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1 hour ago, BhForce said:

I'm sorry, but what are you talking, bro?

Another name for "welfare", as you call it, is marriage. As we've always known it, except for the past few decades, when also everything has gone to tell.

@proudkaur21 said she'd rather stay at home and raise children instead of a corporate job. That's the best thing a Sikh woman (or any woman) could do.

The famouse pauri from Asa di Vaar praising women is written in praise of them as vessels. The word ਭੰਡ means vessel. (Meaning carrier of babies.)

Guru Nanak ji says the greatness of women is in birthing great children:
 

ਸੋ ਕਿਉ ਮੰਦਾ ਆਖੀਐ ਜਿਤੁ ਜੰਮਹਿ ਰਾਜਾਨ ॥
sō kiu mandā ākhīai jit janmah rājān .

How can those be called bad who give birth to kings?

All about the attitude bro you know I recommend someone stay home with the kids but I don't recommend someone that ropes a husband into it for the wrong reasons because they're lazy. 

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Just now, GurjantGnostic said:

All about the attitude bro you know I recommend someone stay home with the kids but I don't recommend someone that ropes a husband into it for the wrong reasons because they're lazy. 

OK, I suppose. I certainly wouldn't want a woman to "stay at home" and just watch soap operas the whole day. She should be doing full Nitnem plus Asa di Vaar. Learning keertan. Singing Japji to her kids, and teaching them. Teaching them Punjabi, Gurmukhi, and Sikh history. Helping them memorize Nitnem.

Doing Sukhmani Sahib, possibly with other women.

Tending an organic garden to get fresh fruit and vegetables for her family and make food every day. (That's the maryada established by Guru Amar Das ji). Helping poor people. Mending her family's clothes. Taking care of her mother and father in law. Sewing Rumala Sahibs for Guru ji. 

And greeting her husband when he comes home in the evening and then doing Rehras along with the kids.

But not the stupid corporate office job.

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2 minutes ago, BhForce said:

OK, I suppose. I certainly wouldn't want a woman to "stay at home" and just watch soap operas the whole day. She should be doing full Nitnem plus Asa di Vaar. Learning keertan. Singing Japji to her kids, and teaching them. Teaching them Punjabi, Gurmukhi, and Sikh history. Helping them memorize Nitnem.

Doing Sukhmani Sahib, possibly with other women.

Tending an organic garden to get fresh fruit and vegetables for her family and make food every day. (That's the maryada established by Guru Amar Das ji). Helping poor people. Mending her family's clothes. Taking care of her mother and father in law. Sewing Rumala Sahibs for Guru ji. 

And greeting her husband when he comes home in the evening and then doing Rehras along with the kids.

But not the stupid corporate office job.

None of which I've ever heard Bhenji talk about. But we know she doesn't like working. 

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. Work ethic applies to the home as well. 

 

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1 minute ago, GurjantGnostic said:

None of which I've ever heard Bhenji talk about. But we know she doesn't like working. 

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. Work ethic applies to the home as well. 

 

Well, what if she just finds a man to subsidize her posting good content to Sikhsangat all day? That'd be fine. 

It'd take a load off of some us to refute a lot of the anti-Panthic nonsense out there!

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4 minutes ago, BhForce said:

Well, what if she just finds a man to subsidize her posting good content to Sikhsangat all day? That'd be fine. 

It'd take a load off of some us to refute a lot of the anti-Panthic nonsense out there!

Many things look similar, or sound similar, but due to their intention or energy are entirely different I don't really care what Bhenji does what worries me is that she comes across as lazy and more interested in not working than actually being a Gursikh. Which is probably not what a loyal Singh deserves in a wife. An expense. 

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