Really interesting topic! Personally I think beards and turbans are awesome on sikh guys it shows discipline, strength of character and love for guru ji! I'm not married but I feel that anyone who changes themselves just to be in a relationship is just asking for trouble.
Part of the problem maybe the girls you are expecting, sikh girls that aren't really into sikhi are obviously less likely to go for a keshdhari guy, the same way I can guarantee a clean shaven guy or even a guy that keeps a turban but shaves would not like to marry or even 'date' a keshdhari girl. So it's all well and good saying I have a turban and can't find a girl, imagine how difficult it is or a keshdhari girl (wearing a dastar or not) to find a partner when even other keshdhari guys are like oh my god leg hair!!! Oh my god eyebrows that aren't perfectly stick thin! What evolution gave you armpit hair as well?! :I
Many guys want to follow sikhi but aren't always willing to accept a woman doing the same thing, and for those of you who are open minded enough to marry a keshdhari girl, thank god I have hope for the future! But that's a different issue, mini rant over!
The girls that tend to be interested in sikhi and accepting of guys that keep kesh are less likely to date (or at least wait until they actually want to get married to date) so that might contribute as well.
As for this whole have a turban and date outside of sikhi, it is completely a personal thing who you choose to marry but if you love sikhi and would like to take Amrit or work to advance in Sikhi I feel like it may end up being more challenging if you are married to some who is unaware or not following in some way themselves, I know sikh couples where only one is amritdhari or into sikhi even that can get complicated, especially when it comes to how children should be raised (particularly wether or not to cut their children's hair or bring them up vegetarian etc) so be aware of that and don't end up being blindsided.
Don't forget that whole one soul two bodies shabad as well (if you can find the actual shabad feel free to post) marriage isn't just marriage in sikh it's an anand karaj, it's about working together to reach waheguru, I think finding someone at a similar spiritual stage is more important and for keshdhari guys it is likely to be other keshdhari girls or at least girls with some interest in Sikhi, which once again means they are less likely to date in the traditional sense.
I agree with other posters arranged marriages are just simpler for those that can't find someone themselves but want to stay in Sikhi, arranged marriages today tend to be more like western setting people up any way! Someone says oh you'd be really good together and try's to arrange something rather than: I like your son, you like my daughter they will be married and live happily ever after and have a big Indian wedding with a load of people they don't actually know....
This is my first post, sorry it turned into a bit of a rant... People bring up this issue a lot and forget the flip side of girls that are keshdhari and have the same problem! I'm keshdhari which by default in our community means I would probably only find a keshdhari guy as they are the only ones willing to accept me (but that's ok as I'll only marry a keshdhari guy, mainly cause I wouldn't want to have an awkward conversation about the fact that I would want to bring up my children in Sikhi and not cut their hair), how would you of reacted to post saying opinion of guys on girls that keep their hair or only remove certain areas? I'm not sure many people would know what to say. And when I have seen this bought up its 'don't worry you will find someone stay stong in your Sikhi bhenji' not you'll have better luck if your more confident or look outside of sikhi. (Again sorry for the ranting ) either way, omg Iwhy are all guys obsessed with finding a girl, if you stop looking so hard and just be nice they'll find you! girls are always talking about how they can't find a guy that is nice and confident, and you also need to disprove that horrible line: there's no guarantee he's nice just cause he has a turban and beard', beat the bad press guys some off us are waiting for our Singhs and sardars and not mr Bollywood or Prince Charming! But I'm sure waheguru has it all figured out anyway!
