Markgateshead

I might be wrong, but I honestly think, Sikhs should have their own banks. If all Sikhs deposited their money to their own banks, there is a huge chance they will become filthy rich. Invest and lend interest free money to only Sikhs, invest and lend. I know many Caucasians borrowing money from Islamic banks and converting their religion.

On 9/24/2020 at 1:15 PM, Guest Waheguru's Child said:

Hello,

I am writing regarding Seniors Sikhs who are getting married at the age of 60+.It is about my father who is talking with someone from a long time.MY mother passed away few years back and my father started talking to some lady within few weeks after my mom's death.I was so close to my mom so it was a big challenge for me to accept him talking and dating someone at this age.He is 60+ and is seeing this person from last few years and I was just hoping he will stop this all. Some of our relatives know this lady and they didn't have very good reviews about her.

I mean I understand that my father feels lonely and needs some companionship but he doesn't need to marry someone. I explained him all this and he told me that the lady is asking him to marry her or just end this relation now. She is kind of into fame and show off and my father is not that smart to see it. That woman was sending pics to my dad and calling every day and that time her husband was alive. Unfortunately her husband passed away after a year or something. Her children know about her relation and they are okay with it. My father is not seeing the reality. I don't live with my father and do not really expect anything from him like financial support or his money but I am just worried that he might end up with nothing.

I asked him nicely that maybe we can find someone he can talk to as a friend but he was so mad and did some emotional drama that he is sad and I don't care about his happiness.He wants her and that is it. I felt like I was dealing with some teenager not a senior. I am not that narrow minded person but it is still so hard  to accept this all. I have tried my best to show him the right version of life but he sees nothing other than her life with that new partner. 

I am exhausted now. Sometimes I tell myself to let it be but then again many things start bothering me. My father was not that polite with my mother and she had hard time. She requested him many times to have a better lifestyle , quit alcohol, spend time with us but he was never interested. Now I really feel he never respected her before and even after her death. I know I am so attached to this life and relations... It is all Maya..

Sangat ji I need your feedback on this. Please let me know what Should I do in this case. Please let me know if I should fight further with this or surrender to Waheguru's will. Is this really Waheguru's Hukam? It will be hard for me to talk to him if he goes ahead and marry her. How should I react to this entire scenario?

 

 

 

Even though others think your question is a “fake” question, nevertheless, it’s an important and extremely valid question. If your father is going to marry a woman in her thirties or childbearing age, make sure that you and your siblings sit down together and discuss your inheritance from your parents’ side. Make sure that he has already made a Will stipulating who is going to inherit your parental home, his savings in the bank and other important items of considerable value, sentimental or pecuniary. Because if you people haven’t done this yet, you will lose your entire inheritance, once his second wife has 3  - 4 children with him. In fact, this happened to my best friend, when we were all at university and living in the halls! I hope he will come forward and confirm what I am saying. He is on this forum too,  just like many other friends of mine at university.  Be diplomatic as well as shrewd about it all just like the Chinese

After all, your poor mother didn’t work so hard when she was alive, to have everything passed on to his new wife and children; basically a new family!!! Take care of your financial side quickly!

3 hours ago, parmjit10 said:

Estoy aprendiendo inglés lentamente. please i buy spanish food from spanish shop no problem. please my landlady sikh so she go to indien to  buy tomatoes some vegetables but now she go to india for business when she stay there 3 weeks so she not help me post here as my englsih no so good. i write more when she come back after india. my englsih no so good so I do'nt understand difficult post. lo siento por favor but i write again soon. i try again i sikh for 2 years when i live with in this house where my landlady teaches sikh to me. i learn sikh from her she good lady. she says i go to heaven if i pray so also go to sikh church to say pray also eat food. very nice.

You are lucky to have someone to help you type your posts. So, we will hear from you after three weeks? Once your English improves you will start to undersand difficult posts, don't worry too  much about it.  It will come. I understand your posts perfectly well. Good and hasta la vista.............friend.

11 hours ago, CHaamCHrick said:

Bhagauti does not represent an ordinary sword, it represents the Supreme Creator in the Sikh ardrass.  As far as I understand, when doing ardass we first remember the powerful mighty Waheguru in the form of bhagauti before we remember our 10 Gurus. Don't confuse Bhagauti/sword with any ordinary sword people might use to inflict injuries or harm on other people when they seeking revenge or imposing their religious beliefs on them. Sometimes, people throw questions at me asking me why we worship weapons? To this I simply say we don't. We worship waheguru, the Supreme Creator.  I hope it makes better sense to you now what we mean by *Bhagauti* at least, this is what I understand.  The term *Bhagauti*  does not appear in the RT but time does.

I asked because you forgot to mention the Sikh Ardass. I know it is taken from Vaar Sri Bhagauti ki, so I was just wondering why you didn't make any refereneces to the daily Sikh Ardass. Good, now you have done that.

7 hours ago, parmjit10 said:

I also like shaststars if it be sword only. but I not hurt no bodies because it not so nice to hurt many. so also a sikh i go to sikh temple along so my landlady who so nice giving me plenty food to eat. she good sikhs. you good sikhs two i know. this poor youtube at top old man have no clothes but not indien  two no?

no puedo esperar para que usted pueda dominar el idioma inglés.

Parmjit10, can you buy Spanish food easily where you are now at your local grocery store? I can never find anything Spanish when I go back home.  How long have you been following Sikhism?

Bhagauti is a mighty sword with powers to free us from bondage? How?  

I read the theory but I can't recall coming across this word ever.

Happy Vasaaki everyone!

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9 hours ago, singhnihk said:

I totally agree.  Of course, Sikhism believes in ahimsa. Look at the Khalsa precepts.  In my view, they  fully endorse principles that define the concept of ahimsa.  They clearly state not to hurt or injure others unless they present a threat to you first.  In other words, Sikhs don't go looking for trouble until trouble beckons them first.  

I consulted the following links.  Do visit them if you need more information. I will recommend them to my friends too. They are truly indispensable.

https://www.thesikhencyclopedia.com/philosophy/ahimsa

http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Origin_of_non_violence

 

They are very good links to go to for new Sikhs.  Can you recommend more links please? The information is quite straightforward and easily understood.

Start expressing your concerns now to the British government before they start implementing such an unfair legislation with consequences for Sikhs as well. Sikhs are not responsible for all the chaos in this world. Why should they suffer when they have done nothing wrong?

Sikhs really need to teach the world and not just tell it about their faith and its requirements.

Because of lack of unity among the Sikhs compliance is necessary. They rather comply to the most insulting treatment given to them than unite. I allude to a fairly recent case of the two Sikh sisters at a Catholic school. The girls were forced to remove their turbans by the headmistress, in fact, her assistant or someone physically started to unwind one of the girl's turban even though she told her it was a mark of disrespect for her to do so. They were told to wear a head covering that resembled somewhat to what Muslim girls wear. My point is this, even if the case has been resolved with school apologising , where is the guarantee this will not happen in the future? Do you know what was the outcome of this case? Why have Sikhs not been able to impress upon non Sikhs the importance of turbans and the other 5 kakaars regardless of race, gender or nationality?

I agree. I recently got divorced from my Sikh wife, she was more western than I am, the convert!!! I am not sure about the outcome of this case but I have noticed there are not that many Sikh girls that wear the turban. I was told by many Sikhs that they don't encourage their daughters to wear them or even become baptised if they can help it. I was under the impression that baptism was mandatory for both boys and girls! It is very confusing for the outsiders to understand Sikhism when they see only some Sikhs wearing turbans whilst the others with short hair. This becomes even more confusing as far as women or girls are concerned. They all claim to be Sikhs but why do they all follow different teachings or way of life?

Start expressing your concerns now to the British government before they start implementing such an unfair legislation with consequences for Sikhs as well. Sikhs are not responsible for all the chaos in this world. Why should they suffer when they have done nothing wrong?

This will require unity, without it Sikhs will have to comply.

Convincing them is going to be as hard as trying to convince them that Amrit/Sikh Baptism is to their advantage!!!!