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Waheguru Ji ka Khlasa Waheguru ji ki fateh

Sangat ji i had a discussion with my paaji which he had with some singhs...

well.. Amritdharis are not supposed to have relationships its considered a sin, just as consuming alcohol and cutting your hair whilst being amrit, its on the same level. You are breaking your Rehat.

A lot of amritdharis do it , they date and a lot of amritdharis i know do it ! ITS WRONG!

Guru Gobind Singh Ji said treat all women as your sisters and mothers and except your wife. Similarly women should treat all men as their brothers and fathers except their husband.

But if amritdharis date theyve broken there rehat, so need to ask forgivness from guru ji through ardas and retake amrit from the panj pyare!!!

If you know any ‘amritdharis’ who do this, please tell them its wrong!!! All you can do is educate them are try to get them to see what they are doing is wrong.

And don't forget guru ji will never let his sikh down! and is always there

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji kI fateh

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa !

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !!

I thought a lot about it and keep thinking about it, how to find the solution of stopping the mind but I fail all the time. As soon as mind gets a spare second, it pounces back on the weak thoughts.

I think the best way is to get married at a young age like 18-19...

otherwise for normal people its very hard to keep a control of the mind...

for the people who have strong simran support they can resist but not so easy for normal people though

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa !

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !!

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vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

Don't lower yourself to societies ways and always remeber to hold Guroo Sahib's roop in the highest regard...

I think the most successful marriages are those where there the couple aim towards happy union on all planes of life- physical, material, intellectual, emotional and spiritual.

The laavan , 4 marriage verses composed by Sri Guru Ram Das Ji- represent the four stages of progression between the husband and wife and at the same time, the love and longing of the human soul for God.

  • 1By being a householder a Sikh can be free from evil by knowing God, as revealed in the message of the Gurus.
  • 2The first feeling of love when the bride has left her old life behind and begins the new life of partnership with her husband.
  • 3How to be free from all falseness of the world- through the true Sikh community (Saadh sangat)
  • 4The most perfect love and devotion when no feeling of separation is possible between the two. On the spiritual plane, it would be as if the souls have reached complete union with God and have found perfect joy of HIS love.

Some of you may find this difficult to take in and argue that I am being blasphemous etc... Only virlae can survive in this world 'single'. The rest of us, Guru Sahib instructed, and all but Guru Har Krishan Sahib Ji (who was way too young in age) - to live a 'gristee jeevan'. Bhai Sahib Bhai Randhir Singh Ji h

as described the real life Rangle Sajjan who attained this chardee kalaa state. Who are we compared to them? I am just a little insignificant keerdee who is in awe of these Singh/Singhneean.

The man and woman who undertake marriage are expected and urged to strive for this ideal state of marriage. This is to be achieved by mutual love and respect; recognition of the partner's individuality and equality as a human being and life-partner; having kindness and consideration; offering guidance and suport in all life's aspirations; loyalty; willing harmonising of mind and thoughts, whether it be in affluence or adversity.

It is only when spiritual union (one spirit in two bodies) is complete when happiness and full satisfaction is to be found. A man and woman who live together with no spiritual love for eachother are not truly married.

Gurmukh partners' ultimate growing relationship is a based on a spiritual connection to facilitate doing abhyaas together. This is the value of having a sat-sangi saathi.

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

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p. He who regards another man's daughter as his own daughter, regards another man's wife as his mother, has coition with his own wife alone, he alone is a truly disciplined Sikh of the Guru. A Sikh woman shall likewise keep within the confines of conjugal rectitude.
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That's what I see when other people look at aranged marriages like that.

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa !

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !!

I thought a lot about it and keep thinking about it, how to find the solution of stopping the mind but I fail all the time. As soon as mind gets a spare second, it pounces back on the weak thoughts.

I think the best way is to get married at a young age like 18-19...

otherwise for normal people its very hard to keep a control of the mind...

for the people who have strong simran support they can resist but not so easy for normal people though

Waheguru pray.gif

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa !

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !!

Marrying at an early age does not resolve the issue of your mind being lustfull. The only difference will be that those lustfull thougths will be re-directed towards your wife. That is still nt the solution to the issue. At the age of 18 or 19 one is still learing how to live. In general population one gradutats from High School at that age. How can one marry and be able to support his/her partner at that age. One needs to live the world and become mature and become responsible. Marriage is a responsibility, not an escape to tame the lustfull thoughts of the mind.

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