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3 hours ago, S1ngh said:

I am overweight few kilos and i admit that it my mistake and my weakness will lead to health problems. Not in million years that i will accept it that Its okay to be a fat. This new trend of being happy and acceptable of what you are is dangerous and too weak. I have seen corporations now taking in models for clothes who are fat etc. 

Call me old style but humans who are on wrong path must be given a continuous jolt and encouragement to loose weight or any other issue. 

Just note that Bullying or calling names is not right and very wrong. 

I just feel like we focus on fat too much. We aren't living communaly. Big boys and girls aren't eating the clan out of rations. 

I find Ahankar, Kaam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh, Haumai, lying,  playing nice, having ignorant thinking, being selfish all far far worse than somebody who's dragging too much weight around. They're already experiencing their burden. If somebody is close to you, yeah help them get fit, but really its largely none of our business and just an easy target. 

Billionaires are the real fatties. Sitting on wealth, decreasing the velocity of the currency, going to sleep on billions while billions go hungry. Fat people don't effect the food supply for others greedy people do. 

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2 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

I just feel like we focus on fat too much. We aren't living communaly. Big boys and girls aren't eating the clan out of rations. 

I find Ahankar, Kaam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh, Haumai, lying,  playing nice, having ignorant thinking, being selfish all far far worse than somebody who's dragging too much weight around. They're already experiencing their burden. If somebody is close to you, yeah help them get fit, but really its largely none of our business and just an easy target. 

Billionaires are the real fatties. Sitting on wealth, decreasing the velocity of the currency, going to sleep on billions while billions go hungry. Fat people don't effect the food supply for others greedy people do. 

It gets deeper than that. Just a couple of weeks ago, a childhood friend of my brother passed away from a heart attack. He was always overweight and leaves children, and he weren't that old. 50 odd. 

So it impacts around.   

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31 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

It gets deeper than that. Just a couple of weeks ago, a childhood friend of my brother passed away from a heart attack. He was always overweight and leaves children, and he weren't that old. 50 odd. 

So it impacts around.   

Absolutely bro. That's why we should encourage them to be healthy, functional,  and eat well. 

I'm just saying in terms of what people pick to pick on others for, it's way down the list. 

Being big claps your heart out early, especially if weak. Live long and healthy all just saying don't pick on fat kids,  pick on people with influence who misuse it and the truly morally reprehensible. Encourage and include fat kids in your games and training. If a fat kid was ever first picked for kick ball they'd still be playing it. Fat shaming breaks people young is all. 

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