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Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh. I'm almost 22, but I don't feel like an adult. I don't feel that I ever made the transition to adulthood. Disclaimer: It's not that I'm immature or have an easy life. I've always been told I'm too mature for my age, and a lot has happened in my life which has given me more stress and responsibility than most people my age. It's just the way that I act and carry myself, I don't feel like I'm an adult. All I have to do is turn on TV to see people younger than me who are so confident, assertive, so far in their lives - they're in long term relationships, they're very independent, have experienced so much etc. I'm quiet, my voice is soft and quiet and it often annoys me that I don't project it and come across as this confident adult. I don't think I look like an adult, I don't dress in flashy clothes like those around me, I'm not bothered about fashion. I don't go out much. I have friends but I prefer to see them only every so often... seems like others would be out shopping in London every other day, whereas I'm at home reading. During the holidays, my life is quite unproductive. I'm at university, so I haven't gone out to the world of work yet. I have a job, but I work from home. I know I'm lacking in confidence and assertiveness so that's probably a big obstacle for me. I think I might need to 'grow up', but I don't know what that means for me. I have responsibility, I look after my single mother and grandmother, cook, clean, focus on uni work. But maybe not enough independence for my age- I like out at uni, yes, but I can't drive and I don't go out except to programmes for example. I guess I feel like my mind is child-like. I'm mature, and although I know I'm not 'pure' or whatever, I feel like I'm too innocent minded at this age and it won't help me in the world. I guess I see other people who are quite independent, out-spoken, loud and confident, and I'm still such a feeble quiet girl who doesn't speak much. I don't know if this is a Gursikhi thing, like I'm supposed to speak sweetly and maintain an innocent mind so it's okay. But am I just a kid in a young adults body? It's just a bit disheartening. Sisters, do any of you feel this way? How to cope in a world where those my age are miles ahead of me? At uni, for example... everyone around me is always going out, driving to places, going on holidays with friends... I don't to do those things but I do feel like a kid in many ways.