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51 minutes ago, MisterrSingh said:

While the people who post this rubbish are real, they are a tiny minority being amplified into making you BELIEVE hordes of people hold similar beliefs.

I really hope this is true. All of these twitter posts that I see here are so depressing. Makes me feel that the world outside my tiny little house is so hostile and dangerous. 

48 minutes ago, puzzled said:

I found that just strange and knew something dodgy was going on there lol! Why would anyone want to get married to someone who don't work, i said no straightaway and said somethings not right.

I think you dodged a bullet mate! 

A high value lady who knows her worth would not be willing to settle. 

This sounds very scary. I hope you and your family are doing ok. Take time out each day for yourself, and mediate and do simran. 

On 3/17/2020 at 6:45 AM, Not2Cool2Argue said:

The one about the rani who wouldnt lift her veil and went crazy. Later on a woodcutter sikh married her.

I have heard this story before. A very long time ago but can't for the life of me remember it. 

It's really bugging me now. What is the full story? I need to know!

OP - a beautiful article!

On the topic of interfaith marriages, I have never understood why the Sikh person would make their non-Sikh partner go through a ceremony that they do not understand, believe in or respect. What must the non-Sikh person think of it all? To them, it must seem like a pointless charade that they partake in just for the sake of it. 

It is my understanding that interfaith marriages almost always take place by conducting two ceremonies, one for each faith. Strangely, one ceremony is not considered to be enough. As if, it is not altogether binding and they require another to be actually married. If this is the case, then which ceremony do they consider to hold more weight? I would have thought that any sensible person would ask themselves these questions before going taking part in two very different ceremonies. It does not seem to be the case these days, though. Also, I can not even think of the costs involved, one couple paying for two weddings. These people have too much money, or perhaps I am too poor, not sure which (probably the latter). 

Also, what is happening with interfaith Anand Karajs at the moment? I am not up the date with the news. Are the Gurudwaras still allowing them, or are they completely banned now? 

Well done Awnit Singh Marta! Inspiration for others! 

12 minutes ago, puzzled said:

The divorce issue in the "community" is a lot more to do with the compatibility of an old tired practice like marriage in today's time. For many reality hits them in the face once they get married. I'm not into comparing the Punjabi communities problems to other Asian communities but divorce rate is really high in other Asian communities as well. Marriage is fast becoming an outdated practice for many people in the west, just look how many breakups and divorces there have been because of the lock down in this country. In the Asian communities the divorce is a clash of the new ways and the old ways.The concept of Punjabi marriage and finding the balance between traditional and modern is really failing to fit into the modern western world,  just like marriage in many other cultures is. Dating and live in relationships are becoming more and more popular in the Punjabi community.

Hmm....sounds very worrying because people are treating their partners as if they are a "thing" that can be easily exchanged and replaced. 

What could be the potential solutions? 

Recently, I have been feeling alone, lost and directionless. So, I've been wondering does Waheguru have a purpose for me? I'm currently in a very tough situation as I'm facing a huge challenge. Has he placed me in this situation for a particular reason? Or is all this is just a  stroke of bad luck?

On the other hand, I feel that I have certain privileges that others don't. Is this for a reason? I feel that I may be able to achieve something, but I'd have to face my fears to do that. Has he made sure that I am strong enough to do this? 

At times, I feel that he must know what I am going through, and he wouldn't just abandon me. So, perhaps there is a point to all this suffering. The issues that I mention are mostly career-related, and I will not provide any details. 

Also, do you think Waheguru has a specific mission/purpose for you? If yes, then what is it? 

I am looking forward to your thoughtful comments. Thanks! 

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10 hours ago, Koi said:

I can't tell you the sheer number of times I would find a a girl who's criteria matches mine right down to the most tiny detail, but it can't be progressed because I'm not a Jatt. You'll even come across some aunties who say that the criteria matches and he is a nice boy, "just a shame he ain't Jatt".

This sort of stuff makes me feel ashamed for being from the jatt community

Sorry man! I hope you find someone soon

13 hours ago, Koi said:

Being a guy, one of the biggest problems I've seen is caste. No matter if all the other criteria match, the caste always seems to come in the way. I honestly hope that this is wiped out before the next generation. 

Really? This still happens? in UK?

Why do parents do this to their kids? 

The first poem is beautiful. Who is the author? 

Receiving criticism is never a pleasant experience, so I understand that you were not happy about his comment. As a Sikh woman, I must say that I'm quite impressed by this Singh's attitude. It is rare to encounter a man who treats women as their equal. 

Saris usually show a lot of skin, and many people might think that it is indecent. However, he made no such remark. He did not look at you like a woman who was not dressed decently. Instead, he looked at you like a warrior who was not well prepared. I think this man was informing you of your duties towards the Panth, and he wanted you to be better equipped to undertake those duties. I know that you were attending a wedding and not fighting in a battle, but it is a matter of principle.