SinghniKaur

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

I am 19 years old. I am a Amritdhari for now 3 years. Well, I don't really know if this is a problem but I'm going to see what the sangat have to say to this.

So, where shall I start...

I love this boy and he is Amritdhari and he loves me too. The difference between me and him is that he is now 24. Been with him for 3 years now and me and him are quiet serious now.

Meaning me and want to get married. We havent got up to anything rude, for example: sex.

So, basically the boy that I want to get married to is from a different caste than me. We both in person have disowned it and we always tell everyone that we are Sikhs and our last names are SINGH & KAUR.

The issue is that, my parents are very attached to the caste system. I have been having discussions/arguements/fights with them for the past 4 years of my life.

They are like "that we are going to get you married in the same caste as us even if he is Amritdhari!"

I do not know how to tell my parents that I am in love with him and I can not live without him. And I am very, very serious about him.

The boy wants to come to my house and ask my parents for my hand. But, I can not let him in the house without telling my parents that I want to introduce you with a boy I am serious with.

I don't want to leave him, this would be the last thing I would do. & if I have to I would run away, but this is also I would do as a last option.

So, I am stuck!

I don't know what to do!

Please help your sister, Sangat Ji!

Bhul Chuk Marf

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

I hear in Ardaas "Chaali Mukteh" and hear people talkng about "Chaali Mukteh" but don't know what it is!!

Please explain.. No long answers!! Thanks!!

Wjkk Wjkf!

Dass Wants To Take Amrit .... But Does'nt Know If Any Amrit Sanchars Are Happening In The Uk - Birmingham?

Hoping You Guys Could Give Me Any Date On When Any Amrit Sanchars Are Happening

Thank You!

Keep Blessing Peeps

Wjkk Wjkf!

Akaal Sahai

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

Basically, when I go to the Gurdwara for Smagams or other events, my mom don't really trust me to go alone!

So, I think that my mom is worried that she is going to see me with a boy. When I talk to her saying why do you tink that about me, then she go's that she don't.. when I know that she does! :umm:

Sometime, I also think that she thinks that because loads of boys look at me! The boys that look at me, I think that they want me to be their Girlfriend!.. But, sometimes I want to go up to them and say.. "Get a Life.. and Keep On Dreaming!"

I know it happens with the age thing.. but I have changed in my life only because of 1 person.. which was a boy!

I don't consider him as a boyfriend or a paaji.. because I don't see him in that 'Roop'! I just believe him as a best friend/ close friend.. NOTHING ELSE!

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So. people you tell me what should I do & tell my mom that I'm NOT going to a Smagam or other event just to see boys?!

Sorry, but I don't even like boys.. there just plain wierd! But, I consider every boy as a Brother or a Father! :D

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

I need help on a 'Gol' Dastar / Dhammala!!

Basically, I want idea's how I can sort my Dastar / Dhammala out, because I can not do it!!

I wear a patka at the moment and really want to wear a 'Gol' Dastar / Dhammala!!

Please, HELP!!

I will let you know when I ask 1 of the workers in Sikh TV.

typical punjabi culture and mindset, gotta love it.

btw how old are you bhenji?

ii dnt wnt to be rude yeh... but im nt goin to tell uu... nd im nt under age either!!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

I have couple of friends that are boys and girls... but when all of us meet up in the gurdwara like for example: Camps, Kirtan Class, Tabla Class, Gatka.

The people that are around us... like the bibian and babaye, think its wrong that all boys and girls are together... in Sikhi it says that all boys and girls

are equal... but how come the society don't let that happen... if we back chat our parents about this... they think that we are small... and have no sence...! What should the children do? (Main question of this situation).

My friends want to be together forever... until we die... and be their for eachother forever!

We also love to do Seva... but their parents don't let them stay in the gurdwara until 8 o'clock.

Help me people! =(

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

No, love is not forbidden - love all as your brothers/sisters/mother/father. When you get married, love your spouse, don't get into pangey outside of marriage.

The greatest love is reserved for Waheguru.

Hope this helps.

GurFateh Ji x

yeh thats fine... thank for hlping!!=D

GurFateh Ji x

the best source i know that has in detail of what an amritdharee anand karaj is suppose to be like,

http://gursevak.com/punjsanskar.html

its a online pothi written in gurmukhi but easy to understand , if u have hard time reading punjabi u can listen to the recoridngs

"Section 4: Details the marriage ceremony for Gurmukhs."

In a Amritdhari Anadkaraj u can say its much more simpler than the average punjabi wedding, which means

amrit dhari weddings focus on the anand karaj and not on the reception,,

If the couple is amritdhari most ppl dont have a reception they have a kirtan in the evening on the day of the wedding ,,

sum have a dinner type thing the next day like a family function,,

the bride wont have jewelery or maek-up overdose, but a fancy suit or simple chola

so if u cut out all the hindi traditions_wearing red langa, wearing chooreea (red braclets), bindi, other random cultural stuff

u get a pure Sikh Wedding

I havent seen amritdarees doing the maiya ceremony putting basan stuff on the couple face which is basically a desi facial and no lady sangeets and bhangra shangra and no dayn layn, like giving everyone suits and giving the bride a ton of gold soo Pure Sikh Wedding is the way to go, Pure money save!

bhul cuk maffi ji

GurFateh Ji x

yeh thats fine... thank for hlping!!=D

GurFateh Ji x

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

You should locate the video of that particular Anand Karaj.

Frankly you must understand that some things we can control, not all.

Looking at the above picture, i can see flower decorations in Darbar.

Now read the Shabad below

http://www.sikhitoth...p?ShabadID=1781

So who is responsible ?

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

GurFateh Ji x

yeh thats fine... thank for hlping!!=D

GurFateh Ji x

Sorry guest not sure what you are saying , are you saying that it is wrong to have flowers in darbar sahib because the shabad you quoted ?

GurFateh Ji x

yeh thats fine... thank for hlping!!=D

GurFateh Ji x

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

How Does An Amritdhari Wedding Happen?

What Happens In The Wedding?

How Can You Celervrate It?

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

waheguru ji ka khalsa!! waheguru ji ki fateh!! =D

i think that learning the NITNEM is very hard of by heart!

i think you should do it properly with holding a gutke!

i think also you should do it right then doing it wrong!

waheguru ji ka khalsa!! waheguru ji ki fateh!! =D

waheguru ji ka khalsa!! waheguru ji ki fateh!! =D

1) tej kaur

2) talvinder kaur

3) tarlok kaur

4) taran kaur

5) talbinder kaur

6) tarsem kaur

waheguru ji ka khalsa!! waheguru ji ki fateh!! =D

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!! "

I am not a GurSikh yet, but I want to know for my information. I am very strong about Sikhi, I just wanted to know if that when I become a

GurSikh, does that mean that I have to get married to my background caste boy?

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well... i think that its ok... if you are planning to marry her... by the way do your parents know about her?? if yes then i think

its ok... thats my opinion... but i am glad you realised you mistake and didi ADAAS to Guru Maharaj... so its ok overall...

I wanted to know that are Sikh's forbidden of love? Does it say in the Guru Granth Sahib Ji that it is forbidden?

That would be great if we have some opinions on this topic becuse people are very confused about this!

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! "

I want to know that:

1) Are Amritdhari women aloud to wear bridal bangle's (Churah)?

2) Is an Amritdhari women aloud to wear a langha, saree, etc... on their wedding day?

3) What type of jewelry are they aloud to wear?

That's all I want to know for the time being, but I'll contact you all for more topics that I am confused about.

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! "

vjkk vjkf

well in my opinions...an amrithari women should hve none of these things on in the furst place!,,,why wear them wne mahraj has given u everything u need? y damage natural beauty? in my opinion... it looks stoopid for a distar tying bibi wearing a lehngha, bangles,jewleary, saree,make up! its unappropriate..hw does that mke us diffrent form others if we do exaclty the sme things???.were the daughters of guru gobind singh ji,,, why wld u wna cover ur self up in jewleray mke up n silly clothes...it jst mkae su look lyk a clown,,,

so yeh i dnt think an amrithari bibi should not hve any of these things on at her wedin, be nyc n simple....were meant to be representing the khalsa panth!

lookin gorwrd to more replies....

im also learnin 4give me is i said anyting wrng

vjkk vjkf

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! "

well hanji hanji you might be right in your way in your opinion... but i was confused about that wether you should wear it or not! but on youtube you will find the wedding of

**Siri Chand And Tej**...in that video you will see that mrs tej is wearing a langha and jewelry... and has mehndi on her hands... what do you think about that??

i think Waheguru Ji have gave females the right to look beautiful and should not pluck their eye brows or cut any peice of hair!!

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! "

this is the video of siri chand and tej's wedding!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H0lXOIdJJfA

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! "

I want to know that:

1) Are Amritdhari women aloud to wear bridal bangle's (Churah)?

2) Is an Amritdhari women aloud to wear a langha, saree, etc... on their wedding day?

3) What type of jewelry are they aloud to wear?

That's all I want to know for the time being, but I'll contact you all for more topics that I am confused about.

" Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! "

vjkk vjkf

well in my opinions...an amrithari women should hve none of these things on in the furst place!,,,why wear them wne mahraj has given u everything u need? y damage natural beauty? in my opinion... it looks stoopid for a distar tying bibi wearing a lehngha, bangles,jewleary, saree,make up! its unappropriate..hw does that mke us diffrent form others if we do exaclty the sme things???.were the daughters of guru gobind singh ji,,, why wld u wna cover ur self up in jewleray mke up n silly clothes...it jst mkae su look lyk a clown,,,

so yeh i dnt think an amrithari bibi should not hve any of these things on at her wedin, be nyc n simple....were meant to be representing the khalsa panth!

lookin gorwrd to more replies....

im also learnin 4give me is i said anyting wrng

vjkk vjkf

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

Well... There shouldn't be any CASTE SYSTEM in sikhi because WAHEGURU JI said that everyone is EQUAL and everyone UNITED!

Their shouldn't be any nonsence about this rubbish about CASTE SYSTEM!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

Well... There shouldn't be any CASTE SYSTEM in sikhi because WAHEGURU JI said that everyone is EQUAL and everyone UNITED!

Their shouldn't be any nonsence about this rubbish about CASTE SYSTEM!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa! Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

I want to know that:

1) Are Amritdhari women aloud to wear bridal bangle's (Churah)?

2) Is an Amritdhari women aloud to wear a langha, saree, etc... on their wedding day?

3) What type of jewelry are they aloud to wear?

That's all I want to know for the time being, but I'll contact you all for more topics that I am confused about.