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6 hours ago, Suchi said:

Don't throw away the potential of a loving caring relationship for something you only recently decided was 'a big aspect' of your life.  Unless you are prepared to face the real fact of being single your whole life. 

Love conquers all. Isn't that what all religions are about anyway, except for those that exclude unbelievers?

The fact you have your mother's support should be your first consideration. 

Why not invite him over and then see where it goes without predetermining an outcome. And involve your mum in the process? 

 

 

She should find a Sikh bro. If not, at least somebody with a deep respect for her and it. That's a lapse judgemental christian I guarantee it. And he won't have anyone other than Jesus in his kids life even though he has zero sharda or rehit in his faith. 

He'd lay pipe with Bhenji though so there's that. 

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That's a big no. Make sure you are financially independant and never rely on the man for money. Seen that happen too many times and it ends up fcking the woman and kids up without them realising. 

I'm thinking of creating a marriage app for Sikhs who are reluctant to get married but are being badgered by their parents to find a partner. I'm naming it, Hide and Sikh. 😅

Forgive me Jio. Lol. I loved the part where I said not to convert people to Sikhi. We all did in fact! I mean if they have a thing for us that bad or want the real debate they can take the mask o

6 hours ago, Suchi said:

Don't throw away the potential of a loving caring relationship for something you only recently decided was 'a big aspect' of your life.  Unless you are prepared to face the real fact of being single your whole life. 

Love conquers all. Isn't that what all religions are about anyway, except for those that exclude unbelievers?

The fact you have your mother's support should be your first consideration. 

Why not invite him over and then see where it goes without predetermining an outcome. And involve your mum in the process? 

Our religion teaches “Jagat Meh Jhooti Dekhhi Preet”, Not “love conquers all”. 
 

Religion is not a “big aspect of life”, but a core tenant to someone’s identity. 

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19 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Our religion teaches “Jagat Meh Jhooti Dekhhi Preet”, Not “love conquers all”. 
 

Religion is not a “big aspect of life”, but a core tenant to someone’s identity. 

I'm using her own words if you care to read her posts. It's clear she hasn't any Sikh male friends, doesn't like or relate to them.

So with this Dutch guy showing interest she could try and learn more about where his views on various topics lie. Before giving up altogether. Especially as they are clearly friends and attracted to each other. 

 

 

 

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55 minutes ago, Suchi said:

I'm using her own words if you care to read her posts. It's clear she hasn't any Sikh male friends, doesn't like or relate to them.

So with this Dutch guy showing interest she could try and learn more about where his views on various topics lie. Before giving up altogether. Especially as they are clearly friends and attracted to each other.

If he’s hostile to even hearing about Sikhi, that’s not a good match. Keep those people as friends, but no more. 

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19 minutes ago, S1ngh said:

Admin Note: Whether you are troll or not (not easy to spot) but you are completely off the region you are mentioning and stressing on several replies that you are from this area which is 1000's of miles away from where you are posting from.... Please do note that we have many trolls where they post such topics pretending to be a sikh munda or kuri and then a story starts... i like non-sikh guys etc.. Not sure the purpose but we have seen the trend where sickos try to bring our kaum's morale down by such threads. Hope you are not one of them but sangat are aware of such things. 

I’m not OP but in general, what would you consider a good age to start looking for rishta? 

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42 minutes ago, S1ngh said:

Admin Note: Whether you are troll or not (not easy to spot) but you are completely off the region you are mentioning and stressing on several replies that you are from this area which is 1000's of miles away from where you are posting from....

So is the op genuine from where they say they are ji? 

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@Jassu

What made you get into Sikhi two years ago? 

BTW: In another thread you were talking about 'kinky stuff' and how you don't like it. I don't know if you've heard about Holland, but it's considered the 'motherland' of this type of stuff by many. 

Also, if you do decide to try with a desi guy, let me warn you, I've talked to many, and they have a strong aversion to 'breadhan brudhaan' so if you don't know already, you should learn how to make rotis and Panjabi food. They'd be taking them to work. 

Can you speak Panjabi?

 

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Cocaine-fuelled bullying husband, 47, who stabbed his wife 18 times after searching gay porn on his computer is jailed for 22 years for her murder

  • Anil Gill stabbed wife Ranjit in the living room of their home in Milton Keynes 
  • He then wrapped her body in a duvet and hid in garage  on January this year
  • Husband had regularly hit or slapped his wife and also struck her round head 
  • Gill was found guilty of the murder of Ranjit by a jury at Luton Crown Court

Anil Gill (pictured), 47, stabbed his wife Ranjit 18 times at their property in Milton Keynes on January 31. He was found guilty of the murder by a jury at Luton Crown Court

Ranjit's family described her as 'ray of light that will never be extinguished' during the trial

 

A cocaine-fuelled husband who stabbed his wife to death after searching gay porn on his computer has been sentenced to a minimum of 22 years in jail.

Anil Gill, 47, stabbed his wife Ranjit 18 times in the living room of their Milton Keynes home before wrapping her body in a duvet and hiding it in their garage on January 31 this year.

He then set about cleaning the murder scene using bleach before calling the police hours later.

On Friday, Gill was found guilty of the murder of 43-year-old Ranjit by a jury at Luton Crown Court.

Jailing him for life, Judge Mark Bishop said: 'It was a furious and savage attack with a knife, inflicting eighteen wounds - some of great depth. The last wound was to cut her throat. It was a ruthless, cold blooded attack.' 

He went on: 'It was committed with a knife taken from the kitchen. It was a prolonged and ferocious attack. There were four fatal wounds and some at considerable depth.

'You killed her when you had taken significant quantities of cocaine. It was in her home where she should have felt safe.'

As the judge the sentenced him to a minimum term, members of Ranjit's family said 'Yes.' 

Over the years the husband had regularly shouted at his wife, hit or slapped her and, on one occasion, had struck her around her head.

Once he had kicked her ankle and there had been another time when he hit her across her back with a plank.

He had threatened her with a knife and had pushed her down the stairs.

And on another occasion he was said to have threatened Ranjit with a Japanese sword and held a knife to her neck. 

During the month long trial, Luton Crown Court heard that when Ranjit's sister advised her to leave her husband, she told her sibling that if she did, she feared 'he would hunt her down and kill her.'

In the early hours of January 31 this year the couple were at their home after an evening spent taking cocaine and drinking.

Shortly before the killing the husband had been on his computer searching gay porn sites; one search term used had been 'Cocaine brings out the gay in me.'

At around 1am a neighbour had gone to bed when she had heard the sound of a woman screaming followed by a 'thumping or pounding sound.'

Charles Ward-Jackson prosecuting said: 'It's very likely she heard the sound of Ranjit being stabbed to death.'

After killing his wife, Gill spent the next few hours cleaning up and wrapping up his wife's body in a duvet and black bin liners, which he then dragged to the garage.

He cleaned the carpet in the living room using bleach and the two knives were put in a bin bag, having been cleaned. At around 10am that morning he finally called the police.

Gill was found guilty of his wife's murder after the jury rejected his claims during the trial that he had lost self control and acted in a 'frenzy' after she had taunted him about an affair she had. 

He had earlier admitted his wife's manslaughter. 

During the trial, the court heard at first the couple's marriage was a happy one, but after they moved from Bedford to Milton Keynes where he lost his well paid job and she had health problems, their relationship changed.

In 2018, the police had attended the couple's home following an incident between them, but when she refused to tell officers what had happened, no action was taken.

From then on, the jury was told, to cope with the abuse Ranjit began drinking heavily and, in the summer of 2020, she had an affair with a man who would supply her with drugs.

Towards the end of the year Ranjit had called a domestic violence charity hotline and the husband was also looking into starting possible divorce proceedings.

Mr Ward-Jackson said in the weeks leading up to the killing both were drinking to excess and taking cocaine bought from the man Ranjit had been seeing.

The court heard that having been arrested and taken into custody, Gill was seen by a psychiatric nurse and told him how he didn't drink and never took drugs, which was not true.

He claimed he had agreed to take alcohol and cocaine the previous night and the combination had 'turned him into a killer.'

But the prosecution said a sample of the husband's hair was taken for analysis and revealed traces of cocaine in it, showing he had to have been taking the drug from late December of 2020 to late January of 2021 and not just the night before.

Following the sentencing, Ranjit's brother Raj Sagoo said: 'As a family we can be talking about anything and then suddenly out of nowhere Ranjit is the topic of conversation again and the horrors of what happened come back, it never leaves me, she is always there in my mind, always a void now in my life and that of my family's life.

'A void that will never heal. Imagine, anyone that reads or hears this, imagine for one moment that a person you loved was killed in such a violent and callous way, ask yourself if you could put it into words like I have been asked to do. 

'I can't tell you how I am feeling, it is impossible to put into words how sitting through this trial and hearing the horrors makes me feel.

'I will always hold Ranjit in my heart and I hope that she is at peace, resting easy with the knowledge that she is safe and that real justice is served.'

Ranjit's sister Tejinder McCann said: 'My baby sister was taken away from me by a man who was supposed to have cared and loved her in sickness and health. 

A cordon around the couple's home in Milton Keynes after the murder in January this year

'I will never be able to hug her, dance with her or go out with her ever again. Christmas, birthdays will never be the same for me and my family.

'Ranjit you loved us so much, and you were truly an angel. May you shine down on us with your ray of light that will never be extinguished. We love you Ranjit always and forever.' 

Kamel Aujla, sister of Ranjit, said: 'I am the sister of Ranjit also known affectionately to me as Nita. I have sat and listened to the evidence in court and it has made me feel sick, hurt and disgusted.

'Even now he does not fully accept what he has done, I see and hear no remorse, he puts all the blame on Nita, and minimises what he has done with claiming loss of control. 

'I will never forget the hurt, it hurts every day, I miss her every day, he will have his life back one day, I won't, my sister will not have her life.

'If you are in an abusive relationship, please leave, please get help. Don't become a statistic like my sister. She was special, she was worthwhile and she wasn't alone. She was enough, more than enough.' 

And senior investigation officer, Detective Inspector Nicola Douglas of Thames Valley Police's Major Crime Unit, said: 'The only sentence for murder is life imprisonment. 

'HHJ Bishop described this murder as ruthless and cold-blooded with a significant number of aggravating factors. I am satisfied the minimum term to be served of 22 years reflects the severity of this awful crime.

'I would like to again pay tribute and thank the family of Ranjit who have shown such dignity in the most terrible of circumstances.

'Domestic violence and abuse is not acceptable and people should not have to suffer at the hands of someone else.

'I would encourage anyone who is being abused by a partner or family member to please report it.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10203715/Cocaine-fuelled-bullying-husband-47-stabbed-wife-18-times-jailed-22-years.html

 

 

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41 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

@Jassu

What made you get into Sikhi two years ago? 

BTW: In another thread you were talking about 'kinky stuff' and how you don't like it. I don't know if you've heard about Holland, but it's considered the 'motherland' of this type of stuff by many. 

Also, if you do decide to try with a desi guy, let me warn you, I've talked to many, and they have a strong aversion to 'breadhan brudhaan' so if you don't know already, you should learn how to make rotis and Panjabi food. They'd be taking them to work. 

Can you speak Panjabi?

I'm sure some Desi men would be more kinky if it wasn't so negative to talk about

 

24 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

It's very important to know what you are getting into:

 

 

Cocaine-fuelled bullying husband, 47, who stabbed his wife 18 times after searching gay porn on his computer is jailed for 22 years for her murder

  • Anil Gill stabbed wife Ranjit in the living room of their home in Milton Keynes 
  • He then wrapped her body in a duvet and hid in garage  on January this year
  • Husband had regularly hit or slapped his wife and also struck her round head 
  • Gill was found guilty of the murder of Ranjit by a jury at Luton Crown Court

Anil Gill (pictured), 47, stabbed his wife Ranjit 18 times at their property in Milton Keynes on January 31. He was found guilty of the murder by a jury at Luton Crown Court

Ranjit's family described her as 'ray of light that will never be extinguished' during the trial

 

A cocaine-fuelled husband who stabbed his wife to death after searching gay porn on his computer has been sentenced to a minimum of 22 years in jail.

Anil Gill, 47, stabbed his wife Ranjit 18 times in the living room of their Milton Keynes home before wrapping her body in a duvet and hiding it in their garage on January 31 this year.

He then set about cleaning the murder scene using bleach before calling the police hours later.

On Friday, Gill was found guilty of the murder of 43-year-old Ranjit by a jury at Luton Crown Court.

Jailing him for life, Judge Mark Bishop said: 'It was a furious and savage attack with a knife, inflicting eighteen wounds - some of great depth. The last wound was to cut her throat. It was a ruthless, cold blooded attack.' 

He went on: 'It was committed with a knife taken from the kitchen. It was a prolonged and ferocious attack. There were four fatal wounds and some at considerable depth.

'You killed her when you had taken significant quantities of cocaine. It was in her home where she should have felt safe.'

As the judge the sentenced him to a minimum term, members of Ranjit's family said 'Yes.' 

Over the years the husband had regularly shouted at his wife, hit or slapped her and, on one occasion, had struck her around her head.

Once he had kicked her ankle and there had been another time when he hit her across her back with a plank.

He had threatened her with a knife and had pushed her down the stairs.

And on another occasion he was said to have threatened Ranjit with a Japanese sword and held a knife to her neck. 

During the month long trial, Luton Crown Court heard that when Ranjit's sister advised her to leave her husband, she told her sibling that if she did, she feared 'he would hunt her down and kill her.'

In the early hours of January 31 this year the couple were at their home after an evening spent taking cocaine and drinking.

Shortly before the killing the husband had been on his computer searching gay porn sites; one search term used had been 'Cocaine brings out the gay in me.'

At around 1am a neighbour had gone to bed when she had heard the sound of a woman screaming followed by a 'thumping or pounding sound.'

Charles Ward-Jackson prosecuting said: 'It's very likely she heard the sound of Ranjit being stabbed to death.'

After killing his wife, Gill spent the next few hours cleaning up and wrapping up his wife's body in a duvet and black bin liners, which he then dragged to the garage.

He cleaned the carpet in the living room using bleach and the two knives were put in a bin bag, having been cleaned. At around 10am that morning he finally called the police.

Gill was found guilty of his wife's murder after the jury rejected his claims during the trial that he had lost self control and acted in a 'frenzy' after she had taunted him about an affair she had. 

He had earlier admitted his wife's manslaughter. 

During the trial, the court heard at first the couple's marriage was a happy one, but after they moved from Bedford to Milton Keynes where he lost his well paid job and she had health problems, their relationship changed.

In 2018, the police had attended the couple's home following an incident between them, but when she refused to tell officers what had happened, no action was taken.

From then on, the jury was told, to cope with the abuse Ranjit began drinking heavily and, in the summer of 2020, she had an affair with a man who would supply her with drugs.

Towards the end of the year Ranjit had called a domestic violence charity hotline and the husband was also looking into starting possible divorce proceedings.

Mr Ward-Jackson said in the weeks leading up to the killing both were drinking to excess and taking cocaine bought from the man Ranjit had been seeing.

The court heard that having been arrested and taken into custody, Gill was seen by a psychiatric nurse and told him how he didn't drink and never took drugs, which was not true.

He claimed he had agreed to take alcohol and cocaine the previous night and the combination had 'turned him into a killer.'

But the prosecution said a sample of the husband's hair was taken for analysis and revealed traces of cocaine in it, showing he had to have been taking the drug from late December of 2020 to late January of 2021 and not just the night before.

Following the sentencing, Ranjit's brother Raj Sagoo said: 'As a family we can be talking about anything and then suddenly out of nowhere Ranjit is the topic of conversation again and the horrors of what happened come back, it never leaves me, she is always there in my mind, always a void now in my life and that of my family's life.

'A void that will never heal. Imagine, anyone that reads or hears this, imagine for one moment that a person you loved was killed in such a violent and callous way, ask yourself if you could put it into words like I have been asked to do. 

'I can't tell you how I am feeling, it is impossible to put into words how sitting through this trial and hearing the horrors makes me feel.

'I will always hold Ranjit in my heart and I hope that she is at peace, resting easy with the knowledge that she is safe and that real justice is served.'

Ranjit's sister Tejinder McCann said: 'My baby sister was taken away from me by a man who was supposed to have cared and loved her in sickness and health. 

A cordon around the couple's home in Milton Keynes after the murder in January this year

'I will never be able to hug her, dance with her or go out with her ever again. Christmas, birthdays will never be the same for me and my family.

'Ranjit you loved us so much, and you were truly an angel. May you shine down on us with your ray of light that will never be extinguished. We love you Ranjit always and forever.' 

Kamel Aujla, sister of Ranjit, said: 'I am the sister of Ranjit also known affectionately to me as Nita. I have sat and listened to the evidence in court and it has made me feel sick, hurt and disgusted.

'Even now he does not fully accept what he has done, I see and hear no remorse, he puts all the blame on Nita, and minimises what he has done with claiming loss of control. 

'I will never forget the hurt, it hurts every day, I miss her every day, he will have his life back one day, I won't, my sister will not have her life.

'If you are in an abusive relationship, please leave, please get help. Don't become a statistic like my sister. She was special, she was worthwhile and she wasn't alone. She was enough, more than enough.' 

And senior investigation officer, Detective Inspector Nicola Douglas of Thames Valley Police's Major Crime Unit, said: 'The only sentence for murder is life imprisonment. 

'HHJ Bishop described this murder as ruthless and cold-blooded with a significant number of aggravating factors. I am satisfied the minimum term to be served of 22 years reflects the severity of this awful crime.

'I would like to again pay tribute and thank the family of Ranjit who have shown such dignity in the most terrible of circumstances.

'Domestic violence and abuse is not acceptable and people should not have to suffer at the hands of someone else.

'I would encourage anyone who is being abused by a partner or family member to please report it.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10203715/Cocaine-fuelled-bullying-husband-47-stabbed-wife-18-times-jailed-22-years.html

I'm sorry if this is the wrong time to bring this up, but gay men shouldn't marry women and lesbian women shouldn't marry men.

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13 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

Had to be an arranged marriage, both probably ended up pushing each other's buttons. Don't know why he was browsing gandu stuff, though unless he was an undercover one himself. 

Well...like the man said...cocaine brings out the gay in me...yep..had to double check.. that's what he said. 

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8 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I'm sure some Desi men would be more kinky if it wasn't so negative to talk about

 

I'm sorry if this is the wrong time to bring this up, but gay men shouldn't marry women and lesbian women shouldn't marry men.

It works for some truly honest people. It's not...optimal.

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