prabhjeetk

This is not against religion.

soo u mean to say its noo trouble ...??

Generally people did do the watta satta in early and mid 20th century. Now days no body does.

In case of OP it is not watta satta.

It is Bhabhi "EK Roda" for OP

what does the last line mean?? "ek roda??? wat is it :blink2:

He is as much as a real brother, if he is a cousin in East Panjabi culture. Ask anyone. What if your uncle tried to get you married with their son, how would you feel about that? That he is not your real brother? I dont know how you have been brought up missy, but this is totally out of our culture to do what you are asking. Just like marrying your own cousin would be.Its not the same, its still a girl coming from their family to yours. The direction is stil the same, it has nothing to do with who is who's sister, and who is who's brother.

i have no intentions to provoke u.. but still whatever points u made to make me understand..r just appearing lil baseless....especially the uncle's son one.. from where do my uncles son stand in comparison wid my bhabi's bua's son..

den u say about direction..its also not clear to me..i wanna knw who n which people in history/past declared to c directions in conducting marriages...i can understand the point dat people in our culture do not exchange daughters..like in watta satta ...i wud still stuck to my saying dat i wont b marrying in her(bhabi's) home...i have no intentions to do dat...

This is NOT a Sikhism issue at all. It is ALL cultural and even then it doesn't add up.

The watta satta is about not sending a girl to the family you have brought a girl from. If it was the Bhabi's real brother, then someone may argue this crappy cultural point. But it is not the real brother and her bhua's borther who is obviously from a different family and pind.

Therefore anyone trying to argue that it is NOT ok, is simply talking rubbish.

Sikhism does NOT come into this issue and the punjabi cultural argument doesn't stand true either.

thanks... it gives me strength

A person who cant understand you in the starting of ur relation is no good for u for ur lifetime.

N by telling everyone he appear to be insane. A life partner can keep hundreds of bad secrets of u within himself.

N of u feeling guilty.. u shud not at all feel dis way! If he dindt thought once b4 revealing abt ur past, y r u quiet.

U know about his dirty life routin. Clubing screwing all dat <banned word filter activated>.

Tell ur parents dat u rejected him for all the sins he commit in his daily life.

N btr say dat he is lying coz he got tempered wen u rejected him .. u knw he is taking revenge frm u :D

Yes its a big trouble for u..

As far as i have heard of it. Parents simply say no to such situation.

Same surname people r considered to be brother sisters in our religion.

The only option left when,

Things can b sorted out is if your parents agree on it. And aslo ofcourse his parents also dont mind it. U will have to take stand to convince them. N also u will have to go through strong diagreement from ur parents side.

They wud probably say things which wud break u down.

Bt if u can go through all and still can stand for ur love. I think it may somewhere can help u. Coz at the end when no option wud b left wid ur parents watching u wanting him soo badly they will think of ur happiness. Best luck.

Hmm i just googled the "watta satta " thing. It says the ur own gal is sent to the "same house" from where the other gal is married into your own house.

It would have been implemented in my case if i would take into consideration my bhabi's "real brother"..!

I want to make "clarification" that abt whom i m talking is "not at all a real brother" of my bhabi..

And the muslim thing of which some people r telling.. i want to make it clear again dat i have no blood relation wid his family in any way. soo its totally not inter family marriage..

The most disapproving thing dat bothers me badly is dat my bhabi's real sis can marry my 2nd real brother. Bt i cant marry my bhabi's cousin brother.

Wat sort of rules r these. M not being rebelion but guys tell me is it fair enough dat her real or cousin sis can marry my brother. M adding dis new thing bcoz my bhabi's family did talked to my parents for her real sister marriage wid my 2nd real brother. :D the moment i gotta knw of dis my case appeared to me soo idiotic.

What is "watta satta" ? O.o m unaware of it.

Prab_

How could it be a exchange policy??

Well m not referring my bhabi's real bro.

N as far i knw inter family marriages r the ones where a gal boy who r actually cousins/real siblings marry. Which muslims conduct soo often.

Here the case is different he is someone in my bhabi's relatives. Not her real brother. The muslim thing is out of my reach.