Hi Humkire,
Thank you for your advice. I will most definately post for a teacher and further help once I return to the USA. I am currently working in the Middle East but should be back in a few months. Unfortunately, I do not know yet which part I will be in as I travel quite a lot. Something I hope to change.
In terms of the proposal, I have read that there are traditions. These are most likely more cultural than spiritual but in any case I would still like some pointers. I have heard of parents providing gifts to each other ($101 for example) not as a payment but as a token of agreement to the proposal. One thing I was thinking of was reading, in Punjabi, a particularly romantic peom or appropriate prayer. Something that shows I am paying attention to the elements she values most in life (family, love, children, the future, spirituality, etc).
She is indeed westernised but still a traditional girl at heart. I appreciate an out-of-faith marriage is not exactly traditions, nor is dating, but that kind of happened by accident in any case (a very long story for this thread).
Any pointers are extremely gratefully appreciates !