What is the right age to get married?

[jkvlondon]

6 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I think men in general don’t really care how educated or how much money a woman makes when looking for a partner. I don’t think men and women should look for the same qualities in the other person tbh. 

not true panjabi guys are looking for girls who can pave the way out of the current panjab and become wage slaves in the new country.

[Jacfsing2]

37 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

not true panjabi guys are looking for girls who can pave the way out of the current panjab and become wage slaves in the new country.

Ok, maybe they want to be househusbands  

[jkvlondon]

Just now, Jacfsing2 said:

Ok, maybe they want to be househusbands  

no they want to be playas with wifey doing the donkey work ... and then they also want to enforce it with violence/intimidation tactics like I will divorce/kill you if you don't do as I want.

[dallysingh101]

5 hours ago, Jassu said:

Update:

I read through all the pages and I can’t reply to everyone but I did notice all the posts and I thank everyone for them!

I want to write an update about the Dutch guy. Tbh I feel that he’s really interested in me! I’ve told him my life story and he seems to have empathy! I was talking to him about my identity and my religion and he personally said he doesn’t believe in God. He said ‘I’m unsure if I can believe in a God when the world is like this’. I told him, ‘maybe if we all believed in God, the world would be better!’.

Tbh, some things about me him turn me off because he is very arrogant. He randomly mentioned how he has a Tesla. I told him I don’t know anyone in the Netherlands (no family & no friends) and don’t speak Dutch so how could I possibly find a decent job? He said that ‘it’s fine you have me’ and he said ‘trust me you don’t need to work’ with a winky face! Tbh his family is wealthy but still this is strange! As everyone knows women in the Netherlands are very independent and feminist. 

On the bright side, he really seems keen to know more about Punjabi culture, he calls it desi culture and he said there are lots of Indians in Amstelveen. He even asked if he would have to convert to marry me! I told him the truth and said no it’s not required but I would prefer it and he said he can’t keep long hair! But he seems more and more kind and interested the more I keep talking about myself.  There is something strange though, he told me his brother has a Syrian gf! I was a bit shocked when I heard that. Idk, it just seemed strange.

He is really persistent! When I told him I’m more interested in Sikh/Punjabi men because they would understand me better, he said ‘but I’m willing to understand your culture for you’! He also messages me almost every night! Honestly it seems too good to be true like a fairytale! I’m so confused.

What I don't get is, if he is so good looking and wealthy, how comes he isn't with a top local women? 

[dallysingh101]

6 hours ago, Jassu said:

Hi, I use a VPN and my location changes like 3 times sometimes (Netherlands, UK & US). I am not a troll though and I started this topic out of genuine concern.  This is also my first account! I can provide evidence in DMs that I am who I say I am and we can even talk on the phone or whatnot!

Be a bit careful of giving out your number to random blokes women! You don't want to attract a Peter Sutcliffe type!  lol

[Jacfsing2]

13 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

What I don't get is, if he is so good looking and wealthy, how comes he isn't with a local women? 

I think there’s something serious that Dutch man isn’t telling OP or a deep secret life that is hidden. We can notice how on superficial topics, he seems on point; but as soon as deeper topics come he seems to deflect the conversation. 

[dallysingh101]

7 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I think there’s something serious that Dutch man isn’t telling OP or a deep secret life that is hidden. We can notice how on superficial topics, he seems on point; but as soon as deeper topics come he seems to deflect the conversation. 

He might well be rich and already have a broad, and want some 'exotic' piece on the side for extra fun? 

Many rich, successful blokes do that. Plus if he thinks she is financially struggling, he might think that throwing some money her way will keep her placated. Who knows? 

Plus not being God fearing............hhhmmmmmmm..........

 

OP, if you do decide to go and meet him, be REAL careful. 

[Kaurr]

11 hours ago, Jassu said:

Tbh, some things about me him turn me off because he is very arrogant. He randomly mentioned how he has a Tesla. I told him I don’t know anyone in the Netherlands (no family & no friends) and don’t speak Dutch so how could I possibly find a decent job? He said that ‘it’s fine you have me’ and he said ‘trust me you don’t need to work’ with a winky face! Tbh his family is wealthy but still this is strange! As everyone knows women in the Netherlands are very independent and feminist. 

 

That's a big no. Make sure you are financially independant and never rely on the man for money. Seen that happen too many times and it ends up fcking the woman and kids up without them realising. 

[proactive]

11 hours ago, Jassu said:

Update:

I read through all the pages and I can’t reply to everyone but I did notice all the posts and I thank everyone for them!

I want to write an update about the Dutch guy. Tbh I feel that he’s really interested in me! I’ve told him my life story and he seems to have empathy! I was talking to him about my identity and my religion and he personally said he doesn’t believe in God. He said ‘I’m unsure if I can believe in a God when the world is like this’. I told him, ‘maybe if we all believed in God, the world would be better!’.

Tbh, some things about me him turn me off because he is very arrogant. He randomly mentioned how he has a Tesla. I told him I don’t know anyone in the Netherlands (no family & no friends) and don’t speak Dutch so how could I possibly find a decent job? He said that ‘it’s fine you have me’ and he said ‘trust me you don’t need to work’ with a winky face! Tbh his family is wealthy but still this is strange! As everyone knows women in the Netherlands are very independent and feminist. 

On the bright side, he really seems keen to know more about Punjabi culture, he calls it desi culture and he said there are lots of Indians in Amstelveen. He even asked if he would have to convert to marry me! I told him the truth and said no it’s not required but I would prefer it and he said he can’t keep long hair! But he seems more and more kind and interested the more I keep talking about myself.  There is something strange though, he told me his brother has a Syrian gf! I was a bit shocked when I heard that. Idk, it just seemed strange.

He is really persistent! When I told him I’m more interested in Sikh/Punjabi men because they would understand me better, he said ‘but I’m willing to understand your culture for you’! He also messages me almost every night! Honestly it seems too good to be true like a fairytale! I’m so confused.

I'll be honest with you, it looks like the guy is a fake. If he was really so rich and successful, he would be living his life, wining and dining women in real life, he would be fighting off women throwing themselves at him because of his wealth, why would he spend time and effort chatting online with someone in another country. The only reason is HE IS A FAKE. He probably lives with his parents, has a low value job if he has a job at all, and your chats with him allow him to build up his self esteem and you spending time with him and buying into his BS is just massaging his ego. No successful and wealthy man spends time online chatting with women in other countries when he can have as many women as he can handle in real life. 

Now just read all that again and if you are still think this he could be real, then I suggest the easiest way to frame this would be for you to change places with him. If you were rich and successful and you had men showing interest in you all day in the UK, would you be spending time online speaking to a Dutch guy of limited means? Sorry if this is being too blunt for you, but as a Sikh I need to do what I can to stop a fellow Sikh from making a mistake that could well ruin her life. 

[proactive]

6 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

He might well be rich and already have a broad, and want some 'exotic' piece on the side for extra fun? 

Many rich, successful blokes do that. Plus if he thinks she is financially struggling, he might think that throwing some money her way will keep her placated. Who knows? 

Plus not being God fearing............hhhmmmmmmm..........

 

OP, if you do decide to go and meet him, be REAL careful. 

He could easily pick up as many exotic women from Amsterdam if he is as rich and as successful as he claims to be. Rich and successful men value their time immensely, they allocate each minute to activities which will further them financially, they do not have time to chat online with women from abroad.  As the classic cartoon from the early days of the internet pointed out-;