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On 1/16/2019 at 1:03 AM, savalakhsingh said:
I know this thread is about something a lot serious but can i change the question slightly:
I have been raised with gursikh values ever since birth, guru kirpa both my parents are gursikhs who follow maryada. So I never even had a relationship. Now I recently received a rishta from a well respected gursikh family (who weren't always into sikhi) and upon talking to the girl for some time (about 3 months), we talked about previous relationships. At this point, we're both quite attached to each other because we've been getting to know each other texting and calling quite a lot.. i know it's a bad thing but this is where my question comes in. So, it turns out this girl has not always been into Sikhi and has had multiple relationships previously (nothing s3xual, the furthest she went was kissing).. but this upset me quite a bit. Is that wrong of me?
I'm trying to look past it because I know she wasn't into Sikhi back then but still I feel like it's a big step to even kiss someone.. or is that just because I have been brought up in a gursikh household that i think that? Because I asked some gore friends and none of them care, they think kissing is nothing, they don't even care if she's not a virgin because they're not themselves. So, I'm not sure if i'm overreacting or if I should actually wait for someone who's waited to take this step.
I don't hate her for it, but now whenever I think of her or text her I'm reminded of this all the time and it's so frustrating.
Sorry this post was a bit too personal, I may delete later but I don't know who to go to for this kind of advice.
Bai ji everyone has his/her own views and perceptions. I am also trying to find a good girl for me and whatever you wrote above- almost same case was with me as well. Upon knowing about her past relationships ( she been attached to a guy but not any sexual relationship). I decided not to go forward and I will find different partner. I told her my decision- it was little hard for me as well but thats how it worked for me.
So bai ji what i will suggest is to follow ur heart and not listen to anyone. Girls have much more deeper roots than we see. They are very clever ( no offence to any girl here there are some good girls too)
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Thats why people call him “bhole naath”
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That could be a possible cause for excessive anger.
there is another story and once a devil did very hard bhagti for shiva. Finally shiva came and asked, i am happy tell me what boon you want.?
devil said- give me a boon that if if put my hand on anyone- he will burn.
shiva said- okay
then the devil started to chase shiva because he wanted to burn him
. The shiva ran to brahma ji and he took a form of beautiful lady and allured the devil. Finally she made the devil to put his hand on his own head , so thats how shiva saved himself.
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4 hours ago, puzzled said:
LMAO a long time back I read this book about Shiva lol it was actually interesting haha
Shiva deffinetley had some anger management problems
I have also heard that shiva always remains intoxicated by using excessive marijuana. No idea if it true or not.
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On 5/7/2018 at 5:04 PM, Guest Kachera said:
Wjkk wjkf
I am buying kachera for the first time and I check my waist all around is 56 inch but when it says the kachera is 36 inch is that just the front part
Please help.me by sending a link that has a kachera my size
I need to buy urgently
Isn’t there any sikh stire nearby? You can probably try there and get 2 from there and later on you can get more kacheras stitched from a tailer
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12 hours ago, puzzled said:
There's a devta called Kaamdev lol that's like a hindu/indian Cupid. Once he wanted to distract Shiva from meditation by firing a arrow of Kaam into Shiva but then Shiva burnt and blew Kaamdev up with fire from his third eye
If i remeber correctly his wife/consort is a lady called Rati who then was weeping when she saw her husband as a pile of ash
Puzzled bai ji tusi kithon kothon stories find krke lionde ho
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1 hour ago, Amit12 said:
( Am i even making any sense ?) XD.
Will it hurt if we say “no”
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On 7/8/2017 at 4:54 AM, Guest Sikh said:
At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf
Dear little Sis, i feel sorry to hear this. Not sure if you are reading this now as its a post from 2017. Unlike others i will not suggest any shabad or path to you to recite.You don’t need any actually. What I will suggest to make yourself strong physically and mentally. Whosoever try to make you feel low and try to bully you- just give him/her a loud and strong slap below the ear. He/she should feel “teeeen.teeen” sounds for next 10 minutes. Do it for couple of ur classmates who worry you. Haven’t you seen Harry potter scene?
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On 1/3/2019 at 2:58 AM, puzzled said:
Would you marry someone who has already had s3x with other people ?
I wouldn't because I have never had sex before and will wait for marriage.
It's also gurus hukkam to only have physical relations within marriage
MODS don't delete this thread.
If I know, i will prefer not to.
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12 hours ago, Guest Kharag Singh said:
@Tinnkerbell
Yes , agree a lot of Wrong is going on But makes you think, Mehtab Singh ji and Sukha Singh ji , Baba Deep Singh ji , Baba Gurbash Singh ji, Sant Jarnail Singh ji , they did not close their eyes and just let it happen. We Need to ask Guru for help and blatantly when you see Wolf Hiding in the Sheep’s skin , it is very hard to stay quite . It is known fact Nidar Naag is RSS agent and he is funded by them. Openly makes negative comments about Guru Sahib and Gurbanie in GuruGhar where his Chelay influence other Sikhs. As Khalsa Raj pointed out “ Gurus Sangat” “Guru loving Sangat got together “ and tackled it well. These Niddar and Giddars are not invincible . That is what sangats unity proved that in reality not just words. Other minor issues are not invincible aswell.
Thats Right bai ji,
the situations in Canada Gurughars are already gone to a point that if we try to fix it- a new-intellectua- generation will be standing against us. The new generation is getting brainwashed by these RSS people.
For example: i have seen amritdhari boys and girls who are born in Canada using mobile phone with one hand and doing sewa with second hand. Now people will say this is not a big issue to worry but I worry for it. They are getting away from sikhi and the saddest part is they don’t have any idea that they are getting brainwashed.
most of the parcharak, kathavachak etc who got invited to Calgary dashmesh gurughar are having no spiritual knowledge. Kathavachs are seen taking pics and uploading to their facebooks,
the worst thing that hurts me is the marriage functions in Calgary gurughar, there is always so much mess up in the darbar sahib, the stupid canadian born children and their moms show no respect to Guru Granth Sahib ji, joking and laughing out louds, hugging, clapping, some with no head coverups- it all happens there in front of Guru Sahib. They stop ordinary sangat from entering the main darbar sahib writing a big board on the front gate “ there is a marriage going on inside, plz bahar ton matha teko, ander na vado” the gurudwara looks like more than a picnic place on wedding functions.
thats the reason i never voted anyone there because to me all looks rss
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17 hours ago, Amit12 said:
1 - Man who brings together two families of equal Values and status, to arrange a couple in arrange marriages.
2 - Bridegroom
3 - i think its Best friend
Not best friend, Aadi simply means dost, mittar.
best friend is pakka.aadi
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Account bnalo jigsaw bai ji
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Bai ji, Almost all the major Gurughars Canada are now getting bad leaders elected. I been to Malton gurughar- the headgranthi over there was not even worried about the poor condition of Sachkhand.I have seen the greedy dogs fighting for money in Calgary’s Dashmesh culture Gurughar. Everyone in the committee uses Surname when GuruJi has told us not to use surname.
Lots of Malton, Ontario Gurughars money is being used for court trials. Similarly, Calgary Gurughars Part of money getting stolen in the form of Khalsa Schools Teachers pays.
Same stories are there in BC as well. Don’t know what to do, should it considered as ‘bhaana manno’ or should do something.
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On 1/3/2019 at 12:37 AM, Guest Singhpee said:
Do I need to pesh in front of panj pyaras? Yes. As I used Listerine and didn't know it contained alcohol, just thrown the remaining mux after seeing the ingredients, accidentally. What will I say to Panj pyaras?
Bai ji, if i am on ur place, i would go.
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Just now, TinnkerBell said:
Am backhome, eating fresh
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will needs urs later in February thanks
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28 minutes ago, GuestKaur2 said:
I'll mail you some looool
jk jk jk
Am backhome, eating fresh
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will needs ur later in February thanks
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14 minutes ago, GuestKaur2 said:
No they taste so good lol
I'm a professional lol
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6 minutes ago, GuestKaur2 said:
I can make gulab jamun lol my grandma taught me lol
Your GulabJamuns here doesn’t mean little rocks right ?
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1 hour ago, puzzled said:
My mum once tried making gulab jamuns and they turned out rock hard haha! I started throwing them against the kitchen wall and they wouldn't break , they were like little rocks. My mum got annoyed with me coz I kept laughing haha !
Haha you could have used these gulabjamuns aa stones for slingshots.
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1 hour ago, puzzled said:
I made a victoria sponge the other week and it turned out of, was a bit rough around the edges and could of done with more but yeah it was still ok
Biscuits on the hand start spreading in the oven and end up joining and becoming one massive biscuit haha!
I remember once I tried to cook halwa after watching a YouTube tutorial, and end up making a solid,rigid product. I literally used Hammer and a chisel to break it
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8 hours ago, Big_Tera said:
Anyone else feel more attracted to other caste Sikhs then their own community women?
I know there is no caste in Sikhism. But in search of a better word.
I dont know why, but I find girls from other caste(community) more attractive then my own so called 'caste'. I think its due to them looking different and having different physical attributes and looks.
Ie the girls of my own community are very beautiful, dont get me wrong. But I am slightly put of by them as they look so similar to me due to comming from the same community and hence find slightly repelled. ie being people of the same appearance and looks.
When I see other caste Sikh girls I defiantly feel more attracted to them as they look different and more unique.
An old saying in punjabi literature, “ dooje di thaali da laddoo hmesha vadda hi lagda hunda”
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On 1/7/2019 at 11:27 PM, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:
She's a nice person so far, since more than a month in marriage.
And she makes nice food too , but I find it bizzaring how she wants to feed me all the time , not during usual breakfast, lunch and dinner , but inbetween lets say we having panjeeri with milk and if she feels i am not partaking of it, she assertively tried to feed me , as if i am a child. She fills the spoon and brings it near my mouth and says "chalo now eat it. " Even if I repeatedly say I don't want to , she gets upset and keeps insisting. Then she does more cleverness. If we agree I will have only one spoon of it , she gives me one spoonfull and soon enough brings another spoonful.
Is this seemingly sweet act an insidious passive-agrressive way to take over
Hmmmm, thats a bit of tricky question. It could be because of following reasons
1. She feels you are not strong enough and thus she is trying to make you more powerful.
2. She feels like you are not taking care of you diet well, so she doesn’t want to see you getting weak.
3. Baki bai ji, je koi pyaar naal kush dwe ta kha lyi da hunda, jiada nakhre na karya karo. Saade vall dekho jinna nu aje kudi ni mili
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Would you marry someone whose not virgin?
in GUPT FORUM
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Bai ji everyone has his/her own views and perceptions. I am also trying to find a good girl for me and whatever you wrote above- almost same case was with me as well. Upon knowing about her past relationships ( she been attached to a guy but not any sexual relationship). I decided not to go forward and I will find different partner. I told her my decision- it was little hard for me as well but thats how it worked for me.
So bai ji what i will suggest is to follow ur heart and not listen to anyone. Girls have much more deeper roots than we see. They are very clever ( no offence to any girl here there are some good girls too)