I want to get married

[Ranjeet01]

Here is another unpopular comment which is going to give some more downvotes. 

A mother will always favour a son over her daughter because historically her survival depends on it.

You are going to invest more into a son who ( in thousands of years of tradition) is going to look after and protect you in your older age. Your daughter is going to get married off and live with another family.

50 years of feminism and blank state equalism cannot replace something that has been tried and tested and survived for thousands of years.

[Suchi]

5 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

Here is another unpopular comment which is going to give some more downvotes. 

A mother will always favour a son over her daughter because historically her survival depends on it.

You are going to invest more into a son who ( in thousands of years of tradition) is going to look after and protect you in your older age. Your daughter is going to get married off and live with another family.

50 years of feminism and blank state equalism cannot replace something that has been tried and tested and survived for thousands of years.

The reality is that it is the daughter in law that does the looking after and the son is often left to negotiate the power play going on between his mother and wife. 

And it is often daughters that care more for their parents than daughter in laws as is being proven in modern times in the West where travel is easier. 

So there are no guarantees that the son will be able to fulfil his duties if his wife doesn't get on with his mother. 

 

[Premi5]

2 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

Here is another unpopular comment which is going to give some more downvotes. 

A mother will always favour a son over her daughter because historically her survival depends on it.

You are going to invest more into a son who ( in thousands of years of tradition) is going to look after and protect you in your older age. Your daughter is going to get married off and live with another family.

50 years of feminism and blank state equalism cannot replace something that has been tried and tested and survived for thousands of years.

A father will favor the son for continuing the lineage

[dallysingh101]

2 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

Here is another unpopular comment which is going to give some more downvotes. 

A mother will always favour a son over her daughter because historically her survival depends on it.

You are going to invest more into a son who ( in thousands of years of tradition) is going to look after and protect you in your older age. Your daughter is going to get married off and live with another family.

50 years of feminism and blank state equalism cannot replace something that has been tried and tested and survived for thousands of years.

I hear you, but I think sometimes women have stronger bonds with parents than blokes. I know of plenty of grown up blokes who essentially 'suffer' their parents and have some sense of duty (that they seem to low key resent), and let's throw this in there too: 'the lure of inheritance'.  However, many women seem to have another type of relationship with their parents that is based on something else - a stronger bond? Outside of the material.

Blokes can get married and move out and be impartial to whether they see their parents regularly or not, many women seem to want to keep regular contact though, and make effort for this.     

[Ranjeet01]

3 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

I hear you, but I think sometimes women have stronger bonds with parents than blokes. I know of plenty of grown up blokes who essentially 'suffer' their parents and have some sense of duty (that they seem to low key resent), and let's throw this in there too: 'the lure of inheritance'.  However, many women seem to have another type of relationship with their parents that is based on something else - a stronger bond? Outside of the material.

Blokes can get married and move out and be impartial to whether they see their parents regularly or not, many women seem to want to keep regular contact though, and make effort for this.     

A lot of these women are starved for attention and a lot of blokes are under their wive's thumb.

Also women are more needy. 

[Ranjeet01]

4 hours ago, Premi5 said:

A father will favor the son for continuing the lineage

A father probably loves his daughter more though.

Irony is that there is going to be more expectation on the son. The favoritism will come with attachments. 

[dallysingh101]

2 hours ago, Ranjeet01 said:

A father probably loves his daughter more though.

Irony is that there is going to be more expectation on the son. The favoritism will come with attachments. 

Do you mean 'conditions' not 'attachments'? 

[dallysingh101]

I have to say though: In relation to sons always being preferred etc. 

That's bollocks now I think about it. I know hordes of Panjabi fathers that can't stand their sons (and vice versa) and are constantly dissing them! 

I meet loads of apnay blokes that are always moaning about their father's kartootaan (i.e. comparing them to themselves and others), getting so irate that the vein starts popping on their forehead when 'talking' to the son. 

I think it's Panjabi mothers that spoil their sons and think the sun shines out of their bhunds. We know they generally don't like other females from how they commonly treat their daughter in laws. 

[jjs8]

Agree with one of the posts. As a male you tend to put higher expecations on yourself. Especially when you rock a pagh, then your representing a whole community. This is when you realize you have to be thankful for what you have and just keep pushing forward. 

And when it comes to marriage just pray you get the proper partner.

Our Guru's emphasized marriage life but if nothing is really coming your way despite you making an effort then whats the point? Arrange marriage?

[Premi5]

15 minutes ago, jjs8 said:

Agree with one of the posts. As a male you tend to put higher expecations on yourself. Especially when you rock a pagh, then your representing a whole community. This is when you realize you have to be thankful for what you have and just keep pushing forward. 

And when it comes to marriage just pray you get the proper partner.

Our Guru's emphasized marriage life but if nothing is really coming your way despite you making an effort then whats the point? Arrange marriage?

Could you please clarify, I don't understand what you are saying