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Been researching up on haumai, I always thought it ment ego, but broken down it apparently means me,me or myself.

So how does one go about getting rid of thinking about myself. 

I have tried but keep using i, myself etc 

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Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that everything is in the hands of the creator…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that everyone and everything is like a puppet on a string…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that we are all actors in a movie…we just act out the part that the director instructs us to play out…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that the creator is the director…and the everything is the director’s stage…

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4 minutes ago, MokhamSingh said:

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that everything is in the hands of the creator…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that everyone and everything is like a puppet on a string…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that we are all actors in a movie…we just act out the part that the director instructs us to play out…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that the creator is the director…and the everything is the director’s stage…

Hmm but I understand this, and it still doesn't go away

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4 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

Thinking we understand it mentally and truly demonstrating it are seperated by discipline and practice. 

Yeah you are right, knowing and doing i guess. 

Har chet man mere too Gur kaa Shabad kamai.

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12 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

Hmm but I understand this, and it still doesn't go away

The reason that it doesn’t go away, is because we haven’t allowed Prakash to take place inside us…

When we hear the attributes of the the creator, through Gurbani, then Prakash begins to take place…

First of all we need to listen to the creator's attributes…

When we start to incorporate Gurmat teachings in to our daily lives, this will result in reduction of haumeh….

Without hearing about the creator's attributes, we cannot ever lose haumeh…

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1 minute ago, MokhamSingh said:

The reason that it doesn’t go away, is because we haven’t allowed Prakash to take place inside us…

When we hear the attributes of the the creator, through Gurbani, then Prakash begins to take place…

First of all we need to listen to the creator's attributes…

When we start to incorporate Gurmat teachings in to our daily lives, this will result in reduction of haumeh….

Without hearing about the creator's attributes, we cannot ever lose haumeh…

So true. Kathataa , bakataa, sunataa, soiee 

More self reflection is needed i guess

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11 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

So true. Kathataa , bakataa, sunataa, soiee 

More self reflection is needed i guess

Another important point to note, is that Haumeh has a very strong army. Kaam, krodh, lobh, and moh will also gang up on a person …

It is imperative to avoid kaami movies or net. …to avoid focus on kaami activities…to avoid allowing Krodh to infiltrate your mind…

These 5 evils can become 5 saints….

Turn krodh in to bir rass….

Turn kaam in to love….

Turn lobh and moh in to wanting to do selfless seva…

Turn haumeh in to pride…be proud of Sikhi…be proud of Gurmat…be proud of everything that Gurmat stands for…

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4 hours ago, Redoptics said:

Been researching up on haumai, I always thought it ment ego, but broken down it apparently means me,me or myself.

So how does one go about getting rid of thinking about myself. 

I have tried but keep using i, myself etc 

You can never get rid of haumai. It has it's purpose, what you shouldn't do is let it get the better of you.

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2 minutes ago, Ranjeet01 said:

You can never get rid of haumai. It has it's purpose, what you shouldn't do is let it get the better of you.

Always thought medicine was till kill the virus not deal with it 🙄 

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4 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

Always thought medicine was till kill the virus not deal with it 🙄 

I think he means for most your experience. The ego, haumai is detroyed by Akal when we receive Mukte. 

That is the final Death. The death of seperation. 

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6 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

I think he means for most your experience. The ego, haumai is detroyed by Akal when we receive Mukte. 

That is the final Death. The death of seperation. 

Ohh I understand now, thank you 

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On 9/18/2021 at 8:27 PM, Redoptics said:

Hmm but I understand this, and it still doesn't go away

It is not the understanding part but it is in the doing.

You must understand that it is a process. It does not disappear immediately, it is something you work on daily so that it starts to reduce.

My personal thief that I have a bug bear is Krodh.

It is something that I am trying to deal with but it is through Bani, Ardaas, Naam which through Maharaj's kirpa helps me find ways to deal with Krodh. 

It is through Maharaj's Kirpa which makes me think "Aah, I see where I am going wrong Guru Ji, let's try it this way"

You have to train your mindset. Think of the vice as a challenge that needs to solved and challenged and overcome. 

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On 9/18/2021 at 8:20 PM, MokhamSingh said:

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that everything is in the hands of the creator…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that everyone and everything is like a puppet on a string…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that we are all actors in a movie…we just act out the part that the director instructs us to play out…

Haumeh ceases to be when we realise that the creator is the director…and the everything is the director’s stage…

This is something I have come to realise more and more.

Sometimes I will be doing naam simran in the car on the way to work and you see people walking by going to work/ school going about their business.

And in my head I think of the Truman Show (the film with Jim Carey) and I think of the creator having a remote control in his hand where he can stop/Start/play. 

It was then I realised that I am not really Ranjeet but someone that is playing the part of Ranjeet. 

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