I got married 6 months ago.....before i got married me and my sister-in-law (husband's sister) had an argument and words were said. However, come wedding time I had agreed to let bygones be bygones and to start afresh with her.
She is married and thus does not live in my husband's house. Since we got married I have done my best to do al housework, make food for guests and have gone everywhere and worn everything that my mother-in-law has said to do or wear.
My husband and I suggested that we would want to get a house this year (as we want to stand on our own 2 feet and arent that young, but not that old even). Anyways we only mentioned this to his mother and there was uproar, his brother and sister were having loads of conversations with his mum over the phone. then his sister came to stay at my in-laws house for a few days. I heard his mum and sister and mamma talking about my husband and I and saying that we are stupid and mocking us for wanting to buy a house. Then his sister said to his mother that 'just let them get their own place and then dont bother with them'. i heard all of this and was really hurt to know that people i trusted and waited on, was saying this about us. The next day I told his mum what I had heard and she basically said that her daughter can say anything to me.
It then got a point late last year that my in-laws told my parents that i do no housework, stay in my room when guests come and accusing me of stuff i hadnt done at all. i was not there to defend myself but my husband was there but said nothing. My parents got really upset. is sister also sent him an e-mail basically saying that he should never have married me and since I have been in the house I have made everyones life a misery. I said nothing to anyone because my parents advised me of this.
A few months later same thing has happenned again, accused of not doing stuff and even saying things bad about my parents. Constantly picking out my faults, never ever looking or mentioning my good points at all. saying that I'm a bad person and that I never wanted to live in a family which is not true as I live 200 miles away from my own family and even after arguments I still stayed at my in-laws. Yes I admit Im not a conversationalist, espec with the oldies but I have always done housework or anything else that needs to be done at home and always asked about my in-laws health, even though they never ask about me or my family. I have also got accused of changing my husband and that I have done something to him (black magic), when I would never do that to anyone. Even saying to my husband that he should never have married me and that I should have adjusted strate after marriage and they stay the same as they are.
My husband stands up for me now and this is something his mum does not like. She does not accept that he is married and basically never treats me like a daughter. I have been ill for a few days and she did not ask how i was or anything at all, not even to make me something to eat or drink.
I have got to the point whereby i have had enough this time. i have stopped speaking to my mother-in-law and father-in-law and we live in the same house. i have said that we want to move out and his mother said that her son is not going, but I can go if I want.
I know that my duty is to look after the parents, but I feel like I cant live with them anymore. what should I do or what are your thoughts?
