Oh! And I work below minimum wage despite am legal here, born n bred. I DID THIS FOR MY WIFE! LET THIS BE A LESSON. DON'T JUDGE A MAN BY HIS UNI DEGREE. 

I think I spoke enough... But I'd like to wish u luck n hope u find the girl. 

when it comes to getting a job in the uk, work experience and a good Resume/CV is much more important than having a degree. Degrees don't guarantee jobs in the uk unless it's something like medicine.

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On 8/24/2020 at 2:47 AM, Guest Singh13 said:

wjkk wjkf ji

I am a gursikh guy over 30 now and finding really hard to find an Amritdhari girl in Australia. as many of of us already know that usually match making happens between friends and relatives. Sikh community is not very beg here and moreover  age group matters too. 

my questions are :-

what are the websites or apps to find an Amritdhari match in Australia (apart from local newspapers which I tried already)?

if I search in India then I have this insecurity that the girl os only marrying a gursikh guy to come to Australia (if she is not Amritdhari and ready to take Amrit )

if I search any other country than India, then Moving from Australia becomes the  problem. 

some days I get really sad and then pray, next day I am back on searching again with Waheguru's grace.

thank you!

 

Did you try the Gurdwarras. Gurdwarras In Coffs Harbour in Brisbane, Parklea or Revesby in Sydney should be able to help. 

 

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5 hours ago, Sat1 said:

Did you try the Gurdwarras. Gurdwarras In Coffs Harbour in Brisbane, Parklea or Revesby in Sydney should be able to help. 

 

wjkk wjkf ji

I am in Melbourne and I know many Singhs here in. my Gurudwara. I am not sure how to reach Gurudwara sahib directly regarding this, unless I know the local people there. I will try. thanks

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On 9/19/2020 at 3:06 AM, indersingh1313 said:

wjkk wjkf ji

I am in Melbourne and I know many Singhs here in. my Gurudwara. I am not sure how to reach Gurudwara sahib directly regarding this, unless I know the local people there. I will try. thanks

Maybe just turn up. They would probably do matrimonials there

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The only other thing I would suggest is online search (Shaadi.com etc.), and of course, the help of this cyber sangat. C'mon, help an Aussie brother out!

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I have not heard of a gurdwara doing matrimonial setting in Sydney.

I don't know if its widespread, but from a what I understand the Gurdwarra only "hires" the granthi ans raagi Singhs for six months to one year, before being replaced. So the Singh are never really a part of the community. 

The AKJ scene here is pretty big, maybe ask somone from there?

I agree re lifestyle in Australia. We dont have 'bad immigration', it's an island so it's hard to get here illegally. We dont take too many refugees, about 20k per year, most the immigrants are educated and hardworking given our Visa rules (compared to the UK). The weather is great and the country is still growing.

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Just out of curiosity, if your rishta does happen through sikhsangat.com, does that mean the rest of the sangat here are your vichola/vicholan? 🤣

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21 hours ago, Koi said:

The only other thing I would suggest is online search (Shaadi.com etc.), and of course, the help of this cyber sangat. C'mon, help an Aussie brother out!

I used to be part of a site called sikhpal https://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/SikhPal.com , which was a sikhi forum but was also good for socialising with other sikhs. Then someone created something very similar called sikhportal.

None of those exist anymore, but I think sites like those were really good for sikhs to get to know one another on a global scale and maybe even help with matrimony!

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4 hours ago, Koi said:

Just out of curiosity, if your rishta does happen through sikhsangat.com, does that mean the rest of the sangat here are your vichola/vicholan? 🤣

sure ji and you all are invited in advance for my future wedding. not sure all the sangat (vichola/vicholan) with get the Vichola ring but. ;)

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