Panjab marriages and exodus

[5aaban]

17 minutes ago, Kaurr said:

I get why these people move abroad, my parents did the same after they couldn't find a well paying job even through they worked their arses off for their degrees. But I feel like instead of running away from the problem, which is what is happening, and glorifying it in the name of the Punjabi entertainment, why not fix it.

 

At least you know some people working hard for degrees. The type of youth I've met in Panjab just pay to pass their exams to get certificates so they end up with a useless certificate and no knowledge, and they waste their parents money in cities watching movies with bf/gf's or at  big shopping malls etc. 

[Kaurr]

Just now, 5aaban said:

One of mine had a great job but moved due to family pressure. I hope to move to Panjab one day. 

Family pressure? Wow. A lot of my extended family are pretty rich and have really good jobs and connections so they're staying there for another couple of generations. 

I'm not looking to move back to Punjab cause I've seen the mentalities of the people and the way they think, tbh I'm so grateful my parents moved here or otherwise I probably would have been surrounded by these brainwashed people and become like them. However, if everything goes well, I am looking to go to Punjab and potentially open up an industry or a business there to create jobs. Also looking to do seva with the Sikhs in full poverty, esp those who suffered a lot from 1984.

[Kaurr]

1 minute ago, 5aaban said:

At least you know some people working hard for degrees. The type of youth I've met in Panjab just pay to pass their exams to get certificates so they have a useless degree but no knowledge, and they waste their parents money in cities watching movies with bf/gf's, eating at restaurants, shopping malls etc. 

Oh the people that have moved abroad as young people in my family have been repaying their parents back and been working pretty hard abroad to pay for themselves. It's sad to see the kids not taking any responsibilities or becoming independent. We're not going to get anywhere if our majority can't look after themselves. 

[5aaban]

On 1/31/2022 at 11:39 AM, Kaurr said:

Family pressure? Wow. A lot of my extended family are pretty rich and have really good jobs and connections so they're staying there for another couple of generations. 

I'm not looking to move back to Punjab cause I've seen the mentalities of the people and the way they think, tbh I'm so grateful my parents moved here or otherwise I probably would have been surrounded by these brainwashed people and become like them. However, if everything goes well, I am looking to go to Punjab and potentially open up an industry or a business there to create jobs. Also looking to do seva with the Sikhs in full poverty, esp those who suffered a lot from 1984.

I want to do some seva in Panjab too. 

[5aaban]

4 hours ago, Kaurr said:

Oh the people that have moved abroad as young people in my family have been repaying their parents back and been working pretty hard abroad to pay for themselves. It's sad to see the kids not taking any responsibilities or becoming independent. We're not going to get anywhere if our majority can't look after themselves. 

I noticed this was the case with older immigrants who were much more responsible. Ones these days are sometimes a burden on parents. 

[Kaurr]

1 minute ago, 5aaban said:

I want to do some seva in Panjab too and possibly get married there. 

I want to do seva but I'm not sure about getting married there. I've seen some of the blokes there and the way they think (same with the women there as well), for them it's a free visa, there are some decent ones, but they're getting harder and harder to find. I'm not too sure about moving back there because it's becoming increasingly difficult to find a job, however, I would like to open a business and create well paying jobs.

[5aaban]

1 hour ago, Kaurr said:

I want to do seva but I'm not sure about getting married there. I've seen some of the blokes there and the way they think (same with the women there as well), for them it's a free visa, there are some decent ones, but they're getting harder and harder to find. I'm not too sure about moving back there because it's becoming increasingly difficult to find a job, however, I would like to open a business and create well paying jobs.

No one will be getting a visa off me. 

[Kaurr]

3 minutes ago, 5aaban said:

I noticed this was the case with older immigrants who were much more responsible. But the ones these days are sometimes a burden on their parents. 

I'm not sure about that considering literally of the younger people in my family started moving abroad in the past 4 years. Did these people come from rich parents? Cause the young people in my family were okay, they weren't too comfortable, but they went to the local private schools, however their parents couldn't afford to pay for all of this. Also, are these people into sikhi? I am fortunate to have a good amount of family that are into sikhi so they don't do this whole going out and dating too much and the spending parents money on kaljug things. Also, the parents are really strict.

 

 

[5aaban]

1 hour ago, Kaurr said:

I'm not sure about that considering literally of the younger people in my family started moving abroad in the past 4 years. Did these people come from rich parents? Cause the young people in my family were okay, they weren't too comfortable, but they went to the local private schools, however their parents couldn't afford to pay for all of this. Also, are these people into sikhi? I am fortunate to have a good amount of family that are into sikhi so they don't do this whole going out and dating too much and the spending parents money on kaljug things. Also, the parents are really strict.

 

 

The youth I was talking about are from middle-class rural farming families. Youth themselves aren't normally that into Sikhi so explains some of their behaviour. They consider western ways as "modern". The parents aren't that strict on them. 

[Kaurr]

Just now, 5aaban said:

The youth I was talking about are from middle-class rural families with some farmland. They're normally not that into Sikhi so explains some of their behaviour. The parents aren't that strict on them either and give into their blackmailing for money. 

Most of my family that's going abroad is like that. Even the ones that are not into sikhi know their boundaries. 

Which area in Punjab are these people from? The people I'm talking about are from the majha area, and some of them are near Mehta chownk.