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Hi loves,

As I get older, the thoughts of marriage can’t seem to stop going away. Unfortunately even though I’m Punjabi and a Sikh (still trying to become the best Sikh I could possibly be) I don’t come from a normal Sikh family. We don’t really have contact with our family and my mum is a single mother. My mum is also not religious and she doesn’t care who I marry. We’re also not in a good financial situation.  I’m wondering how can I possibly find a Sikh man who can look past that? Because as we know family is quite important in Sikhi.

I’ve talked to white men before and a lot of them have liked me and expressed interest in me but whenever I bring up Sikhi they become awkward and want to change the topic. I don’t want to marry a white man who doesn’t care about my religion. Meanwhile most Punjabi men seem to have a negative image of me for whatever reason.

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That's a big no. Make sure you are financially independant and never rely on the man for money. Seen that happen too many times and it ends up fcking the woman and kids up without them realising. 

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I'm thinking of creating a marriage app for Sikhs who are reluctant to get married but are being badgered by their parents to find a partner. I'm naming it, Hide and Sikh. ?

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Forgive me Jio. Lol. I loved the part where I said not to convert people to Sikhi. We all did in fact! I mean if they have a thing for us that bad or want the real debate they can take the mask o

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2 minutes ago, Jassu said:

Hi loves,

As I get older, the thoughts of marriage can’t seem to stop going away. Unfortunately even though I’m Punjabi and a Sikh (still trying to become the best Sikh I could possibly be) I don’t come from a normal Sikh family. We don’t really have contact with our family and my mum is a single mother. My mum is also not religious and she doesn’t care who I marry. We’re also not in a good financial situation.  I’m wondering how can I possibly find a Sikh man who can look past that? Because as we know family is quite important in Sikhi.

I’ve talked to white men before and a lot of them have liked me and expressed interest in me but whenever I bring up Sikhi they become awkward and want to change the topic. I don’t want to marry a white man who doesn’t care about my religion. Meanwhile most Punjabi men seem to have a negative image of me for whatever reason.

@dallysingh101and @GurjantGnosticare single, I think ! ?

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16 minutes ago, Jassu said:

Hi loves,

As I get older, the thoughts of marriage can’t seem to stop going away. Unfortunately even though I’m Punjabi and a Sikh (still trying to become the best Sikh I could possibly be) I don’t come from a normal Sikh family. We don’t really have contact with our family and my mum is a single mother. My mum is also not religious and she doesn’t care who I marry. We’re also not in a good financial situation.  I’m wondering how can I possibly find a Sikh man who can look past that? Because as we know family is quite important in Sikhi.

I’ve talked to white men before and a lot of them have liked me and expressed interest in me but whenever I bring up Sikhi they become awkward and want to change the topic. I don’t want to marry a white man who doesn’t care about my religion. Meanwhile most Punjabi men seem to have a negative image of me for whatever reason.

I think usually people find rishtas from the networks of people they already know. Idk as I’m not currently married and haven’t gone through that process. You should be upfront about who you are. 

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Just now, Jacfsing2 said:

I think usually people find rishtas from the networks of people they already know. Idk as I’m not currently married and haven’t gone through that process. You should be upfront about who you are. 

I am upfront about who I am. The only men who are kind and show interest in me are white men and Punjabi men don’t like me for some reason. Or they just want to use me. I don’t have a network, that’s the issue. Should I try Sikh dating sites? lol but that’s awkward

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1 minute ago, Jassu said:

I am upfront about who I am. The only men who are kind and show interest in me are white men and Punjabi men don’t like me for some reason. Or they just want to use me. I don’t have a network, that’s the issue. Should I try Sikh dating sites? lol but that’s awkward

I think it’s easier for girls to find mates than guys on dating sites. ? 

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12 minutes ago, Jassu said:

I am upfront about who I am. The only men who are kind and show interest in me are white men and Punjabi men don’t like me for some reason. Or they just want to use me. I don’t have a network, that’s the issue. Should I try Sikh dating sites? lol but that’s awkward

Which town/city are you  based in ?

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