Marriage partner and Social Media presence

[Guest Marriage]

Is social media presence a factor to consider for choosing a partner?

I’m security conscious and don’t trust social media because any weirdo can spy on you. I think loads people are naive and post to much personal life. Like they post their going for a day out. But what you actually posted is your house will be empty all day so I can break in!

There’s gursikh girl, amritdhari with dastar very sweet. Her dad asked me last year if I thought about marriage yet and I said not yet. I like her secretly but she posts every detail of her life on Instagram. She even record stories while driving. I thought what if we married and she had my child in the back seat and using phone while driving!?

Like people match based on interests and preferences. Is how much of ur life u wiling to share something to consider for choosing a partner? 

[GurjantGnostic]

2 hours ago, Guest Marriage said:

Is social media presence a factor to consider for choosing a partner?

I’m security conscious and don’t trust social media because any weirdo can spy on you. I think loads people are naive and post to much personal life. Like they post their going for a day out. But what you actually posted is your house will be empty all day so I can break in!

There’s gursikh girl, amritdhari with dastar very sweet. Her dad asked me last year if I thought about marriage yet and I said not yet. I like her secretly but she posts every detail of her life on Instagram. She even record stories while driving. I thought what if we married and she had my child in the back seat and using phone while driving!?

Like people match based on interests and preferences. Is how much of ur life u wiling to share something to consider for choosing a partner? 

Too much social media use is a bad sign. 

[Koi]

2 hours ago, Guest Marriage said:

Is social media presence a factor to consider for choosing a partner?

I’m security conscious and don’t trust social media because any weirdo can spy on you. I think loads people are naive and post to much personal life. Like they post their going for a day out. But what you actually posted is your house will be empty all day so I can break in!

There’s gursikh girl, amritdhari with dastar very sweet. Her dad asked me last year if I thought about marriage yet and I said not yet. I like her secretly but she posts every detail of her life on Instagram. She even record stories while driving. I thought what if we married and she had my child in the back seat and using phone while driving!?

Like people match based on interests and preferences. Is how much of ur life u wiling to share something to consider for choosing a partner? 

Not necessarily, and this is always something you can talk about if it bothers you. Private life should indeed remain private, but each to their own. Definitely talk to this girl and see if you can come to some compromise. 

All the best . 

[MisterrSingh]

3 hours ago, Guest Marriage said:

Is social media presence a factor to consider for choosing a partner?

I’m security conscious and don’t trust social media because any weirdo can spy on you. I think loads people are naive and post to much personal life. Like they post their going for a day out. But what you actually posted is your house will be empty all day so I can break in!

There’s gursikh girl, amritdhari with dastar very sweet. Her dad asked me last year if I thought about marriage yet and I said not yet. I like her secretly but she posts every detail of her life on Instagram. She even record stories while driving. I thought what if we married and she had my child in the back seat and using phone while driving!?

Like people match based on interests and preferences. Is how much of ur life u wiling to share something to consider for choosing a partner? 

Her dad's unsubtly dropping hints about getting his daughter married directly to a potential suitor? 99.9% of the time this means he's trying to offload her onto a husband because of reasons. Yeah, that's a red flag. Huge red flag.

Excessive social media presence? Another red flag.

Driving while using a phone? She's a self obsessed brainlet who cares little for her own safety as well as that of her fellow road users. Red flag.

Lacks discretion and self-awareness. Red flag.

Your aatma is clearly screaming NO, but for some reason you're trying to manufacture reasons for convincing yourself into a rishta. Stop it. Her so-called sweetness stacked against a litany of the above issues should tell you everything that you need to know.

Her social media presence is the least of your problems if you find yourself drawn into the orbit of someone like that.

[indersingh1313]

5 hours ago, Guest Marriage said:

Is social media presence a factor to consider for choosing a partner?

I’m security conscious and don’t trust social media because any weirdo can spy on you. I think loads people are naive and post to much personal life. Like they post their going for a day out. But what you actually posted is your house will be empty all day so I can break in!

There’s gursikh girl, amritdhari with dastar very sweet. Her dad asked me last year if I thought about marriage yet and I said not yet. I like her secretly but she posts every detail of her life on Instagram. She even record stories while driving. I thought what if we married and she had my child in the back seat and using phone while driving!?

Like people match based on interests and preferences. Is how much of ur life u wiling to share something to consider for choosing a partner? 

so you secretly like her?

according to me, addiction of social media in our society is a huge problems. in reality most of us are addicted to our phones and social media however the only difference is, some people keep it secret just like yourself and watch other people's stuff on social media via scrolling up and down, the others put every single details of their life on instagram. 

if you really know and like the girl and her family then just talk to her and find a way.

ask her about this issue, I don't think its very smart to let her go without communicating with her.

 

[MisterrSingh]

1 hour ago, indersingh1313 said:

if you really know and like the girl and her family then just talk to her and find a way.

Vague and unhelpful.

Life isn't a movie where things magically work themselves out just because someone wishes it were so. 

Anything he says in an attempt to curb her habits and behaviours at this early juncture will be misconstrued as so-called controlling behaviour. She's well within her rights to ask, "Who are you to me?"

Why bother with that hassle when it's certain someone of that mindset and mentality is incapable of modifying their behaviour? Those habits are now set in stone. They'll never change. Any guy with a mind that functions even slightly beyond the superficial will understand this.

Find someone whose inner state of being matches their external saroop. It's not the Singh's job to coach her, guide her, etc. These girls delight in telling the world how incredibly in control and awake they are. So be it.

[Guest Marriage counsellor]

7 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Her dad's unsubtly dropping hints about getting his daughter married directly to a potential suitor? 99.9% of the time this means he's trying to offload her onto a husband because of reasons. Yeah, that's a red flag. Huge red flag.

Excessive social media presence? Another red flag.

Driving while using a phone? She's a self obsessed brainlet who cares little for her own safety as well as that of her fellow road users. Red flag.

Lacks discretion and self-awareness. Red flag.

Your aatma is clearly screaming NO, but for some reason you're trying to manufacture reasons for convincing yourself into a rishta. Stop it. Her so-called sweetness stacked against a litany of the above issues should tell you everything that you need to know.

Her social media presence is the least of your problems if you find yourself drawn into the orbit of someone like that.

Perfect observations. I would even go as far as recommending marrying a white girl with good upbringing. Don’t marry Indians, even if they are born in the overseas in the Western Hemisphere. Marry good whites girl and introduce her to Sikhi, believe me when I sat your life will be easy. There will be no punjabi cultural baggage to cope with and no spoilt rotten punjabi wife sh$t to deal with in daily life. Marry white,

[learningkaur]

She’s single and has time on her hands. She will probably get over it once she’s married and busy and with someone who shows her the negative side to posting.

Tell her to watch social dilemma on Netflix.

If you like her then personally I think it’s ok to say that you’re not into Instagram posting to see her what her reaction is before talking more.

[Guest Realistic]

14 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Her dad's unsubtly dropping hints about getting his daughter married directly to a potential suitor? 99.9% of the time this means he's trying to offload her onto a husband because of reasons. Yeah, that's a red flag. Huge red flag.

This is a ridiculous statement. How else is he meant to find someone for his daughter? Middle men don't exist anymore.

[Guest Realistic]

10 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Why bother with that hassle when it's certain someone of that mindset and mentality is incapable of modifying their behaviour? Those habits are now set in stone. They'll never change. Any guy with a mind that functions even slightly beyond the superficial will understand this.

Do you think people are unable to grow/learn/evolve? You seem very pessimistic.