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On 11/19/2021 at 8:35 AM, Jassu said:

Hi, I use a VPN and my location changes like 3 times sometimes (Netherlands, UK & US). I am not a troll though and I started this topic out of genuine concern. 🙂 This is also my first account! I can provide evidence in DMs that I am who I say I am and we can even talk on the phone or whatnot!

Not sketchy at all. Ahem. 

And no talking on the phone and whatnot. Paath and Rishta is your lane, stay in it. 

And even if I was the kinda dude to be chatting you up, I certainly would not while you string on some dude in the Netherlands. 

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Forgive me Jio. Lol. I loved the part where I said not to convert people to Sikhi. We all did in fact! I mean if they have a thing for us that bad or want the real debate they can take the mask o

That's a big no. Make sure you are financially independant and never rely on the man for money. Seen that happen too many times and it ends up fcking the woman and kids up without them realising. 

I'm thinking of creating a marriage app for Sikhs who are reluctant to get married but are being badgered by their parents to find a partner. I'm naming it, Hide and Sikh. 😅

On 12/7/2021 at 2:25 AM, Guest Guest Singh 2099 said:

Hello, I too am a similar age @Jassu . I have a decent job and mainly keep to myself. I don't cut my hair and go gurdwara a fair amount. Am also looking to meet somebody. Wanna talk for a bit 😂 ?

 

Dating is a broad word, encompassing far more than the sham marriage most people represent it as. 

Bro. Don't even chat up these girls. You're right back to dating Ji. Right back to pandering. Right back to all that going wrong. 

Get rock solid in that Rehit and have it arranged with an equally rock solid Sighni. Everything else is just bad waiting to happen. 

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3 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

Get rock solid in that Rehit and have it arranged with an equally rock solid Sighni. Everything else is just bad waiting to happen. 

I might say something controversial, but if a Kaur is strict in her Rehat, she can find a rishta much more easily than a guy who's strict in his rehat, because of how demographically screwed the system is. 🤷‍♂️

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12 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I might say something controversial, but if a Kaur is strict in her Rehat, she can find a rishta much more easily than a guy who's strict in his rehat, because of how demographically screwed the system is. 🤷‍♂️

Yeah. I hear that. Can't fix it, just be in the top 5 percent for Sharda and call it good. The rest is Har Kirpa. 

If any of us was really living up to it we'd have more than one to pick from or more than one to pick. 

Sucks that demographically that's true. Women, in general, and as a generaization it does not apply to those awesome Kaurs out there and on here, but yeah...women don't become loyal to groups or accept resrtictions with as much ease. And it's evidenced by the lack of Amritdhari females with Sharda and Rehit. A lot of women are blind to their ego and selfishness. Dudes too, but men are labeled with egos, no avoiding it, and these women... I'm not sure they even realize they have one and how out of control it is.  

Bro. For any single Singhs actually looking maybe hit up @jkvlondon her sister was absolutely failed and leant on by a douche dude. Be a Gursikh, calm temperment, hard working, appreciative. She was the man, the woman and the whipping boy last go. So you know she's solid and deserving. Just meet her half way and don't be a complete pos. No drinking damnit. I'm watching y'all. 

That's a proven Singhni with good family. That's top tier gents. You oughta form an orderly queue. 

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On 11/19/2021 at 9:54 AM, Jassu said:

I told him the truth and said no it’s not required but I would prefer it and he said he can’t keep long hair!

! I’m so confused. :(

Belief in God is worth very little. Devotion is another matter. Rehit is another matter. 

That's not the Truth I've heard. I was informed Anand Karaj is for Sikhs, and Amritdhari ones at that. 

That's not confusion it's Kaam and attention seeking. 

Good luck. 

Try Sikhi. 

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On 12/8/2021 at 12:22 PM, GurjantGnostic said:

There's a lot, a lot of, a lot of benefits beyond that. It's just a hyper focus, especially for us, because we stay chaste, so for us it's all our lovin. 

I’ll be honest, I don’t see what someone else can do for me especially if they have nothing to offer that I can’t do for myself. 🤷‍♂️. Marriage is only worth it if both parties are offering something that the other doesn’t have. 

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On 12/10/2021 at 5:27 AM, Jacfsing2 said:

I’ll be honest, I don’t see what someone else can do for me especially if they have nothing to offer that I can’t do for myself. 🤷‍♂️. Marriage is only worth it if both parties are offering something that the other doesn’t have. 

Outside of sex bro, but related, you aren't getting babies on your own and if you do, like adoption or something, how you gonna take care of them? It takes like three people to raise a baby. 

Two, you only have your perspective. Females have other ways of going about things, that are deep and emotional and have their own perspective that you don't get alone. A female perspective you can't have alone. 

Wouldn't cohabitating and living a Gursikh lifestyle be nicer with a Sighni to do Ishnaan with, your Paath, cook together, eat together, talk, pack healthy food for the day, be dressed properly, do Shastar Vidya, study things? Somebody to watch your back in social settings where your male self is stupid?

I mean...does it sound nicer to have your Kesh done and Kamarkasa held by a Sighni or a dude bro? Back rub from me or a Singhni? I mean... I'll rub your back bro ..but like isn't that scene better without me in it? Lol. 

You have somebody to do Shastar Vidya with? Do Kirtan with? For Kirtan, you can play tabla and rubab and sing harmonies?  

Ick du Sadh Sangat. 

Your house is a microcosmic Gurudwara. Have a male and a female Sevadar. 

What if she doesn't have much to offer you but you have a lot to offer her, like a non sexual marriage to get a Gursikh out of Afghanistan etc?

What about business? You think the male outlook is the only one that makes money? You already have the male outlook. 

Let's say you have a degree of well honed interest, and she does too, they probably aren't in the same field. 

Sexes aside having a wingman is key bro. 

The only way the Paanth exists is through Grishti Jeevan, but we also have our Faujs dude. You can join the brotherhood and be mobile. 

We all get old bro. Might want to do it with somebody and have as much family as possible. That or..literally and actually no bs get to a certain age or capacity and Shaheed out bro. Not many people built for that. Maintain life insurance that pays out to a Gursikh. Strive for your fighting best in terms of health and technique, have a go bag and money set aside for deploying and when you hit a certain peak, go do something final. 

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