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  1. I think its important to first understand Maya is not bad as it too is the creation of God. How can that which is created by God be bad? What is 'bad' is our perception and understanding of what Maya is.

    Maya is Bad, therefore something else must be Good ie: God. So now there is a conflict between God and Maya or You and Maya. Conflicts exist because of Duality and Duality is Maya. So it a cycle of ignorance that we create.

    You are not in conflict with maya, you are simply in conflict with your ignorance of what Maya is. Maya cannot be destroyed, You can de-attach yourself from it through Wisdom and Experience. Objectivity is the key here, to be objective to your experience, not be a subject to the Duality of what Maya is. Knowing that a dream is dream while you are dreaming is liberating, but believing that your dream is your reality has more to do with us being ignorant than it being a conflict with the Dream itself. It is the nature of Maya to be what it is.

    So we have to understand through Gyaan, through Wisdom, through our Meditative Experience what Maya is and how we should live within it, yet not at the same time. To be a part of this illusion and not become the illusion. To float across this expanse, and not drown in it. To be like the Lotus, remaining float even though the roots go deep within the muddy water. As the water rises, so does the Lotus, but it never sinks.

  2. I don't wish to offend anyone . We know gurus were against idol worship , but gurus never rejected that waheguru is present throughout in sargun roop . It is present in stones as well . If waheguru is present throughout the creation , then why worshipping of a stone is wrong ?

    bhul chuk maaf . blink.gif. This is just an innocent question .

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with worshiping a Stone barring few important details. One, You are under the guidance of a Living Master. Two, you are approach your practice with this thought, that if God is within that Moorti, that Stone, then God must also be within me and all those around me.

    Meera of Rajisthan, Bhagat Dhanna Jatt, the Guru of Bhagat Kabir ji were all Moorti Poojak. It is not the Practice that makes the difference, it is the correct guidance from a Master and your Devotion towards your practice that bring forth transformation in your Bhagti.

    It is common to get stuck at the first step of this practice as veer ms514 mentioned above me, to forget the bigger picture and speak as if this 'Stone alone is God'. When a Saadhik should move forward to the next step and say, 'this Stone is also God, just as God is within us all'. There are dangers on every path of bhagti, to become aware of them and to be under the compassionate gaze of ones Master is of great importance when walking towards Liberation.

  3. The Sufi's have spoken of two types of Love, Majaji (Worldly) and Haqiqi (Godly).

    Love when it is woven with the strings of Attachment is call Moh.

    Love when it is woven with the strings of Freedom is Divine.

    As PJS spoke above, Learn to love others without expectations. Love them but don't hold them. Love them, but let them be free. Love them, but don't expect this love to be given back to you. Love them, but don't possess them. Love them as you would Love a flower in the Garden, enjoy its fragrance, but don't pluck it from its stem with the desire to posses it. Let it be free, Love is Freedom.

    If Love invokes fear of someone leaving you, then know that it is not Love. True Love cannot flourish under expectations.

  4. vjkk vjkf everyone.

    some ppl might consider what im about to say very stupid

    but i need some serious responsess

    so basically i found a sikhi a few years ago

    before that i use to cut my hair, shave, wax, etc.

    and now i have so much hair on my toes

    when i wear chapla (flip flops) it loooks so bad :|

    i dont know what to do..

    i really dont think hair looks good on feet

    i hate wearing chapla because my hair is so long on my toes

    :( what do you guys think i should doo??

    this is not a fake post... im serious... please give your advice:)

    wjkk wjkf!

    If the mind objects to your new found awareness of Sikhi and its requirements, then subject the mind to further interrogation of why am I walking on this path?

    First resolve the insecurity you feel about your body by becoming subjective towards it. Are you the Hair on your toe? If not, what care do you have. Is the person staring at your toes the one who is going to liberate your ignorance? If not, what care do you have towards that person? Is their Laughter towards you or towards that which is not you?

  5. Ive just come out of a relationship with a Gursikh which lasted for 2years, He had the image of a gursikh wore a Durmalla etc... But never had the heart and mind or respect for others.

    For example this singh had many realtionships with many felmales and continued to flirt with other kuriya while commited to the me. However he flirted and done bad sin for example sex. And trust was a issue and ending it and moved on to the next kuri in weeks. Even the family all knew that I was in a relationship with him, Having no respect used me and attends ransbhais and looks a loving person on the outside but the inside is horrible doesn't have no respect and think he knows about sikhi but doesn't if he knew about sikhi he shouldn't go toward the 5 evils in sikhi...

    Im not the one to talk as I am not amritary but I am going down that path with guidence because I know what was my past was a bad sin so for me to become pure is to ask for forgivenss from guruji and go down the right path but he doesn't seem to learn...Why I don't no He has destroyed me as i'm finding it hard to come to terms but i still feel hurt when i see him at kirtan programms all happy life no care no sorry nothing. Why do they get involved and do stuff like that? being a Gursikh means to control yourself and having respect. How do It try and forget my past?, How I look forward in live with out the past comming in my mind? I do my paat everyday listen to kirtan...I come from a family that are all amritdary that guide me too but. somethings is hard to dicuss i just try and smile and say its all ok.

    From this alone, I can tell you were not ready or prepared for a relationship. One thing you have to first accept that we control the amount of misery we go through and no one else. What others do, do so out of the same freedom God has given to you. If they wish to run around, that is their prerogative. We travel together until one of us wishes to depart,....let them go! Why become a hindrance in another's freedom. God does not hinder our freedom to do what we desire, let us become God in our small way. Understand yourself first, understand your mind and where it has anchored itself in this world. Find the sanctuary of silence within your first, before you even think of holding another's hand on your journey.

    Take your experience in two folds.

    One, be great-full to have gone through this experience and come out of it unharmed or in worse shape (mentally) than you could have.

    Two, I hope you have learned what Moh, Mamta, Maya can do to your mind and just because one is wearing the attire of a Doctor, does not mean he has the qualification to heal your wounds, much less give you security that you two are walking on the same path. Our minds are all alike, whether you wear a Dumalla or you wear a Hat. Every person goes through the same trials and tribulations of shedding the layer of vices we have laminated on our minds. The Journey is long and arduous so don't get attached to one person thinking they should be so and so because such and such is an Amritdhari or non-Amrtidhari for that matter. It is not that simple.

    It the Rehni and our Behni that defines us. Even so it is not that easy to know what kind of a person truly is. We are great actors, we may deceive all those around us, but never can we deceive the one within us. Also know that no one person is truly bad and no one person is truly good. If you keep this in mind, you will not get fully attached to anyone. You will disappoint yourself when the Good person does a bad thing and you will again disappoint yourself when a bad person begins to do good deeds. Let individuals be as they are...evolving.

    Dhan Guru....

  6. Would you be lazy to save yourself if your house was on fire? Circumstances create urgency. Would you be lazy to miss your flight when you go on vacation? Would you be lazy enough to go meet your beloved if he/she stood outside your door?

    A good friend of mine told me one cause of laziness is due to the lack of respect for yourself and for that which you are lazy about, homework, housework, job, school etc etc. We have fallen in a pattern of numbness, our mind no longer seeks to better ourselves, instead we are content to the point we desire no progress in our life.

    I also suggest you go check with your doctor, if you continually feel exhausted or tired all the time. You might have a lack of vitamin or protein in your blood.

  7. Next time, remember these words, "Sex is a part of the Body, not the Mind" Try to understand what Sex is, rather than just ignoring or suppressing it. Where does this urge come from? Why does it come to you? How often does it come and where does it go? Where is this energy coming from?

    What your mind has done is created an addiction to the sexuality. This (sexual) energy has to go somewhere. Learn how to do Kirtan, learn how to play Tabla. Some effort you will have to make in diverting this energy.

    Next time the urge comes to look at porn, be watchful of the mind and if you pay attention to it, you will notice that you always have an option. You can either continue forward or not do it, pay attention to this voice and observe the thoughts of the mind, don't guide it in either direction. Allow the mind to go where it wants to go, but don't follow it. In that moment, start doing Simran. You have to give the mind something more powerful and effective to follow. If the taste of Simran is powerful and important enough in your life, why would the mind want anything else?

  8. if u look at sikh history, and puratan singhs who had chardikala jeevans, killing of dusht people is a good thing.

    first there is gur ithaas, guru arjun dev ji gives shantmayi shaheedi, guru hargobind sahib ji maharaj, put nikel in jadhu's nak.

    guru teg bahadur sahib ji gives shantmayi shaheedi, guru gobind singh ji maharaj creats the khalsa, gives hukam to singhs to carry shastr's, to stand up for their rights and not let anyone do unjust acts against anybody.

    shote sahibzade give shaheedi, maharaj sends baba banda singh ji bahadur, sirhind di itt itt kharkaa diti, wajije de shaati tey ghorda chadda dita.

    then there is sikh ithaas, baba mani singh ji gives shaheedi, their nephew's come back and jalad da sir vadiya si.

    mase rangar ne darbar sahib de beadhbi kiti si, bhai sukha singh, bhai mehtab singh come and cut his head off, take it back and turn it into a football.

    there are tons of other events in where guru ke singh have punished dushts. there is also a speech where baba jarnail singh ji names all these events. if i find the audio, i'll post a link for it.

    so yea, to answer the question, if the person is a dusht, then yea, u gottta act accordingly, kalgidhar ji khende hath vich talwaar huni chahidi aa.

    beloved veer ji, Kalgidhar ji also says you have to have the bibek budhi to know when it is justified to act and when it isn't. Kalgidhar ji also says Sant First then Sipahi! Those account of history you have noted, only express the act, but the internal spiritual states which were needed before these Sings picked the swords is often not made mandatory or even spoken about. It is not easy as just pick up and sword and kill those wrong doers because you are Khalsa Army of the Akal Purakh.

    It is like giving someone a loaded gun...one must be careful who they say these words to...Is the listener prepared to handle this responsibility? Does the listener have the capacity and spiritual maturity to grasp what you are saying?

  9. Y im asking this is because recently ive been thining these things that happen is all VaheGurus work then should we not leave it to VaheGuru to punish the sinners????

    Just somthing i would like other peoples opinons on is there anything from Guru Granth Sahib Maharaj or anything Guru Gobind Singh Maharaj in Dasam Granth Maharaj.

    VahegurooJiKaKhalsaVahegurooJiKiFateh

    KHALSA AKAAL PURAKH KEE FAUJ

    VahegurooJiKiKaKhalsaVahegurooJiKiFateh

    Does this Khalsa have the Khalis within him/her before he or she can make this claim that he/she is the army of the Timeless? It is easy to read and utter these words for justification, but what happens when those who have not connected internally with the Timeless use these words to justify their actions? To become the Army of the Timeless is not the hands of the Army, it is in the hands of the Timeless. You do not become a Sikh because you choose to, it happens when the Guru accepts you as his/her disciple.

  10. actually she had depression problems in the past to she had even physiatrist for that last year ... she is not trying to listen ... i have suggested her many things she is not following anything ... and thats why i m here she is not going to anything good to herself i m sure about this ... i think only ardas of sangat can take her out now guru sahib should hold the hand of their daughter and take her out of this mental problem ... else they may loose one gud sikh ...

    Do you know what the exact problem is with her? Perhaps someone here has gone through a similar situation and can help you help her deal with it.

    Does her family know? If not then, you should definitely talk to them if its becoming this serious.

  11. Have you consider telling her parents about this or getting help from another of your common friends.

    Is there some deeper issue at hand which causes her to fall into this depressive state again and again? If so, then that is where you should start. Help her deal with it by talking to her about it casually if you haven't already.

    Begin by Helping her Help herself first. Don't let her self-victimize herself, show her that there are people in worse situation than her. Tell her about the life of our Guru's, tell her about your personal experience, tell her that you will be there for her. If she is willing help her get into counseling, it can be of great help.

  12. We all came into this world to work out the results of our past actions.

    I don't understand.....

    you are re-born because you have karmic debt which needs to be paid off or you have desires that you want to fulfill, whether that desire is to reach God or to have more money. You will have to take birth as a Human. The journey is progressive, we make a choice and reap the result of that choice. All choice push us forward towards the ultimate Truth as all results from our actions provide the Jiva (Soul-Mind) an experience from which it can learn. Some learn from the experience of others, some learn from their own actions, but we learn or I hope we do...

  13. Moderators how can you allow some uneducated neanderthals rubbish another faith and civilisation that is 10,000 years old.. what does gskapoor and sherlsurj know about culture? Its easy talking crap about someones culture on the internet but you guys try saying that to my face... nuff said

    i was just pointing out that they did that to my niece and i didnt like it...im not saying its a joke...just wanted a title to capture the attention of u guyz

    if thats the way they want to attain god im not stopping them.

    To have such vision and bhaavna which allowed them to see a Devi in a child girl is not something you should mock my friend. It is the vision of Bhagat Dhanna Jat who saw the lord in a rock and compelled the creator to take literal form to satisfy the love of his Bhagat.

    but then they shudnt call a child a devi...and wasnt the bhagat told by hindus that we worship rocks and he got interested in it so thats why he worshipped them?

    Calling someone a Devi is a method in one's Bhagti to bring their mind which collects itself in devotion towards a representation of a Devi which exists in a form of girl child. Learn to see with different eyes and you will begin to see the beauty in the way others perceive the divine presence. Don't get caught up in names :).

    He was told by a Hindu Priest, but i'm not sure what you mean by 'we'? He was not a Sikh in term you might be thinking. Bhagat Dhanna was a deciple of Swami Ramanand. His most famous disciples were Dhanna Bhagat, Kabirdas, Nabhadas, Pipa, Ravidas, Sain, and Tulsidas.

  14. help her out man... increase her pay, pay the kids school fees when you can... so many things you can do which will eventually help her out.

    y dont u try helping her out some since she is in all that stress. maybe if u did some of the work that would ease her up a bit and put less stress on her mind. try treating her as ur friend and not ur servant, maybe that would also make her feel a little better.

    Couldn't have said it better than this.

    I wouldn't say it is wrong to have a Servent or as the proper term Maid can be used, but it is wrong and against ones Dharm to see someone who serves you night and day suffering and not do anything to help ease their pain.

    If it is that obvious to you took notice of her drug abuse, then it is your right, not only as an employer but as a fellow human being that you extend a helping hand and i don't mean in giving her more monthly allowance. Rather find the root cause of her problem, because if it is a serious addiction, this will only cause her to get more addicted because she has more money flowing in. So be wise in where and how you choose to help her.

    Even further resoning to help her is that if she cooks food for your family then take notice the state of her mind as she makes this food. There is a reason why Langar in the house of the Guru tastes so good. Direct her mind towards meditation, yoga, etc etc. You are in a position to change someone's life......God too is within her even if she serves your family.

  15. I think almost all of us have one or two family member which cause our hair to turn grey sooner rather than later.

    We must remember that each of us have our own karma to work out in this life...no matter how we may feel about the choice of other and no matter how close they may be to us. We all came into this world to work out the results of our past actions. While observer the behavior of other, keep in mind that you also have your journey to make and that you too have work to do on yourself in this gift of a life. If our heart reach out to someone to understand their pain and suffering then by all means be the messenger of compassion and love, but let it not be at the cost of losing your own path by involving yourself so much into their life that you now begin to do their Simran instead of Waheguru.

    Give advice when it is needed, be ready to give a helping hand, do Ardaas for someone, remember them when your heart is filled with love, project this love towards them through your heartfelt prayers, but don't lose yourself. Help yourself first before you help others, fill yourself up first with enough presence of that love that without words others are healed from their wounds. Light yourself up first, only then can others be lit from you.

  16. The more we run towards something the further it gets away from us. Your whole energy seems to directed towards a desire which you are most likely not ready for. Life is like the flow of a river, it has its calm parts and it has its rough waters, these calm and rough parts are the results of our past actions manifesting themselves.

    Without the patience to ride out these blockages as you call them, you will only put your mind in a very stressful state which will begin to affect your health soon enough. What you want and what life choose to give you at this moment are two different things, no matter how prepared you might feel you are for this to happen.

    Consider the possibility that you won't marry anyone in this lifetime. What is the outlook on your life? If this outlook looks bleak, then it is not so much about your not finding a guy to marry rather it is your mind's inability to see beyond the socially structured bonding of 2 people. Accept yourself as an individual who seeks to discover her inner security and sanctity first. Strive to find this space in yourself, direct your energy to be dependent on no one nor seeking someone else to fill this space in you.

    Remember this, it is not the fullfilment of the desire that will give us happiness, it is the lack of desire itself!

    Dhan Guru...

  17. Moderators how can you allow some uneducated neanderthals rubbish another faith and civilisation that is 10,000 years old.. what does gskapoor and sherlsurj know about culture? Its easy talking crap about someones culture on the internet but you guys try saying that to my face... nuff said

    i was just pointing out that they did that to my niece and i didnt like it...im not saying its a joke...just wanted a title to capture the attention of u guyz

    if thats the way they want to attain god im not stopping them.

    To have such vision and bhaavna which allowed them to see a Devi in a child girl is not something you should mock my friend. It is the vision of Bhagat Dhanna Jat who saw the lord in a rock and compelled the creator to take literal form to satisfy the love of his Bhagat.

  18. Atleast they have such respect for a female to touch their feet where as people punjab murder their unborn daughters.

    you are one of the three persons on internet who changed my way of thinking past couple of years and hence my life thank yaa !!

    we inspire each other veer ji! Let us thank he who planted the seed of this inspiration in us all, not individuals for we may succumb to our ego and fall short of her Grace.

  19. Why do you want Happiness? Are you tired of the Night in your life, why do you wish for Daylight to come? Even this darkness in your life is creating something within you, are aware of this? Don't extinguish this prematurely. Let it work itself, but remain conscious and hold on to the rope of his Name.

    Why is it that when you were happy, that you never asked for sadness? Yet now that you are not well, you seek happiness?

  20. Greetings

    I am an 18 yr old Sikh. I have not been a religious person; however, I have attended Gurdwara, Sikh camps, etc, because of my parents desire. I have come to a point in my life where I realize the importance of following Guru's guidance.

    I do have one question about sins. I have committed sins in my past and am trying now to stop and control myself and my behavior. I know in Christianity, one prays for forgiveness. Is this the same in Sikhism?

    Thank you for responding to my question,

    Amarpreet Singh

    You need not worry about what you have done, instead focus on what you are going to do. What is done is done, you cannot go back in time and correct your mistakes, but you can change the actions you are going to take.

    Be more aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it, have patience before you take an action. Ask yourself is this actions going to benefit me Spiritually? Is this going to bring me closer to God or take me further away from God? Be conscious of your actions and thoughts. Instill your mind with Love of God, if you don't feel it in your heart then beg for it. Be humble in your dealings with others even those who you dislike.

    If possible, ask for forgiveness from those you might have hurt, intentionally or unintentionally and most importantly forgive yourself. Guilt has its purpose to motivate you, but when this guilt becomes a hindrance in your progress, it has overstayed its welcome.

    Learn the power of discrimination between right and wrong and use it wisely. Understand what actions will lead you towards Humility and Love of God.

    We all stumble on the rocks in our path, they are there to show us the importance of the path we choose to travel, without these rocks we would have learned nothing in our lives. Each rock we trip over has a lesson to teach us, instead of cursing or feeling guilty, be thankful towards the rock for giving you an invaluable lesson in this life and continue to move forward.

  21. You are given knowledge to cure ignorance - the disease of the mind. But knowledge has to change into knowing and into experience - only then is its purpose served. But when the listener is engrossed in words, then knowledge becomes a bondage and a burden.

    Listening to the able master is an effective means of killing the mind - provided your surrender is earnest. You must use the all-powerful words of the master only for strengthening your mind. This is the reason why all mystics and teachers, present in different times, have to devise new methods to handle your mind. Every master is a master designer who creates various devices to kill your mind. These methods will be different from the earlier methods. The mind is very cunning; it begins to reject old methods because it is prepared for its shocks and strategies. So the master has to design and devise new methods - this is how various religions have evolved.

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    Sitting close to your guru and listening to him could become a medium; but you use this medium in such a way that it does not remain a medium any more. It is not the guru you love but the image of him that you create in your mind. You surrender to that image and not to the guru! If you are not able to fully master the method, then just listening will not dissolve the myths and confusions. Darkness is not dispelled and therefore you are not able to comprehend the truth. The truth remains beyond the perception and understanding of those who are delusional and full of desires.

  22. “Listening to the able master is an effective means of killing the mind - provided your surrender is earnest.

    Light and darkness can never exist together.

    Where there is light, there can be no darkness - and where there is darkness,

    there can be no light and your mind is darkness personfied! that is why it is said you must free yourself of your mind.”

    ~unknown

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