What is the right age to get married?

[GurjantGnostic]

2 hours ago, Jassu said:

Oh yeah I think he is kind of weird at times to be so obsessed with me even though I rejected him sometimes (like I straight up told him it’s impossible for me to be his gf). But I’m kind of attached to him. He is really kind and talks to me about issues. He also doesn’t like Muslims and we joked together that one day Muslims will be gathering in the streets and saying let’s kill/convert whitey and he said you’re a Sikh you’re supposed to protect meeee lol. He is really cute sometimes. I told him I’d be lonely in the Netherlands if I were to go there since I don’t know anyone and he said don’t worry I work from home and you’ll always have me to cuddle with and you can read your Sikh history and teach me about it too and that he’ll help me go to university in the Netherlands lol. He even offered to come to Manc when I said I’d be uncomfortable going to Amsterdam alone.

But yeah it’s kind of a red flag that he acts so perfect and understanding. Well, that’s what sucks about the internet. 

Nothing you just demonstrated reflects Sikh values. 

[Jassu]

Just now, GurjantGnostic said:

Nothing you just demonstrated reflects Sikh values. 

I know I was just venting.

[GurjantGnostic]

4 minutes ago, Jassu said:

I know I was just venting.

Well this is a Sikh forum. Maybe you should stay away from politics or lifestyle posts until you understand Gurmat. 

[Jassu]

Just now, GurjantGnostic said:

Well this is a Sikh forum. Maybe you should stay away from politics or lifestyle posts until you understand Gurmat. 

Ok sorry my dude whatever you say 

[GurjantGnostic]

7 minutes ago, Jassu said:

Ok sorry my dude whatever you say 

It's okay to be whatever wretch you are. But what is important is you understand Gurbani, Gurmat, Ithias and can distinguish between Sikhi and you. And not change the first to suit the lower standards of the latter. 

[GurjantGnostic]

I think if you were to reapproach this forum with questions pertaining to Gurmat, or statements in line with Gurmat, you would find yourself interfacing with it in an entirely different way. 

[Jassu]

2 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

It's okay to be whatever wretch you are. But what is important is you understand Gurbani, Gurmat, Ithias and can distinguish between Sikhi and you. And not change the first to suit the lower standards of the latter. 

ok

[Guest Marriage]

Hey Jassu, just wondering where are you from?? 

[Guest guest]

On 11/14/2021 at 4:38 PM, Jassu said:

 

As I get older, the thoughts of marriage can’t seem to stop going away. Unfortunately even though I’m Punjabi and a Sikh (still trying to become the best Sikh I could possibly be) I don’t come from a normal Sikh family. We don’t really have contact with our family and my mum is a single mother. My mum is also not religious and she doesn’t care who I marry. We’re also not in a good financial situation.  I’m wondering how can I possibly find a Sikh man who can look past that? Because as we know family is quite important in Sikhi.

 

i dont think any sikh man cares about you coming from a single parent home, not having an extended family, or your family's financial condition.  seriously.   you clearly don't know many sikh people?

in fact not having to deal with your extended family/ relatives is a bonus.  and its not like any man expects his wife to be the breadwinner.  you mum sounds very relaxed and that too is a bonus.  better than an overly formal, interfering mother-in-law.

good on your for wanting to marry in your religion.