Hanu

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Are there any types of cheeses that are not permissible for us to eat in our diet? If so, which ones are they?

Thank you.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh

I second that, that this is not ultimately the place you should be looking for help. Hukamnama has already spoken, so you have the religious front already directing you. It is typical of abusers to apologize profusely then abuse again, apolotize profusely, then abuse again, ad nauseum. They are sick people, they need help, but until they get a lot of it, you are stuck with a lot of pain and humiliation, fear, and potential violence and even death. Go to your family's house and contact a hotline for battered wives, and if you need quicker help, the police. It's not just your pain any more, it's your kid's too. And don't feel sorry for your husband. Sick though he may be, any man who mistreats a woman has lost his deservingness for pity. Best of luck to you. I don't know your name, but I will keep you in my prayers.

WJKK WJKF

Hi,

If anyone can help me I would greatly appreciate it.

I am an amritdhari singhani and have been married to my husband for over 3 years. From day 1 we have had problems due to his bad temper. When he loses his temper he is very verbally abusive and swears, shouts and throws things. When I first married him I was horrified at the way he spoke to me but being so newly married I thought it was an adjustment thing and that he would settle down and grow to care for me so as to not shout at me the way he was. Since then we would fight (as normal couples do) but he would be unable to let it drop and would get abusive, I would end up just sitting there and crying while he continued to shout at me. Guru Ji blessed us with a child and even that has not changed him. Now it has come to the point that when he loses his temper he has started pushing me around and has also been very rude to my family members. I had kept this all a secret till a few weeks ago when I was forced to tell my parents as he walked out on me and we were meant to be going to a day out with my family.

Everytime these episodes happen he is very apologetic afterwards and I forgive as he promises it wont happen again. He has continued to swear and shout in front of our young child even though he promised over and over again that he wouldnt!!! This really bothers me as it really affects him and he starts crying as he also gets very scared.

Everything came to boiling point a few weeks ago and he walked out on me (probably for the 50th time!!!) after stating he didnt want me. I rang my parents and they came and got me and took me to my family home- where I have been since.

I dont know what to do, Im so confused. I feel that I have done everything I can, I have forgiven him over and over again, I have done ardas and took hukamnamas for guidance. I felt before that Guru Ji wanted me to continue but the last hukamnama I was blessed with made me feel that Guru Ji was telling me to look at my sikhi and that he is a part of the worldly illusion. I dont know, I have a child and therefore its very complicated. I just feel so fed up of being treated this way, surely this is not what married life is meant to be??!!! Im scared and feel very alone.

WJKK WJKF

The Sikh Coalition has a Kirpan Resources Page http://sikhcoalition.org/InfoKirpan.asp Go to the bottom and see which of these documents would be effective for you to carry around with you. Perhaps one of them indicates size limitataions. I think SC has offices in California, so California rules are probably also taken into account here (I am referring to a later post). I don't know where you are from, but even if you are not from the US, at least some kind of literature on your person at all times is preferable to trying to explain to someone cold that you belong to a religion they have never heard of and that that "hidden weapon" (according to their vocabulary) is part of your way of fulfullling your relligious obligations.

To answer your question more directly, if the police grab you for a kirpan do not resist, explain you are Sikh, that is a kirpan, a ritual dagger which you wear as part of your religion, you have (you should by then) paperwork in your backpack explaining it, do not fight or argue with them if they try to make you take it off or take it away from you. They have guns and you can eventually get it back or get a new one but if you freak them out and they think you are going to attack them there is only one of you. That might sound a little dramatic, but you can't be too careful with police.

On the other hand they might not care. I haven't heard anybody's story of being accosted by the police for kirpan possession, and it hasn't happened to me, though I am often expecting it, so I have no true idea what would happen. I do carry at all times court papers from decisions indicating that kirpan is a religious article protected by the First Amendment and is not a weapon and that it is incorrect for police to stop individuals for carrying one or confiscate it. Just in case.

Your question is very pertinent, so much that the SC itself dedicates an entire page of its site to the issue, so you are not alone in your anxieties. Best of luck.

If you are ever stopped and searched by police, whilst wearing a kirpan (more than 3inch) then what should you do? Especially if you are a teenager.

Has anyone ever been searched by police?

DONE!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Please 'Like' the Facebook page, "Petition To Get "Punjabi" On Rosetta Stone"

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And they don't have the Language 'Panjabi' on it.

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and thats it!

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

Maybe you are in pain, or lonely, or ill and don't know it so your energy is drained making you irritable. Maybe you need to talk to someone about your feelings or go see the doctor and get a check-up. It is good, at least, that you understand that your actions are inappropriate. Now, time to find the motivations.

Be kind to yourself first of all, because if you can't be kind to yourself, you can't be kind to other people, so be kind to yourself, and get the help and check out I mentioned above and see if any of those are the sources. I mean, you could be clinically depressed, something which makes people massively irritable, but it is treatable.

When you say your prayers at night, even during the day, ask for help in finding the underlying problem and fixing it. Sure, it will pass, but it will pass a lot faster with a little footwork on your part.

Waheguru bless you!

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

ive been a sinner lately, getting angry at people etc etc..but i was nice before...is this a phase of life, will i get thru this phase soon and how?

WJKK WJKF!

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

Veerji, this is very good advice for me to be getting, because it is a lot I keep forgetting. Thank you for the reminder.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

All thanks to the great giver Satguru Maharaj.

Khalsa JI, i know some sangat in new york. PM me if you would like me to put you intouch with a singh who can help you.

You know, i used to have difficulties tying a dastaar at first, then a bhai sahib told me "it doesnt matter how you do your dastaar as long as its covered your kesh. in time you will pick up. it doesnt matter what the world thinks of you, it only matters what Guru Sahib thinks"... i think this is pretty good advice. now i tie my dastaar nice and big. khalsa ji im sure you dont need me to tell you, but do keep the company of sadhsangat... and talk to them about your sikhi and nitnem and things, also ask them how thir sikhi is progressing. also, as you know you have your e-sangat here to assist you in anyway we can

Vaheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa Vaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

Your kirpan snuck out at the gym, mine snuck out at home and my roommate (of one month) went on a rage with the landlord to try to get it so I couldn't even OWN it. Since I'm in U.S. I had to get Sikh Coalition involved, and I've been a bit of a nervous wreck since, since every time I walk through the apartment to go to the bathroom or something I'm afraid it's going to sneak out and cause a huge argument (my kirpan has Ik Onkar Satnam Waheguru engraved on the shaft, I don't take lightly to being told to remove it). Sikhi is a religion of sacrifice and martyrdom. What you and I are going through, our anxiety is the sacrifice, but we must face also through probably legal means, me with the Coalition, you probably by facing the head of the that company with legal paperwork showing that a judge decreed a kirpan is not a weapon but is a religious article whose used is protected by law and maybe even next step a lawsuit. Between you and me, I've never been casual about wearing a kirpan; I've always been nervous about going through checkpoints, to the doctor, to hospital, public buildings like court house, etc., bending over and it popping out on the street, so many places where unknowledgeable people will misconstrue--and you're already wearing a turban which here (New York City) means you are up to no good anyway... Best of luck to you. Hope you find a gym where you are comfortable and feel at home and can get some kind of satisfaction from these other people.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

After being thrown out of one of their gyms for my kirpan accidentally showing, I wrote to VA and received the following, has anyone else had similar treatment at their gym ?

Thank you for your email of 11 September 2010, please accept my apologies for the delay in replying.

I can clarify our position regarding the wearing of a kirpan. Virgin Active as a company will not allow members to enter our facilities with any object that could be deemed a weapon. I understand you referring to your religion when discussing this matter with Amanda religion, however on researching this, I can see that we do not have a legal obligation to allow you to wear your kirpan.

May I take this opportunity to refer you to our club rules, specifically:

- You must be dressed in suitable attire at all times when on Club premises and appropriate exercise clothing is required whilst exercising in a Club. Guidance as to suitable attire may be obtained from the Club General Manager who may, at his/her discretion, require you to leave a Club premises or part of a Club premises, if your attire is not considered suitable.

On the date in question, Amanda consulted advice from Head Office and was advised that if you would not cooperate and remove the kirpan, that you should be requested to leave the premises.

I realise this may not be the response you were hoping for, however I trust I have clarified our position on this matter.

If you require any further information or assistance, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Kind Regards

Carrie Holmes, Member Feedback Co-ordinator - Milton Keynes Head Office VIRGIN ACTIVE HEALTH CLUBS

Telephone: 01908546690

www.virginactive.co.uk

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

Veerji, thank you so much for your kind offer and for your words of encouragement, but I am not living in UK but in New York City, so I cannot take advantage of your offer unfortunately. However, very kind of you.

I will keep on the right track, and when Waheguru Ji wills it, something will happen. I am keeping my head covered, uncovering it literally only to wash and comb, and I am saying my nitnem and simran on a daily basis as prescribed.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

Vaheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa Vaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh.

firstly vadhaayan for giving yourself to your lord and master and treading the path of gursikhi.

gursikh pyare ji, if you live in the uk i can show you how to die a gol / tipped dastaar. just PM me and we will sort something out.

in the mean time, just make sure your head is covered night and day, and keep your nitnem and simran as strong as you can.

gursikhaa man vaaDhaa-ee-aa jin mayraa satguroo dithaa raam raajay.

The minds of the Gursikhs rejoice, because they have seen my True Guru, O Lord King.

ko-ee kar gal sunaavai har naam kee so lagai gursikhaa man mithaa.

If someone recites to them the story of the Lord's Name, it seems so sweet to the mind of those Gursikhs.

har dargeh gursikh painaa-ee-ah jinHaa mayraa satgur tuthaa.

The Gursikhs are robed in honor in the Court of the Lord; my True Guru is very pleased with them.

jan naanak har har ho-i-aa har har man vuthaa. ||4||12||19||

Servant Nanak has become the Lord, Har, Har; the Lord, Har, Har, abides within his mind. ||4||12||19||

Vaheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa Vaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

I put mine up on Facebook. It's called "My Turban Is My Crown". Please stop by, drop a few suggestions on the wall. It's very basic, no informaton that you and I don't already know, but I tried to make it educational so the average viewer would stop and think next time they see one of the negative pages, maybe think enough to hit the "report" button. In any case this is the first time I've done this, so I could use some input.

Cheers!

People will disagree with this but I'm gonna suggest it

I think we should counter the 1000s of anti turban groups on facebook with good ones and educating people on the beauty

Create absolute loads

If the Muslims want to carry on then do the same back until they remove the sikh ones

Eg hide and sikh - inmy experience only one type of lowlife would say such a thing

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

Veerji, thank you so much. My kapra is single, I have one 5 metre I had chopped from 7 metres, and several 7 metre kapras.

I actually was watching this exact video for the triangular dastar last night and I was like "Oh my goodness! I could never do that!" Iit looks so daunting. But don't you have to fold beforehand?

The dumalla actually looks a lot easier. But as the video closed was he going to be putting on a third pagg? For the dumalla do you cut the 10 metre kapra in half to make the two separate pieces?

Yes, I should be asking jiani jis at the gurudwara, was using the flyers to get around the formality and be a little more casual, but I don't think many people at my gurudwara (not that many kheshdhari either I think) speak much English, so my flyers could have been more of a confusion than ever a help.

Thank you again!

In the mean time try tying a dumalla or ghol dastaar, I started out tying triangular dastaar and then learned how to tie dumalla. I personally prefer dumalla, but i'm not really good at tying it yet. For dumalla you need thin material 5-10 meters in length...

Here are videos on how to tie both.

Dumalla Dastaar:

Triangular Dastaar

http://www.youtube.c...h?v=R6G4s5DHhPs

In this video the Singh separates the lard on HIS right side, I don't do this, this is a personal preference and how you do the pooni. The way I do the pooni is a mix and I technically could do that, but I don't...

When you start out I suggest finding someone who can help you do pooni, if not then there are ways you can fold it yourself...

The first thing you should do is go to your giani jis at your local gurudwara and ask them if they can help you out. They should know and should be happy to help you out... Is your kapra double or single and how long is it?

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh!

That's maybe not a bad idea, considering the fact that the more of the derogatory pages you get closed down, the more of them seem to pop up. It would do two things in the long run: It would not only counteract the negative pages, it would act as a forum to educate people on Sikhi, a much needed thing generally but especially when there is stilll a lot of harrassment and bashing going on. Your idea is Brilliant! I will try to put up a page of my own this afternoon. I'll call it, if the name is available, "MY TURBAN IS A CROWN", so look for it in a day or two, hopefully there will be no problems setting it up.

People will disagree with this but I'm gonna suggest it

I think we should counter the 1000s of anti turban groups on facebook with good ones and educating people on the beauty

Create absolute loads

If the Muslims want to carry on then do the same back until they remove the sikh ones

Eg hide and sikh - inmy experience only one type of lowlife would say such a thing

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh

I took Amrit about 6 weeks ago and since then have been wearing keski because I do not know how to tie a correct pagg, and the keski themselves are not really well tied either, kind of ridiculous. I put up flyers on two occasions at my gurudwara asking for someone to show me how to tie (I don't know anyone personally there), but no takers, none of my Sikh friends are Kheshdhari so they have no idea. I wrote once to this forum and somebody said to put the cloth on the bed with a weight, fold half, then weight down the other half, which made sense in writing but didn't work when I tried it because the cloth is too long for the bed.

When I try to fold with the doorknob I can control only the first metre or two, then the rest is loose and gets ropey during the tying.

So this is where I'm at. I did find a very good tying tutorial on a video, a general pagg with notch in the front for a patka or fifty to show through which is what I want, and I have practiced enough that I think with properly folded cloth I can pulll it off ok, but the problem is that when the tutor folds the cloth at the beginning he has helper--which doesn't show me how to fold it by myself. Every single you tube or other video I see of pagg tutorial has two or three people folding the cloth. I know that every single person wearing pagg in the world does not have a wife/husband/younger brother/etc. to fold their cloth with them in the morning--they are doing it alone, there must be a do-it-alone trick.

What is the trick? How do you fold a 5 or 7 meter long cloth, with control and tightness and sharpness so your pagg looks good?

Thank you so much for your help. You have no idea how tired I am of looking ridiculous.

That was a very good beat. Thank you. Thank you for the good thoughts. I agree, a lot of modern Panjabi music is degrading or at least mind-numbing, but I am a rhythm freak, always looking for that dhol or dholika to boost me up. Maybe I can find some recordings of the kind you posted. Don't get me wrong, though I have recordings of kirtan music and listen to that too.

I don't think another person should tell you what is right and wrong, the basics you should know and gurbani shall guide you to find your own decision. When you make the decision on your own you find meaning and power in your choice.

Personally, I used to listen to punjabi music, I liked the dhol beat as well (heck I even play the dhol, i don't 'play' the dhol for anyone or any function. It's just an interest). However, I don't like punjabi music because there is no spiritual benefits, it's more poison than anything, it promotes simple level thinking and doesn't allow for any intellectual or spiritual growth whatsoever.

If you like an instrument there's other ways to enjoy it, just a top of the head dhol beat with something chardi kalaa involved:

LOL! But what about the fabric softener? Thank you for your insightful reply.

LOL! who cares what looks good, i dont think in the end gods going to judge you by what people thought of you.

and i dont think anyones going to get snuffed for laundry detergent at at laundermat anytime soon. so you should be good.

Very good advice, thank you.

VJKK VJKF

I was reading this post and was thinking whats wrong with listening to your mp3s whilst walking? Because there literally is nothing wrong in doing that, but then i read the part that says 'sometimes the urge for that dhol beat is irresistable'... thats the part thats wrong.. listening to bhangra, a sikh should not listen to bhangra because it has no use to their human life or our spirituality. These songs usually have manmat (wrong) teachings (teachings that go against sikhi) in there such as saying girls, drink and ego is all good, when we know its not good one bit. Listening to bhangra is worsening our life. So listening to keertan with earphones is great, but listening to bhangra is totally not great.

Sorry for any mistakes I may have made.

VJKK VJKF

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Wahegur ji ki Fateh

Is it appropriate for a Singh/Kaur to be listening to their headphones while walking, on train, in laundermat, etc., instead of looking out for those possibly in need of help and repeating God's name? Frankly, it doesn't look good, but sometimes the urge for that dhol beat is irresistible. Are there any regulations I should be following?

Thank you very much for your thoughtful advice.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Things are sure to look up for you, but in the meantime that world is a much better place for your presence! Good for you! You are what it's all about.

Living in filth to remove it, not become a part it. It was never my choice to work in a convenience store but that did not stop ..........................

Don't mean to defend or offend, I just want people to be more open and help each other be better Sikhs. Make most of what life has given you and use it as tool to become better Sikhs.

None of us are no one without Waheguru. All of us have something very important to say. Satnam Waheguru ji.

Writer's Woe

Doubt, Ego and Inspiration

Waheguru Ji gives us many gifts and it is up to us how we view them and live with them. Waheguru Ji blessed me out of the blue with the ability to write and then he put in my head what I am to write about. So really it's not about me because Waheguru Ji handles everything from the concept, words and giving me time to pen it down. I know it's not me but still as I write I go through doubt, inspiration and then inflated ego.

Am I actually doing what Waheguru Ji wants me to do by writing and making it available to everyone? I am not worthy; I don't do enough Naam Simran and Path. The people reading my articles occasionally question me on why I write if I don't have enough Nitnem, and have not taken Amrit. They ask whether I am in position to advice or say anything about Guru Ji. Then the doubts set in, why am I writing? Why doesn't my mind stop thinking about writing? Then for some days I tell Waheguru Ji I am not going to write, I will write when I have taken Amrit and do more path. I tell Waheguru Ji I am not worthy to please make my mind from constantly talking to Him about what needs to be said or written. I go into a depression of sorts telling myself I am not worthy to write.

Then Waheguru Ji blesses me with much praise from people that read my articles and encourages me to write. He seems to take my work from one place to another without even me realizing it. That makes me think He must want me to do this, He wants me to write. That's why He is making it grow so big that I can't avoid it. I leave my doubts and just write and write. Every time I someone makes me doubt I remind them I have nothing to gain, nothing to lose from writing; it's a seva. As I read the positive feedback and argue with the people that bring doubt in me, I fill with ego and pride. For a while I forget that it's not me, it was never me writing these articles. I fill with ego and think it's just me and how I want to write even better and get more praise. I drown myself in the ocean of ego.

Drowning in ego I try to write the next article but I am unable to grasp onto any inspiration. My mind drowned in ego is unable to hear Waheguru Ji as He instructs me on my next article. For days I willow in misery about being unable to write and then I go running to Guru Granth Sahib Ji and beg for forgiveness. I admit my faults and my false ego and ask for help to write or to move on with my life without writing. Waheguru Ji once again starts inspiring me to write by taking over and instructing me. He helps me write and I try to keep far from ego by always remembering Him when I am praised and giving Him the credit he deserves. As long as I live in His remembrance He narrates and I write, the moment I forget I become nobody.

Going through phases of self-doubt, inflated-ego and lack of inspiration, I learn to value Waheguru Ji. Waheguru Ji gives everyone talent but we are only able to recognize it as long as we live in His remembrance. I still go through doubt and ego but I keep repeating that I am no one without Waheguru Ji and He helps me overcome. In remembrance of Waheguru Ji all is well.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Thank you so much.

WAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH G

1) Guru ji tells us "greeba da moh guru da golak" meaning the mouth of a poor person is the offering plate of the Guru. Any charity counts as dasvanth, you can also give it to the Gurudwara if u like. A good foundation is apkf.bnet

2)do it sofly or in your head if your washing ur hair, othewise cover it with a keski

3)its alright use a machine , but make sure u dont wash ur turbans with kacchere or other underwear as that is disrespectful to ur pagh

4)that just takes pratice ull get it sure enough, if u can use someone elses help 4 now

best of luck n welcome to the panth

WaheGuru Ji Ka Khalsa

WaheGuru Ji Ki Fateh

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Yes, I'm going to try the weights. Never would have thought of that on my own! Thank you very much!

Bhaji,

1. Daswand should really be used in sikh sangat. If you want to give to charity so be it, but try to give

to Sikhs or Sikh sangat. If you want to give to those in India, like the Dehli widows or other organisations

that help poor Sikhs and widows, that is really good. Else you can give as langar provisions.

You have keep collecting and maybe do akhand paath.

2. You should do naam simran saar graas, that is, with every breath so even when you are drying your hair

if you feel you can still keep doing naam simran and paath.

3. You can also get little pouches that you put clothes in and the put the whole thing in the machine that way

your kashera will not get tangled. However, if you put kashera straight into machine it doesn't get caught up,

4. They way I have folded a pagg when on my own is to fold in half long ways then place one end on the bed

or sofa or table and place a heavy weight on it, then stretchout the other end. Place this end on a chair or

table and go to the end with the weight, lift up the weight and make another fold, place the weight back and

follow the fold to the other end. Do this until you have all the fold you require.

Hope that made sense. !

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

It wasn't so long ago I took Amrit. Like I said in a previous post, so many things were discussed that it left room for other things to be left out or discussed in a way that wasn't perfectly clear to me (and other things maybe not even appropriate to discuss there). I am coming here to hopefully fill in some gaps.

1) When you give your 10% of your earnings to Guru do you place it on the Palki (which means someone could grab it) or do you write a check to the gurudwara and mail it to the office/president?

2) During the discourse of the Amrit ceremony, it was explained that after our bath in the morning when we leave the house we must have our hair covered in pagg but before we leave the house we can let our head remain uncovered so our hair can dry. But the first thing you do after your bath is recite Gurbani, so I am not clear if I misunderstood him to mean you can say your Gurbani bare headed while your hair is drying, which I don't understand. Please, what is the truth of the matter?

3) My next question: Are you supposed to wash your kachcherey by hand instead of in a washing machine? I've been washing mine by hand simply out of fear that in a machine the drawstrings would get yanked out, but something tells me that even if I secured the strings with a safety pin washing them in a machine would be disrespectful or something. What is the truth of the matter?

4) I am having pagg problem. I have learned very well from videos how to tie a general pagg but I cannot get the folding right with one end on the doorknob (5 or 7 metre), it all just twists to rope. The videos all show two people folding the cloth, so there is uniformity and thinness and control which I simply cannot get alone on a doorknob. Do you have any suggestions for obtaining that with a doorknop, videos, etc.? My goal is to have a general pagg with a fifty.

5) Is it ok to listen to my MP3 player on long walks, on train, at laundromat, etc., or are those days over?

6) At the Amrit during the discussion on diet, I was told to be careful in restaurants regarding possible foods with geletain in them. Another thing I am aware of is that in hard cheeses there is an enzyme from a pig's stomach called rennet which is what makes the cheese go hard. Mozarella cheese is mushy, so I am not sure what the rennett content is, but do you definitely are we allowed to eat pizza? (Kosher pizza is different because it is totally vegetarian cheese, no milk no rennett, but here I am asking about the typical corner pizzaria).

Thank you very much for all your great help. It is very helpful.

I eat lots of chana masala with yoghourt (keeps down the gas as well as being extra protein and is very tasty), and mainly chapati (whole wheat more protein but I like white flour best) or rice. I also like cold tofu sandwiches with the works. Sometimes I like a snack of lowfat yoghurt or cottage cheese. Some 1 or 2% milk is a good addition too. My diet is basically dal or chana, though, mostly chana as it is heartier.

Where can i get some veggie burgers without eggs in it ? Also has to taste good to.

And other recomendations for high protien food for singhs?

I eat lots of chana masala, old standby. Very good protein. The more you eat it, the less gassy it is, so if you haven't been eating it for a whle, don't worry about the gas. Eat with rice and or chapati (espec. whole wheat), and it will be a balanced protein I believe.

Where can i get some veggie burgers without eggs in it ? Also has to taste good to.

And other recomendations for high protien food for singhs?

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Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

This is very tragic. She may have tried to make the marriage last in order to save her mother's dignity, but out of her desperation she destroyed not only herself but ironically her mother's dignity and caused her the pain of losing a daughter in such a way. There is no reason for a woman to remain in abusive circumstances. If the man is absuive from the outset it is clear that he is not going to change and that things are not going to get better. So many women get caught up in marriages or other types of relationships that are destructive to them because the men are simply wicked, that it is astounding. And because of wanting to save their reputation, their family's reputation, fear of the man, emotional manipuation, because children are involved, or whatever, the women remains in the relationship and tragedy results. BTW, burning is an extremely painful way to go. Either that girl had no idea what she was doing or she was so desperate she was willing to undergo that kind of physical anguish to get away from that man.

How can such events be avoided in the future? Staying with that man for more abuse and the final suicide were all that girl's decisions, no one could stop her. Only some kind of education about how it is not going to destroy their families' reputations if they separate or get divorced from abusive spouses would change the minds of girls like her. That cannot be imposed on the community, it has to come from within, because it is a cultural value. Every mother and father should tell their daughter when she is getting married, "If that man touches you in the wrong way, or does this or that... you have the right to stand up for yourself, you are a human being." It is a basic tenet of Sikhi that women have equality to men, that God exists in women as much as in men, that women give birth to prophets, doctors, etc., so why should a woman make herself vulnerable to beater/molester/abuser/drunk/etc. who violates her physically or verbally, makes her think less about herself or hurt physically or emotionally? We all know that Kaur means princess. This girl was a Kaur, and should have been treated like one. Instead she is dead, more because of her confused values than because of the monster who beat her.

Yes, Thanks.

Feel free to ask any questions you have brother.

Rehit related questions should be actively discussed amongst brothers (and sisters), so as to avoid long term confusion.

Thank you for your friendly words. That's a good idea to think of the poke as being a nudge from Guru Ji.

Actually, this was not discussed in the volumnous amount of information that they gave us prior to or during the Amrit ceremony. I had been taking my kirpan off at night simply because it was unruly and I assumed.... But then both the meaning of it and my repeatedly hearing the words "wearing them at all times" together started me thinking "you should be wearing it to bed", which is why I asked the question. It is good to know for sure now.

Thanks!

PAL 07,

please do not be too harsh on the original poster, he himself feels a little sheepish about asking the question.

We are not all knowledagable about Sikhi and if you don't ask you remain in ignorance.

So, well done to the poster for asking the question. It may even help other people who read the answers.

And yes, have all panj kakkars on you at all times, even though the kirpan may poke you in the middle of the night,

just think of it as Guru Ji giving you a nudge to get up at amritwella

Thank you.

Yes, you're supposed to wear it to bed. Khalsa is tyar bar tyar, even while asleep

Remember, this is Akal Purakh's Fauj you're joining, not some boy scout club.

Ideally, you should also have other shasters close by your bed at night, like laathi and 3ft kirpan.

Just move the kirpan around if it pokes you or something. You'll get used to it in a few days.

Thank you.

well said i agree

Thank you.

<mod edit> There is one simple rule with the 5k's, which is that you never take them off and you never do their beadbi.

OK. Thank you.

Plus, we dont wear 'patke' wen we go to bed, its either Dastaar or Keski!