I want to get married

[Guest Pyara]

As the title suggests, I believe this has to be done sooner or later. Don't wish to end up like Californiasardar all lonely, frustrated at women and being a partypooper on every thread(just kidding).

Lets discuss,suggest,encourage,discourage me on this thought of mine.

[Guest Written]

Is it already written….the day you will get married and who you will get married to?

[GurjantGnostic]

On 9/9/2021 at 9:16 AM, Guest Pyara said:

As the title suggests, I believe this has to be done sooner or later. Don't wish to end up like Californiasardar all lonely, frustrated at women and being a partypooper on every thread(just kidding).

Lets discuss,suggest,encourage,discourage me on this thought of mine.

You should absolutely. Get yourself in order and ask people you trust to hook it up. Be able to arriculate what's most important to you. 

Some things for consideration.

Commitment to Purtan Gursikhi. 

Commitment to Purtan Gursikhi. 

Keeping of Naam, Nitnem, Panj Kakkar, Saroop and Rehit. 

Which Rehit? Meat or no? Sukha or no?

Honesty.

Temperment.

Work ethic.

Profession or house?

Honesty

Kids educated where and how?

Materialism expectations?

Honesty

Real is more important than perfect. What is most important to you? What can you accept and care less about?

Integrity over looks every time bro. If you get both fine but that first one is everything. 

 

 

[Guest Pyara]

On 9/18/2021 at 5:54 PM, GurjantGnostic said:

You should absolutely. Get yourself in order and ask people you trust to hook it up. Be able to arriculate what's most important to you. 

Some things for consideration.

Commitment to Purtan Gursikhi. 

Commitment to Purtan Gursikhi. 

Keeping of Naam, Nitnem, Panj Kakkar, Saroop and Rehit. 

Which Rehit? Meat or no? Sukha or no?

Honesty.

Temperment.

Work ethic.

Profession or house?

Honesty

Kids educated where and how?

Materialism expectations?

Honesty

Real is more important than perfect. What is most important to you? What can you accept and care less about?

Integrity over looks every time bro. If you get both fine but that first one is everything. 

 

 

Thank you bhaiji. Admin take so long to approve my post.Its like admin dont want me get married.

Most important is she must be virgin bhaiji and not party sharty type.

I cant accept if another man touch her before.If she lie me and suhaag raat I find out I commit suicide bhaiji.

[MisterrSingh]

On 9/9/2021 at 5:16 PM, Guest Pyara said:

As the title suggests, I believe this has to be done sooner or later. Don't wish to end up like Californiasardar all lonely, frustrated at women and being a partypooper on every thread(just kidding).

Lets discuss,suggest,encourage,discourage me on this thought of mine.

Do your due diligence. What does your gut instinct tell you about the person you're looking at for a marriage partner; not what everyone around you is chattering about in the hope to "sell" you her to you as a prospective wife. Then do some further digging, lmao.

[dallysingh101]

On 9/22/2021 at 4:24 PM, Guest Pyara said:

Thank you bhaiji. Admin take so long to approve my post.Its like admin dont want me get married.

Most important is she must be virgin bhaiji and not party sharty type.

I cant accept if another man touch her before.If she lie me and suhaag raat I find out I commit suicide bhaiji.

If it's that important to you, you better be sharp. If you want to go for a beauty queen who's had guys buzzing around her from young, you might be setting yourself up for suicide.

Use your brains to avoid this or you'll only have yourself to blame.  

[MisterrSingh]

1 hour ago, dallysingh101 said:

If it's that important to you, you better be sharp. If you want to go for a beauty queen who's had guys buzzing around her from young, you might be setting yourself up for suicide.

Use your brains to avoid this or you'll only have yourself to blame.  

This is the absolute crux of the matter; to find a girl who's pretty enough to get the lad hot and bothered BUT not too pretty that her attractiveness has made her a target for other lads from the moment, as they say in Punjabi, her jawani char gayi in her mid-teens onwards.

Before the undercover brahmgyanis chime in about prioritising kamayi and Gurmukh values, for those of our people who don't float around in their own little Satyug that keeps the rest of the Kalyugi world out (a bit like Trump's non-existent wall), these are valid considerations that should be looked at in detail for the rank-and-file people of our community.

If the guy himself is between the 4-7 range of attractiveness, he needs to look for a girl within the same range. BUT Punjabi guys (and men in general) over-estimate their physical appeal. A man, more than anyone, has a tendency to inflate his own sense of being. He finds it very difficult to process that he may not be what he thinks he is.

A guy in this 4-7 range (which is the vast majority of males on the planet) going after a 9 or 10 girl is living in cloud-cuckoo land if he thinks even a typically middle-class, middle-income job (£30-60k) is going to keep a top-tier girl placated for the next 40-50 years of her life (or at least until she lets her self go or hits the menopause depending on what comes first. Even then her appeal to men may fade, but her aadataa -- habits -- will be nigh on set in stone. If they're rotten since decades eariler, the guy is in for trouble). I'd go as far to say that even a multi-millionaire would need to be on-top of his game from the day he's married to the day he drops dead in order to keep a 9 or 10 as his wife.

Today, more than ever, a girl's history counts so much. From what I've seen, the majority of apne guys live in a world that is detached from reality. They may consider themselves street-smart and worldly, but in many respects their understanding of the world is, IMO, based on an inaccurate simulation of a wider culture they don't truly understand. As such, those blind-spots is where they end up being blind-sided by the unforeseen.

Then you've got to figure out whether her jawani had indeed gone to her head quite a while ago, or if she's been sensible with it. The answer to this question, IMO, comes IN PART from studying the immediate family, i.e. the dad, mum, and siblings.

[dallysingh101]

If he's just going to kill himself on finding that out, that's unfortunate but fair enough. But don't start killing other people as well, including the b1tch. 

[MisterrSingh]

51 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

If he's just going to kill himself on finding that out, that's unfortunate but fair enough. But don't start killing other people as well, including the b1tch. 

Do you think our guys in the West are as prone to the dramatics as resorting to suicide? I personally think they've thrown in the towel; a quiet acceptance of defeat which is mostly attributable to the broader culture that has compounded the idea that it's toxic for a man to question a lady about her antics. 

[dallysingh101]

5 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Do you think our guys in the West are as prone to the dramatics as resorting to suicide? I personally think they've thrown in the towel; a quiet acceptance of defeat which is mostly attributable to the broader culture that has compounded the idea that it's toxic for a man to question a lady about her antics. 

Nah, I just think this guy is weird. Threatening suicide no less! What kind of man is that? Not: I'll leave her or I'll divorce her but kill himself. If that's not weird then I don't know what else is. 

I think the guy has no experiences with women maybe, and perhaps believes in some fantasy scenario when it comes to getting married? Not realising that he'll have to deal with mood swings, periods, extended family issues. Smelling your partners shyte when you go into the loo after them. Female type hormonally driven dramatics. Conflict between your mother and your wife over things men can scarcely grasp. Seeing your missus with no make up, wearing baggy sweat pants. Holding out on sex when he's randy. Then if he has kids, being covered in shyte, nappy changes, sleepless nights filled with crying; a big part of his income going on supporting the missus and kids. Real sh1t like that.

I don't think he is mentally mature enough for a relationship myself?  

You can question a women's antics but that's not going to stop a female being female. If certain behaviour stems from innate, intrinsic biological/evolutionary factors that are outside the realm of logic (as men might know it), it's our job to try and understand it (or be constantly vexed). I'm pretty sure that's one of the (many) messages of CP too. 

That all being said, it's not like men can't be complete c**ts too. And personally I feel sorry for any women who has to deal with full grown adult man-child, who's been excessively pampered by his momma. 

 

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They may consider themselves street-smart and worldly, but in many respects their understanding of the world is, IMO, based on an inaccurate simulation of a wider culture they don't truly understand. As such, those blind-spots is where they end up being blind-sided by the unforeseen.

This bit is a bit vague, you might have to elaborate?