Wicked Warrior

1 hour ago, Redoptics said:

Point is me and you could eat train the same but 

Point is me and you could follow same diet, training regime,  but because of dna I'll be over weight, compared to you.

I would have to do more to be on same level.

My point is that the dietary needs are individual. It’s more than just “DNA”.

2 hours ago, Redoptics said:

You do know some people cant help it due to dna

You can override your programming. Many people who are overweight need to eat less, move more, or do both. 

43 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

There are a lot of people who are like this for instance my mum side are all heavy my dad side are not they all eat the same Indian food but because if their DNA mum side gets fat my dads side doesn't. It's just how it is.

That will be down to things like metabolism and caloric intake. In some parts of the world, food is in plentiful abundance. Combine this with a change in levels of physical activity and you have a recipe for obesity. I agree that some of it will be predetermined - if your mother had a particular lifestyle and diet whilst pregnant with you, it will activate some genes and deactivate others to set you up for the same lifestyle. But this can then be compensated by diet. 

I’m going to use me as an example. In the UK, the average adult man should consume 2500 kilocalories a day. Due to a combination of my build and deskjob, if I were to eat that many calories a day, I would put on weight. My “maintenance” used to be 1500-1700 kilocalories a day. Since going to the gym regularly, it’s now 2000. If I eat more than this, I will gain fat. 

7 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

You do know some people cant help it due to dna

There might be some genetic disorders eg prader-willi where the man has an inability to feel satiated. But they will be far and few between.

Mostly conditioning. Remember that once upon a time, in some cultures, being an overweight man highlighted your wealth because you were able to afford large meals, whereas being lean and muscular meant you were a manual labourer with little income. 

But as Sikhs, we should avoid gluttony. Being overweight can affect your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. 

Some people will respond positively when enlightened about Sikhi. Others choose to remain ignorant eg “all brown people are muslims and therefore bad”. Not everyone will open their minds. 

I have, in the past, taken a similar approach and explained that the Abrahamic religions are linked, whereas Sikhism is distinct. 

Fasting for health or weight issues is fine. Fasting in order to believe it provides spiritual benefit is pointless. 

Besides, if she doesn’t fast prior to surgery, there is a risk the stomach contents will end up in the throat and cause your bibiji to choke and possibly die. Remember she is likely being anaesthetised and would be unable to protect her own airway. 

You know how you have that inner voice? The one we all use when thinking about things? That’s the voice we should use when doing paath or nitnem. It doesn’t matter if your tongue moves or not but it matters whether you listen. If you can listen to the bani and the recorded voice is focussed within as much as your own inner voice, then it’s fine to listen. If instead you’re watching youtube or on instagram or whatever whilst bani is being recited and you’re not listening then you may as well not bother. 

I remember being once told that Guru Ji is inside of us and that when we do nitnem, we should be reciting as though we are reciting it to Guru Ji inside us. With perfect pronunciation and complete focus. Only then does it “count”. 

Why would you eat chips cooked in the same oil as fish? I normally ask the chippy. They’ve got no reason to lie. There are a few places who use a separate fryer for chips. 

As someone who used to eat fish, chips cooked in the same oil taste different. Chips cooked in a separate fryer taste better. 

My understanding has been this: some sins from previous lives may be repaid in this life; some sins in this life are repaid in this life; some sins in this life are repaid in future lives. 

Doing seva and simran burns away these sins or lessens their impact. Much like the story of the two Sikhs, one who found a gold coin and the other injured by a thorn. 

2 hours ago, Redoptics said:

The guys gay he doesn't give a ish about his wife

I thought it was the same guy. 

2 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

In your professional experience, is a pregnant female having a fever an unusual occurrence? 

Unexplained fever in anyone is unusual. In pregnancy, there are additional causes. As I said, I’d want to know why there is an underlying fever. 

4 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Expect gay and transgender Anand Karaj ceremonies in the near future.

I completely expect it to happen. Either through “acceptance” of such things, or due to legislation ie illegal to discriminate even in religious places. 

I wonder if Sikhi will even exist in the future or whether it will be morphed into something entirely unrecognisable or absorbed into something else. 

What’s triggered this change? 

I’ve never drunk alcohol but I’ve seen others in the wider family start drinking more heavily after a turning point - ill health, depression, redundancy or work issues, marital issues, financial problems etc. There’s always something that causes the change. 

If you address the underlying cause, the drinking will stop. 

I think the nature of the Earth means there will be borders. The Earth is round and there are land masses separated by water. These are physical boundaries. Then you have areas of desert and of ice. The people who live in these areas would be very different, even if they were Sikhs and practised Sikhi. 

What you grow in one area would not be suitable for growing in another area. Even with worldwide transport, food would be largely based on local produce. 

The climates are different so the buildings would be different. Even the Gurdwara designs would be different. 

Look at how different the English language is spoken across the globe. Accents develop and change. The way Punjabi is spoken would be subtly different across the globe. 

What I’m trying to say is that even if the whole world were Sikhs practicing Sikhi, there would be differences in local culture and customs. This in itself might then give rise to factions or groups.

Further, how would you govern or manage such massive populations even at the continental level? You’d need to divide and subdivide into manageable chunks. Now you have borders. 

Add that to differences in culture and you’d have populations that could be distinguished as separate groups or nations. 

First things first, so speak to someone - your physician/GP for example. 

Things I suggest to my patients:

1. Sleep and sleep hygiene. Duration is not as important as quality of sleep. Read up on sleep hygiene and reduce modern tech use (smartphone, tablet, laptops, desktops etc)

2. Eat healthy meals 3x/day. Avoid any caffeine or fizzy drinks. Caffeine can drive the adrenaline and worsen the fight-or-flight response. Skipping meals also makes this worse

3. Exercise daily. Some people find it “burns off” the adrenaline. You’re doing the “flight” bit of the “flight-or-fight” response

4. Get out of the house and get an hour of daylight each day. Even if it’s cloudy, overcast or raining. 

5. Mindfulness, meditation, simran. Some sort of calming activity daily. Obviously simran has spiritual benefits. 

6. There are apps and websites that offer self-guided CBT to help with dealing with anxiety (and depression). TED talks can be useful too. Sometimes it’s easier to speak to someone in person and work through what’s driving your anxiety and panic attacks

7. Medication has its place but I tend to avoid until you’ve at least started doing the above. 

Attention seeking is part of the ego. "I want everyone to pay attention to me", "hey look at me", "me, me, me". It is all ego. If you can control your ego, the attention seeking will subside.

Paath, kirtan, seva and simran. These tools will help eradicate the ego.

I remember seeing Bhai Harjinder Singh Lallie in Southampton about ten years ago. It was the first time I was introduced to it. After that, I never saw the taus or dilruba in use until a couple of years ago when I saw the taus being played around the bhog of an akhand paath. It wasn't kirtan, just someone playing the taus as a solo musical instrument.

The precise technique is not there in didactic terms but it is there in metaphorical terms. There’s a great thread on sikhawareness forum about it which I’m working my way through. 

He does not earn honestly as taught by Guru Nanak Maharaj. What use then is his Amrit? 

The sad thing is these instruments created by Guru Ji have largely been forgotten about. They are not used regularly in kirtan in most Gurdwaras in the UK. The harmonium has replaced them. Yes it is easy to learn and to do kirtan with but it’s almost like forgetting what Guru ji did. 

That’s utter pants. I can’t believe your parents are holding you back. Parents should be guiding their children in Sikhi, and if they are failing in this, they are doing a disservice to Guru Ji. 

Do your own Ardaas. Do it daily, morning and night. If you have prem for Maharaj Ji, He will hear your prayer no matter where you are. 

On 7/3/2017 at 4:47 AM, Guest GuptAmritdhariGirl said:

he is a very knowledgeable Sikh who has amazing spiritual knowledge

Then why was he not aware of kaam and its danger? Why did he not stop himself or yourself from doing the wrong thing? 

Remember that the only true love is for the Lord and all other love is false. 

Indians are generally short. Yes, you have some tall Indians but they are the exception. In general, men are stronger than women (due to more muscle mass). That doesn’t mean all men are stronger than all women. The difference is small but measurable. 

The Dutch are the tallest supposedly due to their calcium intake. They eat something like 25% more dairy than the typical UK, American or German. 

Who says black people are tallest? All of the black men and women I’ve trained or worked with have been of average or just above average height. Saying “black” is no different to saying “whites”. It is too broad a label. 

Diet and lifestyle play a huge part in determining height. The average for a man in the UK in 1870 was 5’5”. It’s now 5’10”. The same will be true for Indo-Pak population who have migrated to the UK - better diet and lifestyle will mean better health. 

Give everyone a glimpse of their past lives, a summary of their actions in this life, what lies in wait for them after death, and a short experience of what it would be like to experience the ultimate reality. 

Edit: remember that everything that happens in this life occurs only with the permission of Waheguru. 

4 hours ago, NonExistant said:

I wanna beat up ghosts

To defeat ghosts, you must first become a ghost.