How to deal with death

[Redoptics]

6 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Assess both. Are you moving in the right direction? Or have you become comfortable wallowing in the pain? 

By the way, the above things (mental and physical state) are intertwined. 

Have you taken any new steps, directions? Have you started training? You're working. Have you started to buy a few bits of equipment? 

Have you had that talk with yourself telling yourself that the current situation is untenable, and you need to get to somewhere else? 

What you need is some bro to drag you out, and take you out of your zone. Shock therapy. 

This thing is not consistent,  what happens as medical doctors use, you have an episode,  yes I work i am an automation programmer for a a big company,  what happens you go through the stages of grief and you eventually come out

[dallysingh101]

2 hours ago, Redoptics said:

This thing is not consistent,  what happens as medical doctors use, you have an episode,  yes I work i am an automation programmer for a a big company,  what happens you go through the stages of grief and you eventually come out

You should be careful of being perpetually stuck in it. Like Miss Haversham in Great Expectations......

There are things you can do to speed up the process after a while. Stuff like I mentioned. 

If you got the money, you should start building your own gym. 

This thread made me think too. Because of it, earlier today, I remembered my pal in his coffin, but I was able to process things quickly and dismiss the image and emotions and move on. 

If you feel guilty about moving on from your missus, don't. She'd want that too. If she loved you, she wouldn't want to see you unhappy.   

[MisterrSingh]

22 hours ago, Redoptics said:

40 -45

So you spent a significant chunk of your life with your good lady (depending on when you got married).

What can anyone say without annoying you? What you need to hear will probably upset you, not because it's untrue, but because you're obviously still hurting.

Consider drawing a line underneath that period of your life. Not "forget" just acknowledge, appreciate, and unshackle yourself from that past. It's difficult. However, if you want to wallow, then nothing anyone says will ever be of use to you, because it just won't matter to you until you feel the need to start afresh.

[Redoptics]

57 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

So you spent a significant chunk of your life with your good lady (depending on when you got married).

What can anyone say without annoying you? What you need to hear will probably upset you, not because it's untrue, but because you're obviously still hurting.

Consider drawing a line underneath that period of your life. Not "forget" just acknowledge, appreciate, and unshackle yourself from that past. It's difficult. However, if you want to wallow, then nothing anyone says will ever be of use to you, because it just won't matter to you until you feel the need to start afresh.

"I just want peace" Tony Stark

[MisterrSingh]

6 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

"I just want peace" Tony Stark

It can't be gifted by a third party. You'll need to cultivate it yourself.

[Redoptics]

1 hour ago, MisterrSingh said:

It can't be gifted by a third party. You'll need to cultivate it yourself.

Thats the problem we are all 3rd parties , but death gives life meaning , every second we should learn 

[Kau89r8]

Question..

Will we ever see them after we leave this world?

Why do good people leave so early?

 

[Singh375]

I was 9 when my immediate family member passed away. That’s how the spiritual urge started. Might share more another time.. anyway a few points;

- when do happy people remember god? People only remember god in pain

- religion is a game, spirituality is something completely different. If your third eye opens you’re in for a big shock. Many religious folk who are famous/respected wear bana are on complete zero within.

- 1st stage of bhram gyan is called sub icha (genuine desire of enlightenment arises). Pain is the only thing which finally pushes a person hard enough towards searching inwards.

- best thing you can do for a departed soul is akhand path as per marayda then fold your hands in front of sggs ji. Transfer the worry to guru Sahib completely, then carry on with this life. Time heals wounds, scars remain. Your time to leave will come one day too. Next best thing is you reaching sachkhand yourself (your avastha reaching there via simran) people close to you automatically get liberated 

- ever wanted to see your previous life? Losing someone effects you so badly, but we all lost people in previous lives too. If you start remembering losing loved ones from previous lives you wouldn’t be able to endure the pain it would drive you mad. (Don’t set desire on seeing previous lives), those who see it through simran only see glimpses anyway. 

[Kau89r8]

Feels tough to have faith at times like this. You know how they saying goes when in rains it pours. Or when death happens back to back and unexpectedly out of the blue. You feel betrayed angry like why? Feels so numb to life everything. 

 

[MisterrSingh]

23 hours ago, Kau89r8 said:

Question..

Will we ever see them after we leave this world?

Why do good people leave so early?

 

Why do you want to see them? Do they make an effort to get in touch with you everyday? If not, would that suggest they no longer care?