exactly that was my point! wish i had said that from the begining lol i mean her mum will not be bothered either way i think if i got her anything or not but i would hate for there to be a sikh tradition which i was not aware of and if i found out later that i should have gotten her something or done something then i would have felt guilty that i did not consider her beliefs before asking for her daughters hand in marrage...if you understand me, my sole aim here is to be respectful to everyone concerned and make sure that i do not offend anyone in the process sounds simple enough...lol
i can understand your views on this, i suppose it all depends on the individual, my girlfriend is quite educated about relegions and knows proabibly as much as her mum about being a sikh, but she also knows a lot about christianity buddism and has one or two beliefs of her own, i suppose i am saying she has done enough reading and spoken to enough people to make her own mind up about her own beliefs, she believe's in god and believes in an afterlife and is a very compasionate and loving and caring person, she is a wonderful human being and someone who i adore with all my heart and soul. her being a sikh or any relegion would not change who she is or how much i care about her.
and i suppose at the end of the day we are all individuals and we all have the right to choose or own belief's and rightly or wrongly no one can change that. and in the same breath we all have our own views and opinions which we are entitled to which is why i respect what you have said as your own view and your own opinion and even though i dont agree with it i will not deny anyone there own opinion
a very valid point, thank you.
and i would like to thank the kind messages i have had as well in pm, you have all been very kind and i have been more then a little taken back by the kind words and good will sent my way, Thank you all very much
lets just hope she says yes!!