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she said yes

exactly that was my point! wish i had said that from the begining lol i mean her mum will not be bothered either way i think if i got her anything or not but i would hate for there to be a sikh tradition which i was not aware of and if i found out later that i should have gotten her something or done something then i would have felt guilty that i did not consider her beliefs before asking for her daughters hand in marrage...if you understand me, my sole aim here is to be respectful to everyone concerned and make sure that i do not offend anyone in the process sounds simple enough...lol i can understand your views on this, i suppose it all depends on the individual, my girlfriend is quite educated about relegions and knows proabibly as much as her mum about being a sikh, but she also knows a lot about christianity buddism and has one or two beliefs of her own, i suppose i am saying she has done enough reading and spoken to enough people to make her own mind up about her own beliefs, she believe's in god and believes in an afterlife and is a very compasionate and loving and caring person, she is a wonderful human being and someone who i adore with all my heart and soul. her being a sikh or any relegion would not change who she is or how much i care about her. and i suppose at the end of the day we are all individuals and we all have the right to choose or own belief's and rightly or wrongly no one can change that. and in the same breath we all have our own views and opinions which we are entitled to which is why i respect what you have said as your own view and your own opinion and even though i dont agree with it i will not deny anyone there own opinion a very valid point, thank you. and i would like to thank the kind messages i have had as well in pm, you have all been very kind and i have been more then a little taken back by the kind words and good will sent my way, Thank you all very much lets just hope she says yes!!

Sorry maybe i should have been more clear. start from the top my girlfriends mum was born in india and moved with her family to england when she was 4, when she was 19 she fell in love with an english man and had to leave her family for him, which she did and has not spoken to them since then, she cut all ties so to speak. my girlfriend is half indian and half english and we would be having an english wedding in a church which is what she want's i suppose i am just worried about her mum, i just wanted to make sure i respected her faith

i am planning to pop the question in march on a romantic weekend get away so it gives me enough time from now to get a ring ajusted and paid for before then, spent ages picking the right one..hope she likes it, lol i already know her parents very well, i see them everyday and they approve of me..well i hope they do, lol i just was really makeing sure that if there was some kind of gift or ritual or custom that i would be aware of it and make sure that i did it first well being loving caring and compassionate are all boxes i have ticked i tell her every day how much she means to me and how much i care about her and i look after her like she was a princess her dad does not practice it spirituality but i think her mum does, she has pictures of guru nanak(is that how you spell it?) and loads of other stuff like that in her bedroom and certanly knows a great deal about being a sikh, i was just making sure that there was not some cultural gift that i present to the parents of the bride to be, just as i sign of my respect thanks for the advice though and if anyone else can think of anything then please feel free to let me know

I realize I may come off as a bit of an fool here so I will lay my cards down on the table right away to avoid confusion. I know nothing about being a Sikh, I know very little about the religion and I will hold my hands up and say I really am a fish out of water with everything here but I would appreciate some advice on a dilemma I have and I did not know who else to ask really. my girlfriends parents are Sikh, they are not what I would call devoted by any means but they are Sikh none the less, my girlfriend and I have been together a while now and I want to pop the question to her, I plan to ask her dad for her hand in marriage which is my own custom, but I was curious if there was anything else I have to do? i.e. give there mum and dad a gift or some kind of formality before asking her? I have done a little reading up on it but everything seems so formal and family orientated but they are not really like that, her mother has severed all ties with her own family and her father is English but has joined the Sikh religion. so is there some kind of gift I give to her mother or something? I just don't want to ruin it by being culturally ignorant Thank you