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waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh I am in a bit of a difficult time in my life and was desperatly hoping that you all could help me with advice & point of view. I would so greatly appreciate it! Please don't be too judgemental because I know this does not seem like a proper situation for a bibi to be in maybe. Everyone please try to give me your point of view as this is the gupt section I am at the point of getting married and finished with school and I have recieved two rishtas. I am really stressed onto which one will be a better life partner. I am asking for all of your advice if you were in my position and maybe seeing this from a point of view that I am maybe missing. --The first singh is well educated and has a respectable career. He also does kirtan and tabla which i have always desired in my life partner. The problem is he is more deluded with the five vices. From our convos, he is very kaami and is not following maryada as per puratan times but he does follow the basics with devition. Basically, more "in" for today's society. His family is all amritdhari. -- The second singh always teaches me new things abour Sikhi and helps me with my struggles in sikhi as i know him. He is a very simple singh who follows maryada as per puratan times but does not do kirtan or tabla. Also, the MAIN thing that is making me confused is that he has a low respected proffesion. He works in a shoe factory and gets paid very low and is illiterate in some ways. He, as a person, is a very very very good Singh, but i am afraid life will be a struggle due to his occupation. His family is not into Sikhi. If you had to choose (sorry if this is judgeing but this is my life decision) please help me if you were in my shoes.