wahegurudapyara

shiva means shakti, not any devta.

I akal takhat rehat maryada the three banis japji sahib, jaap sahib and tavparsad swaiye . so this is according to panth parvanit rehat maryada

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

please read it on www.searchgurbani.com

veerji please follow guru garanth sahib only. sometimes we are caught into such maryada that we forget the real massage of guru. instead of reading only banis try to read their meanings it will help you

also veerji moh is created by god himself in his creation. for example a mother if she doesnt love her children then she cant tolerate such pain and cant care them . also god created things cant be destroyed, it can be controlled.

god nai ve apna nirgun to sargun saroop( creation ) apni will karke he badlya hai ate guru sahib kehande han ke oh ape is roop nu dekh ke khush hunda ha.

in aasa di war guru sahib said' aapene aap sajyeo aapene racheo nao.

due kudrat saajye kar aasan dithe chao' on page 464

please read sidh gohst, aasa di war.guru sahib has explained all.

http://www.sikhsangeet.com/albumid1370-Sant-Singh-Maskeen-Adhyatmik-Parivar-(Gurbani-Vichar-Vol-4).html

there is no problem of living with such parents. A sikh has to live a life like a flower of kamal in chikkad.guru nanak dev ji has explained it in his bani . Please read guru sahib' s bani. You will get answer.

please veerji listen it.It will help you to understand these relations in spiritual manner.

http://www.sikhsangeet.com/albumid1370-Sant-Singh-Maskeen-Adhyatmik-Parivar-(Gurbani-Vichar-Vol-4.http://www.sikhsangeet.com/albumid1370-Sant-Singh-Maskeen-Adhyatmik-Parivar-(Gurbani-Vichar-Vol-4)tmlh

guru nanak has never ignored any relation. Guru ji and babe nanki ji's relation was very strong. this was the reason that babe nanki was the first sikh of guru ji.There is a need of understanding these relations in spiritual manner not run from them.

Please dont forget that guru Amardas ji had ordered sikhs to eat langar before coming to sangat( pehala pangat fir sangat) this langar is an important part of sikhi. Akbar had also taken langar in goindwal sahib by sitting in pangat. and he got impressed and came to sikhi. we should not ignore langar. it is also helpful in killing our ego. but it is also necessary to do sewa after eating. also when no time then at least put some money in golak.