Wicked Warrior

I remember when i was young that the “thing” to do when a child reached their first birthday was to celebrate at home and all the men would get drunk. Compared to this, having a sukhmani sahib path, sangat, langar and cake cutting seems a few steps forward. 

Eggless cakes have been around a while but there’s a few like Cake Box that have popped up locally in recent years. 

On 4/6/2019 at 2:01 PM, NonExistant said:

Like isnt that against some kind of gurdwara maryada to have a birthday of some random person in a gurdwara

Which maryada?

Puzzled is correct that birthdays were not celebrated or even recorded. My dadi ji was from the pind and back then no one recorded anything. She does not know when she was born. Her age is 89 based on her passport but even that is an estimate and she could be older or younger. 

It was your first birthday. Your parents wanted to celebrate this moment with Guru Ji. What’s wrong with that?

For the tenth gate to open. For liberation. 

Emotions come from the mind. Sometimes we’re happy. Sometimes we’re sad. Up and down like a rollercoaster. Unstable. Unsettled.

The truly perfect Sikh is free from the emotional tanglements of the mind. They are lost within the blissfulness of the Akaal Purakh. Neither happy, nor sad. Neither angry, not depressed. 

In the end, you will be the one living with your spouse. You will need to get along with them, to have similar ideals and goals in life, to live in harmony.

Who asks you to shave? Your family - ignore them. Potential rishtas - avoid them. You want somebody who accepts you for as you are. The only “change” should be the change of being better in your Sikhi, to be closer to the Guru. 

Time is a factor. Some find rishtas quickly. For others, it can take longer to find the right person. That can add pressure because suddenly you’re 30 and still not found anyone. Then you get the added pressure of having children whilst you’re relatively young and healthy. 

Let Maharaj Ji guide you. 

Meh. I was in my midteens when I realised the futility of birthday celebrations. It’s more important to commemorate how many years of naam simran and seva has been done. But even then, these things should be kept gupt. 

An apology does not make everything right. There was the desecration of an historical structure, and now it will need to be rebuilt. 

I’d expect muslims and hindus to attempt to destroy Sikh history. Not Sikhs themselves. 

Really sad that they’re doing this. What is the purpose of it all? Is it all funded by donations or are people being paid to demolish and rebuild, just so money can be moved around?

I agree with comments about renovation but you need people who are specialists in this area. 

Premarital sex, irrespective of whether you intend to get married or not, is still premarital sex. This is not condoned in Sikhi. 

There have been countless threads on here about people who have been in relationships, had sex, and then not ending up getting married for whatever reason. Maybe the parents didn’t agree. Maybe it just didn’t work out. 

How would you feel about it all if it turned out you two didn’t get married?

I do not think it is awful that you treat the Bible that way. But imagine how Christians would treat it if it had been written entirely by Jesus and he told his followers to treat it as though it were him. 

Not quite an accurate analogy since lots of stuff happened around the time of the crucifixion and onwards which Jesus would not have been able to write. 

You were born and lived without her. You can continue to live without her. Lust controls your mind. 

It is better to be free. 

No idea about now, but a good few years ago, it was in vogue for women to get laser treatment before taking amrit ie they did it specifically so they didn’t have to worry about facial hair once they’d taken amrit. 

Don’t forget your embarrassing mistakes. Remember them. Use them as examples of what not to do. Learn about them and what you would do if the same situation occurred again. 

We are human. We make mistakes. Sometimes incredibly stupid ones that seem blindingly obvious in retrospect. 

It’s how you become a better human. 

4 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

I know a Singh who threw away an ostensibly "perfect" marriage with a fantastic young Singhni because she had the temerity to give birth to 2 baby girls. His mother instigated a campaign of propaganda and division between her son and the wife, which eventually led to him throwing his wife and his baby daughters out of the house. 

And yet the sad truth is that it is the man who determines the sex of the baby. The Y-chromosome is found only in men. 

This behaviour is prevalent in muslim culture - if the wife gives birth to a girl, the wife is blamed, emotionally and verbally abused (and often beaten). 

If Sikhs are doing the same thing, this behaviour needs to be rooted out. Gurdwaras should be perfect for this but I’m guessing in this day and age, Zee TV and the likes would be better!

I’ve known a couple of divorced Sikh women who remarried with Sikh husbands. It’s harder but not impossible. Yes, as you get older it’s harder - most people in their late 30s and early 40s will have settled into marriage and kids so there’s going to be a much smaller pool of potential matches. 

Also completely agree that the older you are when you get married, the more “set in your ways” you become, which is probably the conflicts arise within families. 

Ignoring all of the arguments, I love the historic photos. I’d love to know their stories, and what life was like for them at that time. 

Some of their bachans are on youtube. I think Sabh13 website has bachans and happenings of Baba Isher Singh Rara Sahib. 

When you read the sakhis of such mahapurakhs, it’s amazing how much prem they had for Guru Ji and for Akaal Purakh. They would endure harsh winters, allow their clothes to be come tattered but did not stop their naam simran. 

We used to visit Nanaksar in Coventry when Baba Mihan Singh Ji were there. Sadly I was too young to understand what was going on and too stupid to listen. 

6 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

How can you say a man that looks and dresses like this is legendary and did the best performances for you. As a Sikh you should have some sence not to big up someone like this. Yet you are doing it on a Sikh forum. You are obviously a brainwashed youth that has fallen for the media hype about him. Time to wake up AND smell the coffee instead of still idolizing this foool. What did you love about him. his makeuped face of wearing lip stick, his skirt, his girly voice. his hair. you plonker.

 

Not sure if you’re an <banned word filter activated> or a troll. 

You claim Elvis was better but if you were really into Sikhi, you’d think the same thing as I do: all music is crap. Be it pop, rock, hip hop, country, synthwave or whatever. It all sounds like $hit to me these days. Only bani and shabad kirtan sound beautiful to my ears. 

We all have a path to follow. I’ll openly admit to listening to music as I grew up. Most people do. I went through mainstream pop, then went through hip hop and R’n’B. Even listened to classical music on a regular basis. It all has a negative effect on the mind. 

21 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

LOL

His music is and always has been sh1t. He is only admired because the white media like to big him up for no reason as he became white. 

Elvis was a 100 times better then this fool. Jackaon was nothing but a phoney and I pity people like you who think his music was amazing. 

I wonder if he abused you. How would you like if other people said he was amazing? You should be ashamed of yourself. 

 

MJ’s music was legendary. His Thriller album was the best selling album in the world. 66 million records worldwide. You think MJ went around touching 66 million people?

You quote Elvis as being better. Elvis was 24 when he started dating Priscilla who was 14. Was he really any better?

Knowing what sins you have committed can be helpful in understanding your path and the obstacles in front of you. But I imagine it’d be overwhelming to the point of paralysing thought. 

Even so, I wish we’d know what kind of lives we have lived to understand the journey of the human soul better. It might help focus ourselves on Guru ji’s path. 

As a kid, I listened to Michael Jackson and loved his music. But things changed when in 2004, he was charged (although found not guilty). Stuff about him having kids sleep over? That sounded dodgy. 

The parents kept quiet because they were given money. They were pimping out their kids!

MJ’s music has been amazing. But essentially it’s tainted. There will be hardcore fans who will lisen to his music forever but it will die out. 

On 2/24/2019 at 1:19 PM, MisterrSingh said:

I can't remember the specifics any more, but I recall a Christian prophecy stating the anti-Christ will be a blue-turbanned figure leading his armies across the world. Sounds familiar, lol. I wonder if we're on the wrong side...

That’s from Nostradamus who is less than accurate with his predictions. 

I think OP means this:

it looks like kenyan style but fewer larrhs  

5 minutes ago, Redoptics said:

Keeping that in the back of the mind is not dealing with it, you are suppressing your fear of death.

I do not think this would be the correct way of dealing with it.

Not supressing it but bani tells us to remember death at all times. To keep it at the forefront means you can’t do anything else. Being aware of it, in the back of the mind, whilst doing your daily activities should mean one is aware of the fear of death but allows one to function. I’m not spiritually advanced and this is where guidance from a gursikh would be helpful.