SinghEngineer

Thanks all for your kind feedback! I have tried what I could and tried to convince the girl. She has tried as well but finally given up and I can understand her reason and part of is her personality and up-bringing. I can only do much by myself and without her full support I can't move forward with this. We are still talking regularly to keep our relationship even at distance. I personally feel it is all on Waheguru's Hand now. I am just accepting this fact and trying to move on. Yes, it is painful and will remain the same. Unless, some miracle happens I don't think this will work. I only request Sangat to pray for us and pray no-one face such situation. I will post back if some miracle happens. Thanks again for everyone! Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

@_Guest_ I don't know how significant all these questions are, but here you go: 1. How long have you been going around ? 7+ months 2. Is sex, a part of your relationship ? NO 3. Who earns more, you or her ? Me 4. Is your family richer than her's ? I never compared and looked at from this eye. But, we are very well settled financially. 5. Does she have any unmarried siblings ? One Younger Brother

@JSinghNZ: Veer Jee, I hear what you are saying. The problem is she lacks courage to take action and another part is she does not want her mom to face disrespect from parental side. I am working on making her strong and may be she will realize what is right and wrong. What do you think?

@Kaljugi : From what I know her mom is too attached to her parental side. Her mama is alcoholic and really backwards from pindh (sorry no offense). I agree with you that man in house should be involved but her dad is mellow has no say in things. I wish I have the answers to your questions that I am still struggling with. I am thinking about making the girl stronger and let her convince her mom to overcome mama issue. The situation is very fragile now.

Veer Jee, I've already seen amazing video but my situation needs next steps. What should I do?

Dear Sat Sangat, I need your serious help on caste issue that I am having. I am Sikh male, 30+ and been dating a girl since past 7 months. We both live here in the states and really love each other. I met her parents and her sister family twice and they all liked me. She is from Sikh Jat caste and I am from Sikh Khatri. Although, I and her do not believe in caste system. My parents are completely okay whoever I can end up with. Her mom had issue with caste initially but she still met me and I guess that faded the caste issue for her. Her dad is completely fine with us but has less say in things. The problem is her uncle (mama) from india has a strong opposition on the caste issue. Her mom called off the whole things by saying her brother do not agree with our marriage. Her mom said she tried to convince her younger brother but he is not agreeing to this. She also says her brother had threaten to break all the ties with her if this happens. So, this is the dilemma. My girl and I are deeply heartned with this news and very depressed. She and I are still talking everyday and still love each other. She does not have any hopes and wants to support her mother decision. I respect her for listening to her mom but I don't believe this is right choice. I mean why the caste is a such huge issue. One side people believe in Sikhism and pride themselves to be part of Sikh yet goes completely against foundations of Sikhism. I am vey depressed with this situation and I do not know what should I do. I do not want to marry someone else. I would rather stay single. Please share your thoughts on what I should do to make this happen. Kindly apprecieated your help. Thanks!