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Waheguru ji ka khalsa ! Waheguru ji ki fateh ! @papi and onlyfive: In this Youtube Video it does not say to fulfill your sexual desires. It says use this energy and do something positive with it, like learn or do sports and stuff. i was thankful for this video, because it says... lust is something which is normal, but try to create something, instead of having sex. (if i got the video right, otherwise i have to apologize). i apologize if you got the impression that i was trying to justify premarital sex. @guest: thank you very much for the links. I thank you all very much! take care, bye Waheguru ji ka khalsa ! Waheguru ji ki fateh !

Dear Jassa... your reply is great. And I reckon you are right, I should thank you Waheguru and you all for helping me. Thank you

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh ! thank you for that link, is was really great to listen what he explains. the thing is: i have read most replies and you all make sense to me, really. you are right, when you say that i must trust god. but then again, what is with all the people around me: some really believe in god, most of them are christians(does not really matter which denomination one has, since we all believe in the same god) and the all do have sex with there boyfriends. are they all sinners?! i hope i do not offend anyone with this reply, it is just what i going on in my mind, thank you all very much, bye Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh ! @shadow and SunnySinghDoad and guest: Thank you very much for the links. @shadow: Thanks for the text about Mother Gulab Kaur is really great. It is just what you are telling me all the time: Try to direct your love for a guy to from the guy to Waheguru. @ Amarjit Kaur: Thank you for your message... just have a look at your PMs. @SunSingh: Thank you for your reply. @SikheroftheNaam: Thank you for comment... once again I would like to thank you for your previous post. It was great to read that. @OnlyFive: Yes you make a point there... he is not my husband. I thank you for your comment. @Methab Singh: Sorry if you got the impression that i have already decided what to do: No I have not made up my mind yet. I am still trying to get my mind into the right direction, it is just not that easy... your second post was really touching....I can see that Waheguru would be disappointed, if I wouldnt obey his will. @Himat408: You say "i believe that everything upto hugs are ok nothing further.".... whereas other users have written, that already loving a guy you are not married to is wrong. that is my problem, no one can tell you for sure, how much is fine and how much is not.... still I thank you for your answer. I thank you all for your replies. I did not understand those replies which were written in punjabi... so sorry if i did not comment them. but i thank you for all the links. thank you all very much, take care, ym. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh !

Vaaheguroo Jee Kaa Khaalsaa, Vaaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh! Dear PanJi Shadow, Thank you for your message... maybe I expressed myself wrongly, but he is not my boyfriend. I firstly wanted to think about all this stuff connected to it, before doing anything. :happy: Yes you are right, I did not take amrit. My parents brought me up like: You must believe GOD (Which I do, absolutely), but all other things will go along, eating meat, egg, getting your hair cut and all that stuff. Do you know a female Saint? I would be grateful to read about her, do you have any internet link? Thank you all very much, Vaaheguroo Jee Kaa Khaalsaa, Vaaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!

Vaaheguroo Jee Kaa Khaalsaa, Vaaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh! Firstly, I apologize for my double posting. I was unsure if my first post was sent, and then I thought just make sure, that my reply arrives... that' s why that happend. I am sorry. I can delete it, if it causes someone any trouble. :rolleyes: @_Guest_: Thank you for explaining your opinion. You have pointed out that the Rehat Maryada (Code of Conduct) tells us, that only sex with our spouse is allowed. May I ask who wrote the Rehat Maryada? And if our GuruJi wrote it, did someone "edit" it, I mean change some parts? @JassaJi: Virji thank you very much for your answer. You just said what I was thinking... because it is exactly what I feel, what will haven wenn I am on the bed of death and could not fulfill for what we (human being) were sent to earth. :sad: Do you know any English Kathas? The problem is, that I can speak a bit Punjabi (can talk to friends and parents, thats it)... it is hard for me to understand the Katha on Youtube. @Shadow: Few line later Guru Arjan Dev Ji Maharag says: jaisaa sang biseear sio hai rae thaiso hee eihu par grihu ||2|| But, like the companionship of a poisonous snake, so is the desire for another's spouse. ||2|| So couldnt it be (maybe I misinterpret it, if this is the case, then please correct me) that GuruJi is saying, that we should not commit adultery (which I agree anyway). And moreover, isn' t it that Guru Arjan Dev Ji is saying here, that we should pray to GOD, meditate on him and keep our Kam in check (no matter if it is our husband our not?). Looking forward to your replies, :happy: Vaaheguroo Jee Kaa Khaalsaa, Vaaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!

Waheguru Ji ka khalsa, Waheguru Ji ki fateh! Firstly I' d like to thank both of you ! Your answers were really interesting. And since I definitely enjoyed reading other opinions... I also subscribed to "Voice of Sikh Youth". :BL: @"Shadow": 1. Thank you very much for your answer shadow, moreover I appreciate, that you quoted from SGGS. Could you please tell me the page? 2. I absolutely respect your answer. I still have got a question, it is not my intention to offend you. I only want to learn and understand... You said: a sexual relationship with " someone other than your partner" is wrong. Now what is if my boyfriend is my partner? If you were talking of "life-partner", couldnt my boyfriend be my lifepartner? Moreover, who (except for WAHEGURU JI) can know if my husband and I wont get divorced? Once again, I would like to thank you for your reply. @SikherofNaam: 1. THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH ! Your reply really made me think about the whole situation. I appreciate, that you took the time to write that long reply, just for me. Thank you. 2. Especially this sentence "When we get involved in a relationship it is important to ask ourselves why we are doing this and is it for the right reasons?". Now this is my answer to this question: Well I live in Germany, it is nothing special to have a boyfriend and to have a sexual relationship with him and all that stuff. To me it does not matter, if it is "cool" or not, if I have one. I just wanna have a person who loves and cares for me and for whom I feel a lot of affection. Another reason could be, that my father did not really love me that much, and therefore I try to get this love from another person. So during my whole childhood my father did not hug me or anything else, moreover, I was given slaps a bit to often. However, I would really like to get physical "love" (hugs, kisses, not necessarily sex) from a guy. Dear readers/writers, You might answer: Than pray to WaheguruJi, listen to Nitnem, Sukhmani Sahib, JapiSahib and pray a lot and do Ardas. This feeling will finally vanish then. But still I feel that you get a lot of physical affection if you' ve got a sexual relationship with your partner (long-time-relation, I am not talking about those ladies who have 10 guys at the same time). Cause I feel, that we should keep our senses in check. Which means... make sure, that Kam(Lust) isnt more important than praying and meditating on WaheguruJi. What is your opinion? Last but not least: I apologize, if I make many language mistakes... I am not native speaker :happy: Thank you very much for your replies, Take care Vaaheguroo Jee Kaa Khaalsaa, Vaaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh!