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GurdialSingh posted a topic in WHAT'S HAPPENING?Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Does anyone know the real history or relevance of throwing rangh on wedding cards/bags of sugar or on the boys side after a kurmai? Any reference to history would be helpful Thanks Gurdial Singh
Kurmai/ Chunni Ceremonies- Blind Manmat Rituals Or Not? Advice Pleeease
Guest posted a topic in GUPT FORUMWaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh ji, My question: is the kurmai/chunni ceremony Gurmat or Manmat? a lot of times the Kurmai ceremony takes place in Darbar Sahib where Meva (dried fruits and nuts) are put into the palla of the groom to be by the male elders of the girls side. The groom to be is then fed a Shuwara (dried date). The chunni ceremony i dont know much about...involves a chunni hmm lol So how much of this Gurmat? If not, should we continue these blind rituals? Im getting married in a years time. I dont want these brahmanic rituals taking over my wedding. I just want the Anand Karaj obviously followed by Guru Ka Langar. Thats all. no parties, no music and need i say no alcohol or meat. I've not yet attended such a wedding so dont know exactly what goes on, how its done. Can we set a precedent? looking for help and advice please much appreciated! admin ji, i have posted in gupt as i want to remain anonymous. Pul Chuk Maaf ji Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh jiii!!!
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh ji, I've been attending weddings since ever basically lol typical. But its soon to be my own. So basically someone in the family found/recomended a girl for me to my parents and things got rolling from there. I plan to take Amrit in the near future. I want to get into keeping rehit before i take Amrit so i know i can commit to keeping rehit instead of taking Amrit and then seeing if i can keep it or not. The proposed girl for me is not kesdhari at the moment. I'm hoping here journey will lead her onto this path soon. Now both families are typically punjabi. Hardcore partiers etc. 1) I just want the Anand Karaj to take place, Guru ka Langar and we all go home. I realize this is a dream world fantasy of mine. Does anyone think this could be possible? I dont listen to music, i dont dance drink or eat forbidden food- i dont want all this to take over my own wedding. So can there be a compromise as im pretty sure both families will never agree to a total no party policy. Hows no meat no alcohol and i will not be dancing like a lunitic? Just food, deafening music and people dancing... And when should i make all this clear to the girls family? I think this could potentially be a deal breaker. 2) Is the Kurmai and Chunni ceremony Gurmat? I've seen how the groom is given dried fruits nuts etc in his palla/parna thing and then fed a shuwara/dried date. I don't understand what this represents so am questioning whether this is Gurmat at all. I've seen this take place in the Darbar Sahib. What is this all about? And can I take part in all this? 3) The maiya/mehndi which takes place on the days leading to the wedding. Haldi doh stuff is applied to the groom/bride-to-be. I really dont fancy that. Too intimate and spray on fake tan would do the same job! Pretty sure this is not Gurmat. 4) Groom & Kalgi- this is a no no right? How come this happens all too often? Why is nothing said/explained to sangat before/during the Anand Karaj? And the groom holds a sword- any reason? 5) Can this all work out between me, a kesdhari hoping to soon take Amrit, and a non kesdhari girl? Pul chuk maaf ji.