Working wife , a good idea for me or hazardous one ?

[Khalsa2012 19]

Ok firstly if your gay u shouldnt of got married. U can't live a lie. If your not gay  then there's no real issue. Reading all the messages i can see u got married because u had to and u really have no relationship with your wife. Your wife will stay loyal unless u drive her away. U got to trust her and talk to her openly. U cant spy on her because she talks to her sister lol. Geezer u need to man up. If my wife wanted a job that i thought was going affect her relationship i would tell her. And if u have a confidence issue then seek help from a counsellor, and do Ardas to Maharaj. Also u called your wife average lol. That shows that u have no respect for her. 

The issue is these days is that everyones a man on the keyboard. But in real life they have no confidence. 

U don't need to be macho. U need a strong heart and u need to address a situation when i happens. 

 

[GurjantGnostic 795]

3 hours ago, Khalsa2012 said:

Ok firstly if your gay u shouldnt of got married. U can't live a lie.

I agree far more with the second statement friend and to me it  impacts the first. 

Could not a man confess to his soon to be wife, that in this kalyug he suffers Kaam and that even more difficult that it is of a homosexual nature?

But that as a Gursikh, he does fully believe in the Sacred Dharmic Kirpa of Anand Karaj?  And gay or not he can still have children as seen. 

To what degree is the heterosexuaity of an Anad Karaj between a Singh and Singhni if it is done according to Gurmat and truthfully?

What if the gay Singh has done his best to adhere to Rehit his whole life..stayed a virgin..practices everything and loves Vaheguru. And when married does everything to fulfill his Seva as a householder and a Sikh?

And then we have a straight Singh, and not saying that Singhs tend to be any of these things, I hold you in the highest esteem, but say he drinks, gambles, beats his wife, had sex with prostitutes or foreign women before marriage?

In Gurbani I do hear the Guru to advise the life of a Sant Sipahi Celebate that serves the Paanth or the Sant Sipahi Householder, but nowhere do I hear the Guru say anything about gay. 

 

[Lostandmessedup 54]

How can you be gay without having any man on man action.

[Khalsa2012 19]

50 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

And then we have a straight Singh, and not saying that Singhs tend to be any of these things, I hold you in the highest esteem, but say he drinks, gambles, beats his wife, had sex with prostitutes or foreign women before marriage?

This bit is much worse. 

[GurjantGnostic 795]

33 minutes ago, Lostandmessedup said:

How can you be gay without having any man on man action.

In thought only just like the same way you fornicate with all your sisters and mothers and other mens wives but instead it's a dude in your eye or minds eye. In Kaam. 

[Khalsa2012 19]

51 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

What if the gay Singh has done his best to adhere to Rehit his whole life..stayed a virgin..practices everything and loves Vaheguru. And when married does everything to fulfill his Seva as a householder and a Sikh?

That makes him a good Sikh. 

But this guy doesn't really have love for his wife. And his come here to everyones backing. So he can justify the fact he dont like her

[GurjantGnostic 795]

1 minute ago, Khalsa2012 said:

That makes him a good Sikh. 

But this guy doesn't really have love for his wife. And his come here to everyones backing. So he can justify the fact he dont like her

Does he not or does he not have lust for her?

[GurjantGnostic 795]

If a woman is saving herself for a sexual lion acrobat who wants her all the time and that is her purpose or is of great importance she should not enter this hypothetical relationship. 

[GurjantGnostic 795]

A gay dude could probably suffer through like... both times you get sex after marriage..jk.. only halfway. 

[GurjantGnostic 795]

36 minutes ago, Khalsa2012 said:

That makes him a good Sikh. 

But this guy doesn't really have love for his wife. And his come here to everyones backing. So he can justify the fact he dont like her

I'm not saying Ajeet Veer Ji is this exact person. 

But he is in a similar situation minus the up front part, and hopefully can communicate that and maybe learn and demonstrate what it means to love a woman, a wife, really someone much more than just a wife, and provide a good house, work together, so that hopefully he or they go on to make more money by supporting each other in career development and spend a lot of time with their little one. 

Most definitely I encourage him to consider what it means to respect, appreciate, and love her, be affectionate and really why not consider what type of intimacy they might be able to share gay Kaam or not. 

[Guest guest]

i think hair salon is better than office because in a hair salon she will likely be surrounded by other gay guys, so less worry for you and she will probably get to understand you better.  minus side is she might figure out you are gay if she hasn't already.

in a office she may have creepy heteros hitting her on.

by the way, don't understimate 'pind di kuri'.  imo she probably knows you are gay and probably knew it before marriage.  women aren't stupid.  

[H908 36]

On 11/21/2020 at 11:39 AM, Khalsa2012 said:

Ok firstly if your gay u shouldnt of got married. U can't live a lie. If your not gay  then there's no real issue. Reading all the messages i can see u got married because u had to and u really have no relationship with your wife. Your wife will stay loyal unless u drive her away. U got to trust her and talk to her openly. U cant spy on her because she talks to her sister lol. Geezer u need to man up. If my wife wanted a job that i thought was going affect her relationship i would tell her. And if u have a confidence issue then seek help from a counsellor, and do Ardas to Maharaj. Also u called your wife average lol. That shows that u have no respect for her. 

The issue is these days is that everyones a man on the keyboard. But in real life they have no confidence. 

U don't need to be macho. U need a strong heart and u need to address a situation when i happens. 

 

Exactly, we only know his perspective and its telling that any nonbiased person would start to feel bad for her. It doesnt matter if your gay, be a good husband and talk to her and trust her. If you cant trust her because shes done something in the past then I understand the apprehension. But without that it seems youre just insecure 

[Guest Shocked]

Wow, some of you really have warped and twisted ideas of women. Who raised you? What kind of wives, sisters and mothers do you have??

[GurjantGnostic 795]

12 hours ago, Guest Shocked said:

Wow, some of you really have warped and twisted ideas of women. Who raised you? What kind of wives, sisters and mothers do you have??

It's Kalyug...it cuts both ways. 

[MisterrSingh 4,412]

13 hours ago, Guest Shocked said:

Wow, some of you really have warped and twisted ideas of women. Who raised you? What kind of wives, sisters and mothers do you have??

Wonderful women. Nothing like the ones we decry, hence why some of us are able to discern the quality women in our lives versus the devious, one-dimensional trash trying to gaslight society into believing they possess any virtues whatsoever.

Which category do you fall into?