I know the Rooprai family and can I say that the girl was fully educated about Sikhi. It was her stubborness and a want for 'freedom' that led her to marry a Hindu. Her parents were fairly happy for her to go out with friends to the cinema, restaurants etc, but noway would she have been allowed to go clubbing or to have a boyfriend.
As Sikh parents, they recited their paath everyday, especially her father. He also visits the Gurdwara every morning to take part in doing the Seva of Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Sandip Rooprai and his siblings including his sister all learnt Kirtan and performed shabads at the Gurdwara, even participating in Akhand Paths to do raul.. (sorry for the spelling mistakes).
All the family participated in doing paath, be it Japji Sahib, Sukhmani Sahib, Kirtan Sohila and even Simran.
The girl's parents did sit down with the boy and girl and they told them they are not happy with them two getting married, but they ran off and got married anyway. All you people who think they did nothing, they did A LOT!! When the two refused, then the girls parents agreed to marry them in India, as the boys parents live there and still, they did what they wanted and got married in a Hindu ceremony.
The Muslim girl was very welcome at the Rooprai house and she was treated like a daughter. How would any of you feel if your daughter's friend accompany's your daughter to get married behind your back?? Even AFTER you have agreed to accept their marriage if they do it on your terms.
Same for the Hindu Priest. He knew about the parents wishes. They wanted the couple to get married in India and they told the Priest, as he was the friend of the girl's 'husband'.
How much hurt is a family supposed to put up with? You try your best to bring up a family with the right sanskar and that is the best you can do.
I do not condone Sandip Rooprai's actions, but he has a very large family and think of how hurt they would have been. Grandparents, Massiyan, Thiye, chachiyan etc. He decided to rid his family of this pain and hurt. He took it in to his own hands to hurt the people that had hurt his family, not to kill them. Can i also state that no-one was killed.
It was NOT a honour killing. It was a young boy, a normal young guy that wanted to relieve his family of this pain. He did not think it through, as he has never taken to being violent before, he is just an innocent naive young boy.