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  2. I"m not picking on anybody, I asked a question, "a great connection to your self identity and individuality", I assumed we are supposed to let go of our individuality.
  3. Anything that fans our ego is not good for us. Name doesn't have to add to our ego, instead it can provide us inspiration, in which case it is a good thing, and can become "a great connection to your self identity and individuality" as claimed by the Singhni in question. Throughout our history, our Gurus have given new names to many Sikhs to inspire them, and these people went on to become model Sikhs. We must remember that oneness and equality doesn't mean uniformity. Gurus and saints have wanted people to be "Nirale" -- Tyrants have wanted people to be uniform. Unless you know for sure that Singhni in question is on an ego trip because of her name, why pick on her? Waheguru ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji Fateh
  4. So I was on linked in today, one of my connection a Sikhni with phagg, so she looks like a follower of Sikhi, had a post 'the importance of your name' wherein she goes on and quote "Your name is often your greatest connection to your self identity and individuality." I responded with, quote " why get caught up on ones name? Are we not supposed to get rid of attachment? Such as 'self identity' or 'ego'. She then replied with quote "That's another view on it - thank you for sharing your thoughts. For many of us it's about courtesy and showing each other respect." It got me thinking are we now in situation, where we think we know better than the teachings of Guru Granth Sahib Ji? Or am I making a mountain out of a mole hill. Would like some other people's thoughts on it. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
  5. AjeetSingh2019

    Dealing with an angry wife

    haha , ok bro point noted .
  6. MisterrSingh

    Dealing with an angry wife

    Why are you fishing for respect? If it doesn't come naturally to them, is it really worth anything if it needs to be demanded? See, that's the kind of mentality that a banda wouldn't give two hoots about in all honesty. Obsessing over such trivialities is a female trait. Is your mother putting these thoughts and perceived micro-aggressions into your head? Stop it. It's not a respectable form of behaviour. It makes you seem weak. Don't get so familiar with your in-laws. Be polite, be honourable and respectful, but don't talk about nonsense like you've mentioned. It's embarrassing, bro. Maintain a respectful distance.
  7. AjeetSingh2019

    Dealing with an angry wife

    yes , today also .
  8. Redoptics

    Dealing with an angry wife

    You treat your wife pretty well? You need to sort your way of thinking out, do you ever pray together? Seems like she is a trophy to you.
  9. AjeetSingh2019

    Dealing with an angry wife

    Now coming back to the topic , I had told her that day that your parents have never called me "beta" . Either she told it to her parents, or as she's saying that she told that to her sister and she in turn told her parents. Today while talking to her dad, he didn't reply to my Sat sri akal , forget abt calling me son, then he said "You say we don't call you son" . So I said well , I think of you just as my parents. And then he said "ya sons will be sons " trying to imply here that ur a damaad , so u will behave like one. But then perhaps realized his slip of tongue and said quickly "but damaads are just like sons, infact better" . I honestly found him a lil rude , and I am always shocked at the way he conducts himself , considering he has achieved very little in life . And we didn't take any dowry or anything like that from them, they did not cooperate to have the wedding location shifted to our city even when my cousin had threatened to file a case on us and stop my marriage. Her dad said to my dad back then "We will only have marriage in punjab. rest is ur choice" . Her mom was nice though and called me 'beta' for the first time in life lol . I never understood why punjabi women are such notorious gossipers . pure trash
  10. MisterrSingh

    Dealing with an angry wife

    Good, but an apology shouldn't be taken at face value. Usually, resentment simmers underneath the surface for a while, so cover your six (meaning, be careful) . Break her in via Pavlovian conditioning, lol. Have patience. Don't mistreat her or anything untoward, but always ensure you have the upper hand. It sounds like hard work because it is. A wife should be an equal partner who requires little to none of this type of frankly mentally exhausting manner of treatment, not an overgrown child or an adversary, but what can you do when our culture seems to produce these types of individuals. Bro, don't take this the wrong way, but just because you're Batman, that doesn't mean you can't aspire to be Superman. There doesn't have to be a versus. They can be Super Friends.
  11. Prabh108

    anyone own a dog?

    The attachment is too much - we still miss him - lots of muslims where I live and they all hate dogs especially Somalians - it is stressful to go for a walk with a dog because leash laws - our beloved pet was mostly off leash - he was ultra friendly - because he was from the so-called humane society we were forced to neuter him- I regret this so much I can’t explain it in words - when I get a dog again I will make sure not to go to the govt run inhuman society that forcibly castrates dogs. Please tell me is it true Moslems like afghan hounds - that’s what I read online. Parents had Gaddi dog in india. I will probably get a golden retriever as the pups are so chubby, just like a baby. But not yet. me getting a pup is contingent with me getting married and moving somewhere dog friendly. Please understand a dog is like a child especially pups - house training takes a lot of pyar,patience and diligence. I always knew this but new research shows dogs hate being home alone.
  12. Prabh108

    anyone own a dog?

    We were blessed with a wolf dog husky collie mix who lived to be over 17 years & he was pure veg except in the beginning we gave him dry dog food but he hated dog food so for almost his whole life he ate what we did, mostly Dahl roti Dahi Sabji but also macaroni pizza etc He loved sweets. Everyone adored him - he listened attentively to Gurbani.
  13. From what I’ve heard Sant ji & indradan used to be close friends. Hindus should understand the importance of keeping places of worship armed after all they worship weapons. There are language issues, tribal caste issues and differing religious ideals - the Anandpur resolution was considered to be seditious and an anti Sikh blogger claims the root was financial - that indradan was going to nationalize the banks- global reptilians didn’t like this and created rift between two previously non hostile communities. Russians/uk played a key role - they hate us for racial reasons and because their ideal is slavery whereas our ideal is absolute freedom. Revenge for colonial losses. I support all sovereignty movements the world over, including Khalistan - lands held by Maharaja Ranjit Singh are rightfully ours plus the borders discussed in 1947, access to the sea at Kutch/Gujarat- bodiModi confiscated Sikh farmers lands in Gujarat - he thinks this is preemptive strike against formation of Khalistan.
  14. Perhaps the most controversial Sikh personality of our times. His supporters call him a saint/preacher who was trying to save sikhi from govt forces and fought till the end. His haters call him an extremist who indirectly targeted the hindus in punjab and led to killing of many hindus in punjab , esp the ones they claim happened by filtering hindus out of buses and killing them in blank range. I was born many years after Op Bluestar, hence I have no idea of their true personality. Was he really the one crusading for the rights of Sikhs in a nascent hindu indian state and was truly a man of peace and sikhi siddhant , or was he hungry for power ? I honestly really don't know . Waheguru ji forgive me if I slandered him accidentally . But at the same time, hindus really hate him and his fellow gursikhs. why is that ?? EDIT --- I was about to create a new thread about trying to understand what exactly transpired upto the 1984 op bluestar. Some say Bhindrawale was propped up by Indira Gandhi to counter the akalis in punjab, but that he later on started speaking against her and got out of control. And thats why she decided to end him and perhaps storming the temple on a holy day was her way of not only hurting him physically but also spiritually , apart from crushing the sentiments of millions of other sikhs. Hindus just believe he was a terrorist and that army had to be taken in to "free" golden temple from the clutches of the terrorists.
  15. AjeetSingh2019

    Dealing with an angry wife

    She has apologized already in front of mom and me. Her parents somehow came to knew abt it and they told her to not cause such quarrels at house. She does realize she has nowhere to go to and that we actually treat her pretty well. She is getting more comforts and facilities here than her paike could have ever provided her ! We have told her repeatedly not to show her anger and she seems to have learnt her lesson , or so it seems
  16. T_Singh

    anyone own a dog?

    They seem great dogs too, German shepherds are very protective of their home and can be barking a lot around strangers, but loving to their owners. The big dogs do need loads of exercise so as long as you commit to this. As mentioned before Jee please do your research and speak to other dog owners and your local vet for further information.
  17. T_Singh

    anyone own a dog?

    Have you seen the dogs in India that just eat parshada? They don’t look healthy at all. I do agree they can survive on just veggies but they are not designed just to be on veggie, just look at their teeth and the fact that some owners give them a raw meat diet and they can digest raw meet. Why deny them what Vaaheguru Jee has created them to be their Khraakh. Piaario it’s your choice some owners give, wet food, some dry, some raw and some veggie. If I’m doubt speak to the vet jeeo. Its not about laziness in-fact giving them veggie food would be quicker and cheaper but as I said earlier I won’t deny them what is their khaarakh. Myself and many other Amrithdhaari Gursikh families like mine giving our dog this dry dog food and keep it separate and we don’t see nothing wrong with it. I say don’t fall in vehem that your dog is eating meat and you have meat on a shelf. That’s what Guru sahib Jee wanted us to steer clear from - Vhem.
  18. MisterrSingh

    the caste system

    Jagsaw said a daayi was a naayi in the Indian context, I didn't say it.
  19. jkvlondon

    genetic inheritance

    even that footnote they want to remove ... aghirtghana de waaris
  20. jkvlondon

    the caste system

    no female naayyii (barber) so how could there be a chance of moonlighting?
  21. MisterrSingh

    the caste system

    Where did I imply she was anything other than female?
  22. Prabh108

    genetic inheritance

    https://realhistoryindia.wordpress.com/2017/11/10/nation-india-destroying-jats-the-last-ancient-aryan-progeny-in-india-by-deep-singh/ the above website is a bit over the top but mostly accurate -- religions come and go but our precious ancestry must never be lost - save for Sikhi all kaljug religions are virtually worthless- - Sikhi is best as Sikhi is pinnacle of aryadharmic thought - -note that Kashmir Panjab politics is all about caste colour and creed -- ultimately i do support political sovereignty for our people not just along religion but ethnicity too - notice that for rest of india Sikh history is not even a footnote in their worthless time wasting books
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  24. jkvlondon

    the caste system

    I think perhaps you misheard no self-respecting woman would be showing herself to a bloke ... always female Daayii or family member.
  25. MisterrSingh

    the caste system

    I dug out an old dharmac geet about the birth of 1st Guru Ji to ensure I hadn't misheard the lyrics about the midwife who delivered Guru Sahib. It's definitely daayi. Perhaps they use to moonlight back in those days? Times were tough.
  26. jkvlondon

    the caste system

    bro hell of a difference between naayii barber and daayii midwife .... plus vaid were usually considered the medic rather than the naayii unless you were 'low' caste then probably you would be told to go to naayii
  27. MisterrSingh

    Dealing with an angry wife

    Then her bluff needs to be called. If she doesn't wish to remain married, then all of the above will obviously come to pass. If she's testing the waters to ascertain how far her in-laws and husband can be pushed before they push back -- and has no intention of walking away from the marriage -- then the husband has room to maneuver and act accordingly. If they behave like apes and cause a pett-siappa the situation is obviously going to spiral out of control. But the biggest mistake was the earrings situation. That was a huge miscalculation.
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